Why Do Most Men Just Want Sex ?

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    Apr 08, 2013 5:21 AM GMT
    Most of the Gay Sites , People that message me mostly want sex it can get annoying , most of the time I am alone and would like some Friends and a Relationship can anyone relate to what I'm trying to say ?
  • Eli_jah

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    Apr 08, 2013 5:44 AM GMT
    Cause they buy into the stereotype of the sex crazed gay man? Because they still have unresolved issues of shame attached to being gay? Because they have no idea how to love or even consider (i.e. date) another person because they spent their formative years alone or in sham relationships and don't see the point of them?

    All I know is that the hookup culture is not affirming at all. It is actually self destructive. But what can you say about a "community" based in bars and drug fueled clubs?
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    Apr 08, 2013 6:10 AM GMT
    yeah I find it sad
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    Apr 08, 2013 7:37 AM GMT
    Cause that would require effort. Effort is unsatisfying.

    Have you looked at a lot of friendships people have. Especially friendships gay guys have.

    Fucking you requires effort but has immediate gratification and no required input after its all over.
  • Apparition

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    Apr 08, 2013 5:11 PM GMT
    anthony2394 saidMost of the Gay Sites , People that message me mostly want sex it can get annoying , most of the time I am alone and would like some Friends and a Relationship can anyone relate to what I'm trying to say ?


    try putting that on your profile. I do/did. It worked.
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    Apr 08, 2013 6:22 PM GMT
    To answer your title question: Because we're men and we have our hormones to blame for it.
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    Apr 08, 2013 7:06 PM GMT
    anthony2394 saidyeah I find it sad


    It is sad. For me anyways
    It sucks feeling like you don't "fit in" or belong.
    But I hate feeling like I should conform or become someone I'm not even more, so I just deal with it lol
    meh
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    Apr 09, 2013 12:28 AM GMT
    No. I've never heard of such a concept. Fascinating.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Apr 09, 2013 12:33 AM GMT
    Trust me. It's the same on the str8 sites. Women are throwing their vaginas at me.
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    Apr 09, 2013 12:37 AM GMT
    Because they are savages ...
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    Apr 09, 2013 12:40 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidTrust me. It's the same on the str8 sites. Women are throwing their vaginas at me.


    That made me laugh.icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

    The imagery of flying vaginas. Labias flapping as they fly! icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
  • B71115

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    Apr 09, 2013 12:40 AM GMT
    I don't accept your premise.

    I believe most want breakfast, too.
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    Apr 09, 2013 12:45 AM GMT
    OK! FOR ONCE AND FOR ALL: GAY SITES (GRINDR, JACK'D, M4M, ETC.)ARE HOOK UP SITES FOR THE MOST PART. IF YOU ARE ON THOSE SITES MEN WILL ASSUME YOU ARE LOOKING FOR SEX. IT COMES WITH THE TERRITORY. WHEN ASKED FOR SEX, POLITELY BUT UNAPPOLOGETICALLY DECLINE.

    IT REALLY IS A SIMPLE AS THAT.
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    Apr 09, 2013 12:54 AM GMT
    I hate when they can't keep their eyes on my tits.
  • He_Man

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    Apr 09, 2013 5:36 AM GMT

    Having sex, i.e., reproducing, is in our genes, therefore, we can't keep it in our jeans.

    I always try to be friends with guys, but it never works out like I want it. If I don't have sex with a guy, he thinks that I'm being rude and takes it personally as if I didn't think he's desirable or some nonsense. I have the absolute hardest time making friends with gay guys because it inevitably turns into something sexual. I don't want to come across as vain, but man, every time I meet gay dudes just to hang out or get to know them, it always turns into something sexual. Maybe I'm just a slut and they're reading my slut vibes.

    It gets frustrating because I would like to have some platonic gay friends to hang out with and not have to worry about ending up sleeping with them. I guess that's why I don't have many gay friends. It always gets complicated, not to mention one can only have so many FWBs.
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    Apr 09, 2013 5:59 AM GMT
    Stop being sexy.

    Problem solved.
  • Suetonius

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    Apr 09, 2013 6:06 AM GMT
    When in Rome . . .

    So find some likable guys to have sex with - some may become your friends afterward. Two birds with one stone.
  • BloodFlame

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    Apr 09, 2013 6:11 AM GMT
    While there is truth to what you are saying, I do have to second UndercoverMan's comment. Sites like the aforementioned is just that. A hook up site. Sure, sometimes relationships happen on those sites but I do feel it's very rare when it does.

    But to the question, yeah, I have that feeling too so I can relate to you. But just try and hang in there. Not all guys are what the stereotype suggests.
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    Apr 09, 2013 6:16 AM GMT
    Men are horny

    THE END


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    Apr 09, 2013 6:17 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidCause that would require effort. Effort is unsatisfying.

    Have you looked at a lot of friendships people have. Especially friendships gay guys have.

    Fucking you requires effort but has immediate gratification and no required input after its all over.


    Scary but true !!
  • squally

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    Apr 09, 2013 6:26 AM GMT
    First of all you're probably looking at all the wrong places.
    You can find a genuine human being by simply doing what you love. If you like going to the gym, perhaps take a cardiio or weights class to know more people. If you like nerding out, join a board game club (yes they do exist in Toronto called Gay Gamers). Volunteer at your local community.

    The point is getting to know more people. Too often gay and straight people make "friends" or simply want to know people by using their sexual appetite. Last but least, when you least expect a relationship/friendship to happen that's when things happenicon_lol.gif

    You should check out empty closet. It's a great site to chat about things like this too!
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    Apr 09, 2013 7:26 AM GMT
    Simple, gay men are horny by nature. Some can hide it and some just can't. While most of us are single, most of us have urges and needs to have sex and hook up with other guys that we think are Cute/Hot. Just take it as a compliment that someone want to sleep/bone you. I mean, I sort of smiled and lost track at how many dudes messaged me just to want sex via email!
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    Apr 09, 2013 8:11 AM GMT
    Because men have a huge libido..
    i heard a dialogue somewhere: "Science has proved that men think about sex every 28 seconds, but of course for a gay man it's 9 ''
    its kinda true though icon_razz.gif
    anyways, i'd prefer a relationship..don't wanna be left alone
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    Apr 09, 2013 8:27 AM GMT
    anthony2394 saidWhy Do Most Men Just Want Sex ?
    Because they have their priorities in order.
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    Apr 09, 2013 11:03 AM GMT
    My experience has been that most real men don't really want just sex, but sex s great and fun and should not be discounted, it's essential. Try to find balance and don't search on sites that focus so much on sex first sites, try a dating site like ok cupid.