Crazy take on " He does not look like his pic".

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    Apr 09, 2013 3:03 PM GMT
    I am been seeing this guy that I met in a club who has passable looks and body but when I share his pic with interested friends he is declared Gorgeous. He is the extreme example of photogenic. In bed I'm kinda thinking " nice personality"/small dick but in the crazy fantasy of Hollywood he is a 10 all around. I kinda have to look at his pics to stay interested. I cant take a pic that he does not come off as gorgeous. I can't share his pic but he looks exactly like "Archer" which is comically ironic as well. Actually, he looks better than archer in his pics , jaw is more square and his eyes are bluer.
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    Apr 09, 2013 3:09 PM GMT
    Alpha13 saidIn bed I'm kinda thinking " nice personality"/small dick but in the crazy fantasy of Hollywood he is a 10 all around. I kinda have to look at his pics to stay interested.

    Some people look better in pics some look better in real life. camera loves some but hates others.

    But it also sounds like dick size is more important to you than looks? icon_question.gif
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    Apr 09, 2013 3:12 PM GMT
    Alpha13 saidI am been seeing this guy that I met in a club who has passable looks and body but when I share his pic with interested friends he is declared Gorgeous. He is the extreme example of photogenic. In bed I'm kinda thinking " nice personality"/small dick but in the crazy fantasy of Hollywood he is a 10 all around. I kinda have to look at his pics to stay interested. I cant take a pic that he does not come off as gorgeous. I can't share his pic but he looks exactly like "Archer" with comically ironic as well.
    passable looks and body? Either he is cute or is not cute..either is in shape or is not..and you sound very vain and snobbish.
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    Apr 09, 2013 3:23 PM GMT
    TellMeMoar said
    Alpha13 saidIn bed I'm kinda thinking " nice personality"/small dick but in the crazy fantasy of Hollywood he is a 10 all around. I kinda have to look at his pics to stay interested.

    Some people look better in pics some look better in real life. camera loves some but hates others.

    But it also sounds like dick size is more important to you than looks? icon_question.gif


    Not really I'm a top. It just underscores the fantasy rather than reality thing.
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    Apr 09, 2013 3:27 PM GMT
    LoveAndPeace said
    Alpha13 saidI am been seeing this guy that I met in a club who has passable looks and body but when I share his pic with interested friends he is declared Gorgeous. He is the extreme example of photogenic. In bed I'm kinda thinking " nice personality"/small dick but in the crazy fantasy of Hollywood he is a 10 all around. I kinda have to look at his pics to stay interested. I cant take a pic that he does not come off as gorgeous. I can't share his pic but he looks exactly like "Archer" with comically ironic as well.


    passable looks and body? Either he is cute or is not cute..either is in shape or is not..and you sound very vain and snobbish.



    I kinda agree, it seems like his looks are really what's important to you..
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    Apr 09, 2013 3:28 PM GMT
    LoveAndPeace said
    Alpha13 saidI am been seeing this guy that I met in a club who has passable looks and body but when I share his pic with interested friends he is declared Gorgeous. He is the extreme example of photogenic. In bed I'm kinda thinking " nice personality"/small dick but in the crazy fantasy of Hollywood he is a 10 all around. I kinda have to look at his pics to stay interested. I cant take a pic that he does not come off as gorgeous. I can't share his pic but he looks exactly like "Archer" with comically ironic as well.
    passable looks and body? Either he is cute or is not cute..either is in shape or is not..and you sound very vain and snobbish.



    The whole point is that looks are photographically deceiving. Many people said you would not have looked twice at Marilyn Monroe in her Norma Jean Persona but in front of a camera she was transformed .

    In real life I can hang out comfortably with this guy but pic wise this guy is out of my league.
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    Apr 09, 2013 3:42 PM GMT
    What about his personality? Really if he doesn't do it for you and it is not likely to work out in the long run, quit leading him on and move on to another.
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    Apr 09, 2013 3:50 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidWhat about his personality? Really if he doesn't do it for you and it is not likely to work out in the long run, quit leading him on and move on to another.


