Being Single

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    Apr 09, 2013 12:28 AM GMT
    does anyone feel this way I think I'm gonna be single forever seems like everyone just wants to have sex
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    Apr 09, 2013 12:40 AM GMT
    I'm single. I'm not perfect, but I'm not broken. It's just a matter of time for the right guy to come into the picture. And yes... lots of guys want to have sex. I'm guilty as charged, haha.
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    Apr 09, 2013 12:45 AM GMT
    Good things happen to those who wait. You don't have to compare yourself to everyone else, take your time and stop and smell the roses once in a while. you will find that there are great things in life that doesn't require being with someone else.
  • GingerOH

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    Apr 09, 2013 12:45 AM GMT
    Yes it feels that way most of the time but life is far to short to give up on love/relationships. icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 09, 2013 12:47 AM GMT
    honey, it's ok you're not the only one that feels this way.
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    Apr 09, 2013 1:01 AM GMT
    anthony2394 saiddoes anyone feel this way I think I'm gonna be single forever seems like everyone just wants to have sex

    If you're out to yourself at 25 and wanting to date guys then I don't judge you to be losing ground to anyone. I'd say you're right in the middle of the normal gay development curve. Many straight men today are avoiding marriage until their 30s, placing career development first. They date but are in no rush to marry, single being part of their plan. I think that can work for gays, too, if they choose it.

    And of course everyone you encounter just wants to have sex. That's the hallmark of your male age group, whether gay or straight. Again, completely normal.

    You may just be impatient, and a bit uncertain of your prospects - we all are at times. I say date your little heart out, for the pure pleasure of dating, your 20s only come once (remember safe sex). And lo and behold, there in the mob of guys you're dating HE'LL appear. Most guys will tell you that's how it happens. You can't schedule it, or place an order, but he's likely to show up one day, often when & where you least expect it. And he's been waiting for the same thing with YOU. Good luck. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 09, 2013 1:07 AM GMT
    thanks a lot guys it feels good not feel alone I'm just afraid sometimes I know being afraid won't solve anything I suppose I should keep myself busy and do things that I love to do that keeps me happy
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    Apr 09, 2013 1:08 AM GMT
    anthony2394 saiddoes anyone feel this way I think I'm gonna be single forever seems like everyone just wants to have sex


    You're not alone. I feel the same way.
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    Apr 09, 2013 1:11 AM GMT
    Well if you're going to be single forever, you might as well enjoy the wait while your Prince Charming is taking his good ol' time getting to you!

    Why are so many gay guys like silly women with this saving themselves for Mr. Right. Honey slap a glove on it and enjoy life, love, and sex. You are going to be 25 only once in your life. Soon you will be pudgy, balding, 45, and no one will want to have sex with you. Then you will be on this site bemoaning the fact that no one wants to have sex with you.

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    Apr 09, 2013 1:13 AM GMT
    Well I for one don't just want sex! And yes it does seem that way at times. but then I see guys posting here and it reminds me that not every guy out there is the same.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 09, 2013 1:28 AM GMT
    When asked if I am single or dating I say I am awesome.
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    Apr 09, 2013 1:28 AM GMT
    I'm single as well. I'm not so worried about being single as I am about finding a life partner. Dating happens every now and then, and I'll even date someone for a year or two, but never longer than that. I just want to settle down and live a normal couple life until I die.
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    Apr 09, 2013 1:30 AM GMT
    I am single but I ain't looking. Men are so triflin' nowadays


    But Evan and I are getting rather close lol
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    Apr 09, 2013 2:07 AM GMT
    Seriously when will you shut the fuck up with this pity me shit

    You did it before on here and now you're ding it again after being driven off the site

    You need to work on your appearance before trying to date.
  • Destinharbor

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    Apr 09, 2013 2:13 AM GMT
    You should be developing relationships that last at least a while, say five or six months, by age 25. If you truly want to settle down, you should be having serial monagamy by now. If you're not, you've got yourself in a rut that you have to change. Someone said the definition of an idiot is someone who keeps doing the same thing but expects a different outcome. I don't think you're old enough to worry about it but if you've decided you're ready to commit to a guy, you may have to change. That's a hard thing to do but ya gotta do it.

    I might add that that involves a bit of risk. For example, your totally blank profile suggests you want sex and you don't want anyone to know anything about you. If that's how you go about meeting guys, you're getting what you asked for.
  • MikeW

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    Apr 09, 2013 2:19 AM GMT
    Well, that was harsh. I think he looks just fine.

    To the OP: Relationships aren't easy. Begin by cherishing your friendships and learn from them. Learn to value yourself and other people. I know, you feel lonely, you want someone special in your life. It will very likely happen if you're truly open to it.

    What I see is a lot of young gay guys 'say' they want a relationship but don't know anything about what that really means. Intimacy isn't something that we're taught to value in our society, especially between men. We have to be open to loving and being loved. Sex, by comparison, is relatively easy. But getting beyond the physical to the emotional, that takes something more.
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    Apr 09, 2013 3:01 AM GMT
    Yeah, I feel like I'll probably be single forever as well. I haven't even had a promising date in over two years. It surprises me a little that people talk about dating like it's this easy, automatic thing with a "mob" of guys.
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    Apr 09, 2013 3:10 AM GMT
    I have plenty of dates (not hook-ups) And a lot of men are attracted to me. But, I used to feel like I'd end up alone, because everyone wanted to have sex with me, but not necessarily "be" with me.

    I then re-evaluated why, I realized it couldn't be all them. I had to be doing something as well, to promote this response. I realized then "I give too easily" I liked to wear my heart on my sleeve ( I still do), but every man enjoys a little chase, you have to determine when you are both at the end of that chase to fully give over, not a moment sooner, because then you both feel lucky getting to have each other. Nothing worse then loving someone a bit more than they love you.
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    Apr 17, 2013 7:17 AM GMT
    I know how you feel definitely, I have have never been in a relationship, guy or girl, but I know that as long as I keep up with what I believe, I will find someone that is a good match for me. I don't do random hookups since I get emotionally attached easily, and yes it is difficult when meeting people with my mindset of not hooking up since it makes them feel as though they are not attractive enough for me. I make sure to let them know how attractive they are to me, and to kiss and cuddle with them a lot, but I still have not found the person that is right for me and also for me to be right for them. so anthony2394, don't think that you will be single forever, just enjoy your time with the people you do meet and have become friends with, and also to just accept that a lot of men do just want to have sex, so you just need to decline and move on. hope that you feel better! and that you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 17, 2013 9:07 AM GMT
    rzeznrz saidyou are not alone icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif




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    Damn thats one lucky bed!! ramp it. icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 17, 2013 9:41 AM GMT
    Every one of your threads is exactly the same
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    Apr 17, 2013 10:03 AM GMT
    Clouseau saidEvery one of your threads is exactly the same


    LOL even his face pic made it onto a search of Real Jock on Encyclopedia dramatica lol
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    Apr 17, 2013 10:36 AM GMT

    You need this!

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    Apr 17, 2013 10:45 AM GMT
    Or maybe this...
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    Apr 17, 2013 11:35 AM GMT
    For most of my adult life I've been in a relationship (two of them) since I was 20. After the first one ended I was single for a year and a half before my next guy. That relationship ended in January and I'm still single. The point which I'm not making very well, is that it sounds like you need to learn to be happy by yourself. it's all too easy to look for a knight in shinning armour and swing from relationship to relationship until you find him. Enjoy being by yourself, that way when someone who you really like does come along you'll be in a stable and confident position to make it work. Think of a relationship being like a Venn diagram. Two independent lives intersecting in the middle icon_smile.gif