Small town boy but feeling like I need to leave/Recommendations on where to move?

  • brain5brawn

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    Oct 17, 2008 5:52 PM GMT
    I was curious if theres anyone else who has had the experience, of loving life ina smaller town area, but feeling like you need to move to the city, purely because well....there are not any dating options if you're gay and in a remote area. I live in the upper peninsula, at least for one more year (yay graduation) and yeah....

    So, on those lines, do people have any recommendations on where a newly graduated Mechanical Engineer/Communications student should move, if he doesn't want to be dateless for the rest of his life?

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    Oct 17, 2008 6:34 PM GMT
    Nothern Virginia is the "silicon valley" of the East...and it is adjacent to Washington DC.

    Dont let the "Virginia" in Northern Virginia scare you. NVa is liberal and cosmopolitan. There are lots of gay life/social activities here, in addition to all the amenitites of Washington with museums, art galleries, and historical stuff.

    Also, this area tends to be recession-proof because of the federal gov't being the "industry" of the area.

    This is from one online site...

    "The Northern Virginia area forms part of the Virginia portion of the Washington-Arlington-Alexandria, DC-VA-MD-WV MSA, a Metropolitan Statistical Area.

    Northern Virginia as a whole is very diverse and wealthy and is the richest area in Virginia. ...


    In recent years, Northern Virginia has become so filled with technology companies that it is often referred to as the "Silicon Valley of the East." ....

    It also is a desirable spot for defense contractors because of the Pentagon and the proximity to the national capital.

    The Federal government is a large employer in Northern Virginia and Northern Virginia is also home to several government agencies such as the CIA and the Pentagon, headquarters of the Department of Defense. The Federal Government helps to prevent Northern Virginia from feeling the effects of recessions."


    Northern Virginia Technology Council

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    Oct 17, 2008 9:14 PM GMT
    I have to disagree with you CAS! Yuck on Virginia. It most certainly is not a gay friendly state and for pete's sake brain5brawn, don't move to Florida. ;-)
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    Oct 17, 2008 9:43 PM GMT
    There's always tiny Connecticut. Kinda suburban/rural but right between NYC and Boston.

    Not sure what you do with mechanical engineering but we have lots of military and civilian relate aerospace jobs. Pratt & Whitney, and United Technologies are always offering internships and jobs on campus. Aside from aircraft parts you can find a job building missiles, naval ships, and space shuttle parts.

    Plus you can get married in CT now. Just in case you do find someone icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 17, 2008 9:45 PM GMT
    Northern Virginia has gone "blue' and is a few METRO (subway) stops from Dupont Circle (Wash D.C.) . It is 1/4 the price of San Francisco and Silicon Valley but equal pay.
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    Oct 17, 2008 9:57 PM GMT
    I hear Phoenix is great if you can handle the heat.
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    Oct 17, 2008 10:09 PM GMT
    Feel free to come to San Antonio, we can rough it together, RJ style
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    Oct 17, 2008 11:32 PM GMT
    Also consider Seattle and surrounding communities. Forget what you hear about the rain, it's not that bad. Area is high-tech and hip, gay-friendly, with spectacular scenery and recreation an hour in any direction.

    I lived there 5 years, would consider returning there for the outdoor camping and motorcycling. I love the South Florida gay community, but this terrain is flats-ville, and about as high-tech as a nursing home (which is a major industry).
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    Oct 18, 2008 12:31 AM GMT
    It probably is too typical of an answer, but NYC or SF. Both meccas offer a distinct charm. As many have said, "live in NY to get thick skinned and SF to get a warm heart." I'd say do both.
  • Bunjamon

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    Oct 18, 2008 1:24 AM GMT
    Move to ANY metropolitan area! Except some ridiculous southern city.
  • gibbay

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    Oct 18, 2008 1:33 AM GMT
    Have you considered emigrating to Canada? if you live near or in one of the major metropolises (i.e. one like Montréal, Toronto, Vancouver, etc...) there's some great Gay scenes, and you also get the benefits of the good Health care, fully recognised marriage status, and because our economy isn't in as bad a shape as the States right now, finding a job wouldn't be an issue either. We do have higher taxes however (here in Ontario the Provincial and Federal taxes add up to 14% on most items) and depending on where you land housing costs can vary a lot, but if you're thinking of making a big break (which I'm getting from the tone of your post) then you might think of using Canada as a springboard to someplace more exotic. Has there been anyplace you've visited before that you think you might want to live in?
  • DanielQQ

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    Oct 18, 2008 1:53 AM GMT
    I strongly recommend Austin Texas. I'm from a small town too and I find Austin "feels" small even though it's a city. It's clean, awesome weather, extremely liberal, and the people there are healthy. also, it was rated the best city to weather the tough economy.
  • Lozzano

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    Oct 18, 2008 4:40 AM GMT
    Come to mexico city, 22 milion people will ensure a date to you,

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    Oct 18, 2008 5:12 AM GMT
    SF and NYC might be grand, but for kids right out of college, they can be a bit overwhelming in terms of budget and lifestyle... Denver (close to mountains, but has its drawbacks), Seattle (the rain really isn't that bad), DC (a league all its own), Austin (if you don't mind the heat), and even something as close as Chicago (you'll get to learn how to dress up all over again) are all amazing places to live work and play... although i can't vouch for the nightlife in any of them, or the dating scene... but there are great guys everywhere... some places you have to look though (all of those cities are pretty damn liberal and gay friendly though)
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    Oct 18, 2008 5:23 AM GMT
    I can tell where not to go and that's Greensburg,Indiana.The only thing this town is known for is the tree growing on the roof of the courthouse towericon_sad.gif
  • Tiran

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    Oct 18, 2008 4:44 PM GMT
    Did anyone else suddenly hear Bronski Beat in their head when they read the title of the post? Or am I just showing my age?

  • brain5brawn

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    Oct 19, 2008 4:30 PM GMT
    Hehe, thanks, I hope I don't look like that guy though. Ah, I'm thinking Minneapolis lately, though that might be me being stupid and following after a guy I like....he's like my best friend here at school, and I'm honestly really scared of moving out totally on my own.
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    Oct 20, 2008 3:01 AM GMT
    I moved to S.F. right out of college in 1981. I would recommend it to anyone else.