    This.... You seem overly hung up on this detail. Like the guy for HIM, not his picture...
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    Apr 09, 2013 3:57 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidWhat about his personality? Really if he doesn't do it for you and it is not likely to work out in the long run, quit leading him on and move on to another.


    I'm kinda honored that a young dude like him is interested in a beat up old guy like me so I'm gonna take this wherever it goes.
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    Apr 09, 2013 3:57 PM GMT
    Alpha13 said
    LoveAndPeace said
    Alpha13 saidI am been seeing this guy that I met in a club who has passable looks and body but when I share his pic with interested friends he is declared Gorgeous. He is the extreme example of photogenic. In bed I'm kinda thinking " nice personality"/small dick but in the crazy fantasy of Hollywood he is a 10 all around. I kinda have to look at his pics to stay interested. I cant take a pic that he does not come off as gorgeous. I can't share his pic but he looks exactly like "Archer" with comically ironic as well.
    passable looks and body? Either he is cute or is not cute..either is in shape or is not..and you sound very vain and snobbish.



    The whole point is that looks are photographically deceiving. Many people said you would not have looked twice at Marilyn Monroe in her Norma Jean Persona but in front of a camera she was transformed .

    In real life I can hang out comfortably with this guy but pic wise this guy is out of my league.


    Are you sure you can hang out comfortably with this guy? You said in your original post that you have to look at his pic to keep interested. It sounds like you are more interested in his photograph than his persona.
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    Apr 09, 2013 4:02 PM GMT
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    AMoonHawk saidWhat about his personality? Really if he doesn't do it for you and it is not likely to work out in the long run, quit leading him on and move on to another.


    This.... You seem overly hung up on this detail. Like the guy for HIM, not his picture...



    You got to look at the whole picture which includes how the world and your friends receive you as a couple. He texts me all the time and we go on incredible roads trips and adventures together so he is a friend before he is a BF.
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    Apr 09, 2013 4:07 PM GMT
    Alpha13 said
    Fivealive said
    AMoonHawk saidWhat about his personality? Really if he doesn't do it for you and it is not likely to work out in the long run, quit leading him on and move on to another.


    This.... You seem overly hung up on this detail. Like the guy for HIM, not his picture...



    You got to look at the whole picture which includes how the world and your friends receive you as a couple. He texts me all the time and we go on incredible roads trips and adventures together so he is a friend before he is a BF.


    not sure if serious.

    if you are, you must have some seriously superficial friends if they really care about how you guys look together.

    and i don't think there's much people that are wasting their time paying attention to you both enough to care how cute you look together.
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    Apr 09, 2013 4:39 PM GMT
    Perhaps you should go back to the club and find yourself a trophy boyfriend, you know, someone who's better for your ego, someone that "the world" and "your friends" will receive without disdain......this current guy you're seeing will get along just fine when he finds a genuine guy who loves and appreciates his "passable looks" and his small dick.

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    Apr 09, 2013 5:10 PM GMT
    Alpha13 said
    LoveAndPeace said
    Alpha13 saidI am been seeing this guy that I met in a club who has passable looks and body but when I share his pic with interested friends he is declared Gorgeous. He is the extreme example of photogenic. In bed I'm kinda thinking " nice personality"/small dick but in the crazy fantasy of Hollywood he is a 10 all around. I kinda have to look at his pics to stay interested. I cant take a pic that he does not come off as gorgeous. I can't share his pic but he looks exactly like "Archer" with comically ironic as well.
    passable looks and body? Either he is cute or is not cute..either is in shape or is not..and you sound very vain and snobbish.



    The whole point is that looks are photographically deceiving. Many people said you would not have looked twice at Marilyn Monroe in her Norma Jean Persona but in front of a camera she was transformed .

    In real life I can hang out comfortably with this guy but pic wise this guy is out of my league.


    If he is out of your league , he must be a Greek god !!! It is difficult for me to believe when i look at your pics ..Honestly , you bloody are a very handsome bloke !
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    Apr 09, 2013 5:32 PM GMT
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    Alpha13 said
    Fivealive said
    AMoonHawk saidWhat about his personality? Really if he doesn't do it for you and it is not likely to work out in the long run, quit leading him on and move on to another.


