Being from a small town and being gay..

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    Apr 10, 2013 1:01 AM GMT
    How do you handle it? I wish I was in New York or Montreal because everyone here is either straigth or closeted!
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    Apr 10, 2013 1:18 AM GMT
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  • AMoonHawk

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    Apr 10, 2013 1:18 AM GMT
    A lot of those gay men in those big cities are from small towns ... and that's how you do it.
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    Apr 10, 2013 1:57 AM GMT
    I came from a very small town in California, Half moon bay, so I know what it feels like. Larger towns has its downsides too. The guys in larger towns are usually Mr. RightNow instead of Mr. Right.
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    Apr 10, 2013 2:07 AM GMT
    Fayetteville NC is no picnic, its filled with bitchy, flaky gays and closet cases, My best advice is to move from your small town because there isnt much else you can do about it
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    Apr 10, 2013 2:08 AM GMT
    Sometimes it helps to appear less stoned.
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    Apr 10, 2013 2:09 AM GMT
    Congrats on coming out in a small town. I had to move to the big city to do that.
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    Apr 10, 2013 2:09 AM GMT
    how do you deal with it? just be yourself. and if you aren't finding anything that is compatible with who you are, then look somewhere else. move out of town. commute to a different city. whatever you do, don't lower your standards just because of your location.
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    Apr 10, 2013 2:12 AM GMT
    Be ready to stay single forever!
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    Apr 10, 2013 2:58 AM GMT
    I came out around the same time the OP was born...and in a small "bible belt" town at that.

    The best advice I can give for being "out" in a small town is learn how to fight and how to use firearms.
  • MikeW

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    Apr 10, 2013 4:12 AM GMT
    I grew up in a *very* small, rural town in the Midwest. But *that* was a long, long time ago, before the word 'gay' was invented (well, so far as we all knew about it anyway).

    It was a curse, sort of like a zombie open ward, but ALL the guys felt bored and frustrated, unless they had a car and a girlfriend. In fact, some of those farm boys back in the day, well, lets just say, horny boys are horny boys. I even fell in love, not that *that* is a good idea, especially when he's straight or thinks he is.

    As for the rest of it, it was a nightmare. Even the county prosecuting attorney was a closet case, forever dating his beard, Wilma, the high school English teacher. Like right out of gay Mayberry or something.

    Truth be told, when it was possible to do so, I left. I have *never* regretted that decision. There *is* another world. Seriously, living here in the SF Bay Area its like I'm living on another planet.

    YMMV.
  • Apparition

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    Apr 10, 2013 4:13 AM GMT
    i made 3 guys gay in a town of 400 cry me a river being from a town of 126 000. Get to work.

    There are currently 76 guys online on squirt in saint john between18-30. Until you have hit on every one of them, you have no right to complain.