If someone lied about their age...

  • wherewillwebe

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    Apr 10, 2013 2:21 AM GMT
    would you continue to see/date them?
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    Apr 10, 2013 3:01 AM GMT
    Probably not because who knows what else he might be lying about.
  • rakim87

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    Apr 10, 2013 3:11 AM GMT
    i dated someone who lied about their age online, he admitted to it on the first date and was really honest in general. I found he was full of crap in other ways though and it ended up being a major problem. i would say don't date people who lie about their age, or at least consider it strike 1.
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    Apr 10, 2013 3:20 AM GMT
    How's that any worse than lying about your sexuality?
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    Apr 10, 2013 3:40 AM GMT
    wherewillwebe saidwould you continue to see/date them?

    Yeah, I did once. Bar trick said he was 42, next morning admitted he was 52. I liked the older age better because I was 55. We became BFs for 2 years, until it became clear he wasn't the marrying kind.
  • wherewillwebe

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    Apr 10, 2013 4:37 AM GMT
    then would you confront them if they didn't know that you knew about it?icon_smile.gif
  • killercliche

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    Apr 10, 2013 5:22 AM GMT
    wherewillwebe saidthen would you confront them if they didn't know that you knew about it?icon_smile.gif



    If you genuinely like the guy, I'm sure you could bring it up in a teasing way and clear the air.

    I don't think that lying about age is a serious offense or indicative of a serial liar. Case in point, my mom.
    My mother is still 39. She's been 39 for over ten years now. She is one of the best and most honest people I have and will ever know. Should I or anyone else care that she has been 39 years old for ten years?
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    Apr 10, 2013 5:27 AM GMT
    It's about as sketchy as those guys who do the bait and switch with 5 year old photos. To compare lying about being gay - in a world where it still has negative consequences socially and professionally - with lying about being younger in order to pick up guys, is disingenuous
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    Apr 10, 2013 11:44 AM GMT
    Well I would have been like "Oh ok". Actually I don't think age comes in between the good times! If he is really a liar, it will be revealed in much more comprimising situations to follow.
  • Destinharbor

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    Apr 10, 2013 2:35 PM GMT
    God what a bunch of sanctimonious pricks. Why give a shit. It's not like he lied about HIV. A little agism and a little insecurity on the part of you bozo's. You'll be single forever. Not all of you but the ones riding off into their fairy tale worlds. Ya, if you learn he's shaved a few years, bring it up and tease him to let him know it's OK and he's a sexy bastard.
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    Apr 10, 2013 2:44 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidProbably not because who knows what else he might be lying about.


    Agreed!!
    It's not the 'degree' of the lie but the principle.
    If he feels okay to lie about age, then he'll most likely be okay to lie about more important things in life.
    If age didn't matter then why lie about?

    LOL @ me though haha.
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    Apr 10, 2013 3:08 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidHow's that any worse than lying about your sexuality?


    Well if I would be surprised if someone I was dating said they lied and they were really straight icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 10, 2013 3:09 PM GMT
    Yes. Someones insecurity about their age is understandable. Especially in the gay world where age is a major issue for many. I dont know how many times I see guys who say "no one over 30" or "no guys over 35".
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    Apr 10, 2013 3:11 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidProbably not because who knows what else he might be lying about.


    I think that is taking it to an extreme. Taking a few years off your age or adding an inch to cock size is hardly the same as saying you are single when you have a wife and three kids.

    For the record, I dont lie about my age.
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    Apr 10, 2013 3:15 PM GMT
    I'm really 37 but if I tell everyone that no one will believe which forces me to lie, have no other choice.


    but...

    If someone lied about their age then,,,, I'd walk away.
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    Apr 10, 2013 3:18 PM GMT
    this has happened to me twice, and it was indicative of a lying pattern- i found many more discrepancies once i started investigating. Its a warning sign, walk away.
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    Apr 10, 2013 3:19 PM GMT
    Rick_James saidthis has happened to me twice, and it was indicative of a lying pattern- i found many more discrepancies once i started investigating. Its a warning sign, walk away.


    what did they tell you it was and what was it really?
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    Apr 10, 2013 3:20 PM GMT
    Lie... bye.
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    Apr 10, 2013 3:23 PM GMT
    Yeah no..... if they felt the need to lie about something as silly as their age, who knows what else they'd fib about.
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    Apr 10, 2013 3:27 PM GMT
    Dallasfan824 said
    Erik101 saidProbably not because who knows what else he might be lying about.


    I think that is taking it to an extreme. Taking a few years off your age or adding an inch to cock size is hardly the same as saying you are single when you have a wife and three kids.

    For the record, I dont lie about my age.


    This post makes it sound like you lie about your cock size icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 10, 2013 3:47 PM GMT
    bus9ja2d said
    Dallasfan824 said
    Erik101 saidProbably not because who knows what else he might be lying about.


    I think that is taking it to an extreme. Taking a few years off your age or adding an inch to cock size is hardly the same as saying you are single when you have a wife and three kids.

    For the record, I dont lie about my age.


    This post makes it sound like you lie about your cock size icon_smile.gif


    i use centimeters. Sounds more impressive that way. I just know not to date a european. Or someone good at math icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 10, 2013 4:23 PM GMT
    It's funny how a lot of the young guys just see it as a lie but it is not about that but something else. I am not a sanctimonious type so I'm willing to keep an open mind but what it tells me is he's insecure and his self-esteem is not where it should be. It says he really wishes he were younger and is probably more interested in younger men than older. So naturally the younger men feel they have been conned while I just see it as immature and a desire to be less mature. I see it as someone who is letting other people decide his self-worth rather than having a grounded sense of who they are.

    It even turns me off when guys brag about how everyone thinks they are so much younger. They may see it as an accomplishment but it is also saying there is something wrong about growing old even if we have no choice. When someone tells me I look a lot younger, I just see it that they think 54 looks a lot older than it is. I know I looked younger at 44 than 54, and younger still at 34 than I did at 44. I may have the same body now as I did then but short of getting plastic surgery and dying my hair, some things you can't stop from happening. I'd rather people love me for all the wonderful and not so great years I've lived than to force my way into their search engine and hope that they forgive me for lying. So when a guy lies about his age, it baffles me why he can't see the world the way I do.

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    Apr 10, 2013 4:33 PM GMT

    NoT cool by average means....we are all grown ups! after all age is just a number on humans, unlike the mind.

    If there is...How old is your Mind?..then maybe I would take things into account.
  • neosyllogy

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    Apr 10, 2013 4:39 PM GMT
    Age is kinda dumb.
    I assume most people are lying about their age and (while I do not) I actually don't think it's a big deal.
    Kinda like I don't think people lying about their penis size is a big deal.

    There's so much artifice and inflation that there ends up being a sort of double world. People worry about telling the truth in part because the truth looks odd in a context built on falsehoods.

    Since I don't find age to be all that meaningful and, unfortunately, lying about it to be a bit of a social convention (like everyone saying they're doing well when you ask "how you doing") this doesn't bother me. (Also: like dick size, you can skip the number and just look - since what you really care about is usually health/physique or listen if you're interested intelligence/maturity, etc.)


    Even if I were seeing someone and they kept the lie up for a while: that would be worse, but I'd mostly feel bad for them that they had such an irrational hang up. (I once had someone almost break down crying when she told me that she straightened her hair. I thought she was joking. People are self-conscious about a lot of things they oughtn't to be. They generally get sympathy from me.)

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    Apr 10, 2013 4:39 PM GMT
    lie is a lie, no matter whether it is about age or about where you live, etc!