    This.... You seem overly hung up on this detail. Like the guy for HIM, not his picture...



    You got to look at the whole picture which includes how the world and your friends receive you as a couple. He texts me all the time and we go on incredible roads trips and adventures together so he is a friend before he is a BF.


    not sure if serious.

    if you are, you must have some seriously superficial friends if they really care about how you guys look together.

    and i don't think there's much people that are wasting their time paying attention to you both enough to care how cute you look together.


    You must not have any relationship experience . If your in laws don't like you or you dispise them you are in for a rough long haul. And if you are unmarried then friends can get really weird or you can lose them altogether if they think
    your bf is a douche .
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    Apr 09, 2013 5:35 PM GMT
    neffa said
    Alpha13 said
    LoveAndPeace said
    Alpha13 saidI am been seeing this guy that I met in a club who has passable looks and body but when I share his pic with interested friends he is declared Gorgeous. He is the extreme example of photogenic. In bed I'm kinda thinking " nice personality"/small dick but in the crazy fantasy of Hollywood he is a 10 all around. I kinda have to look at his pics to stay interested. I cant take a pic that he does not come off as gorgeous. I can't share his pic but he looks exactly like "Archer" with comically ironic as well.
    passable looks and body? Either he is cute or is not cute..either is in shape or is not..and you sound very vain and snobbish.



    The whole point is that looks are photographically deceiving. Many people said you would not have looked twice at Marilyn Monroe in her Norma Jean Persona but in front of a camera she was transformed .

    In real life I can hang out comfortably with this guy but pic wise this guy is out of my league.


    If he is out of your league , he must be a Greek god !!! It is difficult for me to believe when i look at your pics ..Honestly , you bloody are a very handsome bloke !


    That is the point. To look at his pics he is . Even My iPhone pics of him look like a on location model shoot.
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    Apr 09, 2013 5:51 PM GMT
    GordHunter saidPerhaps you should go back to the club and find yourself a trophy boyfriend, you know, someone who's better for your ego, someone that "the world" and "your friends" will receive without disdain......this current guy you're seeing will get along just fine when he finds a genuine guy who loves and appreciates his "passable looks" and his small dick.



    Sounds like you been abandoned on the dance floor.

    This thread is about the irony of guys not looking like their pics ..... as if they are manipulating the medium but this case demonstrates that photographic media is a different reality and it does not have a hard "truth" connection to reality.
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    Apr 09, 2013 5:57 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidWhat about his personality? Really if he doesn't do it for you and it is not likely to work out in the long run, quit leading him on and move on to another.


    A guy's interest in me trumps my interest him. It's its the other way it's called being creepy.
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    Apr 09, 2013 6:37 PM GMT
    Alpha13 saidI am been seeing this guy that I met in a club who has passable looks and body but when I share his pic with interested friends he is declared Gorgeous. He is the extreme example of photogenic. In bed I'm kinda thinking " nice personality"/small dick but in the crazy fantasy of Hollywood he is a 10 all around. I kinda have to look at his pics to stay interested. I cant take a pic that he does not come off as gorgeous. I can't share his pic but he looks exactly like "Archer" which is comically ironic as well. Actually, he looks better than archer in his pics , jaw is more square and his eyes are bluer.


    just dump him. if hes not cute in person, he's not worth it. just drop him. tell him he looks good in pics but not in real life.

    U can do betta
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    Apr 09, 2013 7:54 PM GMT
    Alpha13 said
    AMoonHawk saidWhat about his personality? Really if he doesn't do it for you and it is not likely to work out in the long run, quit leading him on and move on to another.


    I'm kinda honored that a young dude like him is interested in a beat up old guy like me so I'm gonna take this wherever it goes.

    If the shoe fits, wear it. He's clearly enjoying you AND you're a good looking guy. If he didn't think so he would have taken a hike so he IS in your league. It doesn't matter if he's great looking in person or a picture, if you like his looks and personality, go for it!
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    Apr 09, 2013 8:13 PM GMT
    Alpha13 said
    scaredmidget said
    Alpha13 said
    Fivealive said
    AMoonHawk saidWhat about his personality? Really if he doesn't do it for you and it is not likely to work out in the long run, quit leading him on and move on to another.


    This.... You seem overly hung up on this detail. Like the guy for HIM, not his picture...



    You got to look at the whole picture which includes how the world and your friends receive you as a couple. He texts me all the time and we go on incredible roads trips and adventures together so he is a friend before he is a BF.


    not sure if serious.

    if you are, you must have some seriously superficial friends if they really care about how you guys look together.

    and i don't think there's much people that are wasting their time paying attention to you both enough to care how cute you look together.


    You must not have any relationship experience . If your in laws don't like you or you dispise them you are in for a rough long haul. And if you are unmarried then friends can get really weird or you can lose them altogether if they think
    your bf is a douche .


    this has nothing to do with that.

    i'm sure not everyone in your family approved of you being gay when they found out but did that stop you from being gay? that's the point. fuck what other people think because what they might think is the best for you may NOT be the best for you. if your friends care more about how attractive your potential mate is more so than if he's a good match for you personality wise and isn't abusive, then they aren't looking out for you.

    how would you feel if someone accepted you based off of only how good you looked to them?

    my thing is i understand where you're coming from with the "people look better in real life than how they do in person" BUT you seem to be only concerned with how good he looks and that's the only reason why you're dating him.

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    Apr 09, 2013 8:31 PM GMT
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    Alpha13 said
    scaredmidget said
    Alpha13 said
    Fivealive said
    AMoonHawk saidWhat about his personality? Really if he doesn't do it for you and it is not likely to work out in the long run, quit leading him on and move on to another.


    This.... You seem overly hung up on this detail. Like the guy for HIM, not his picture...



    You got to look at the whole picture which includes how the world and your friends receive you as a couple. He texts me all the time and we go on incredible roads trips and adventures together so he is a friend before he is a BF.


    not sure if serious.

    if you are, you must have some seriously superficial friends if they really care about how you guys look together.

    and i don't think there's much people that are wasting their time paying attention to you both enough to care how cute you look together. blockquote>

    this has nothing to do with that.

    i'm sure not everyone in your family approved of you being gay when they found out but did that stop you from being gay? that's the point. fuck what other people think because what they might think is the best for you may NOT be the best for you. if your friends care more about how attractive your potential mate is more so than if he's a good match for you personality wise and isn't abusive, then they aren't looking out for you.

    how would you feel if someone accepted you based off of only how good you looked to them?

    my thing is i understand where you're coming from with the "people look better in real life than how they do in person" BUT you seem to be only concerned with how good he looks and that's the only reason why you're dating him.

    I can't imagine a relationship based on one thing e. g. , looks. A hookup yes and you might stretch that to a couple more times but a relationship is based on tons of factors. I ve known this dude for a while and I remember a friend telling me last summer he would not even presume to talk to a guy that good looking so even meeting a dude is full of complex filters.
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    Apr 09, 2013 9:29 PM GMT
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    Alpha13 said
    AMoonHawk saidWhat about his personality? Really if he doesn't do it for you and it is not likely to work out in the long run, quit leading him on and move on to another.


    I'm kinda honored that a young dude like him is interested in a beat up old guy like me so I'm gonna take this wherever it goes.

    If the shoe fits, wear it. He's clearly enjoying you AND you're a good looking guy. If he didn't think so he would have taken a hike so he IS in your league. It doesn't matter if he's great looking in person or a picture, if you like his looks and personality, go for it!


    I have got to learn to not discount what others think about me. You are right, if in his mind I'm a catch then I am. And to quote and old classic , "Love the one you are with" .
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    Apr 09, 2013 11:58 PM GMT
    neffa saidIf he is out of your league , he must be a Greek god !!! It is difficult for me to believe when i look at your pics ..Honestly , you bloody are a very handsome bloke !


    How can you guys tell without face pics?

    OP has a point. I had the inverse problem once, where the boyfriend was incredibly hot, but photographs badly, to the point where my distant friends were judging my tastes in men based on what they saw on facebook. Fortunately all it took to solve that was showboat the boyfriend to everyone I know, like a trophy. Yeah I said that.