Dilemma

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    Apr 11, 2013 8:27 AM GMT
    Recently , I've been chatting to a young guy on scruff.
    I mainly chat on there ,with the perhaps of a meetup.
    Making a friend is higher on my list than a hookup.
    We discussed if I would/we would play together.

    Today , I met him for a coffee.
    To my dismay , he suffers from cerebral palsy.
    I did think by his profile picture , that he looks a bit geeky.
    But that's young folk. Pulling funny faces and such.

    I'm not sure now if it would be wise to play.
    He'd love me to , but no way would I want to take advantage of him.
    He is very switched on mentally. Just his body is not quite.

    I'd like to just be a big brotherly friend to him.
  • MikeW

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    Apr 11, 2013 9:01 AM GMT
    By "play together" do you mean sexually? Are you attracted to him? If not, no, you shouldn't go there. It wouldn't be fair to either of you. On the other hand if it is something you both want, why do you feel that might be taking advantage of him?
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    Apr 11, 2013 10:52 AM GMT
    Thanks Mike
    yes,by "play together" means sexually
    I have ,very occasionally , hooked up to play with another.
    I don't want to be seen as "taking advantage of him" because of his situation.
    He knows what he wants, his poor body is trying to catch up.
  • Hothouse

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    Apr 11, 2013 1:13 PM GMT
    If he knows what he wants, then I don't think you'd be taking advantage of him.

    He may be taking advantage of you, however.
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Apr 11, 2013 1:19 PM GMT
    Wait.... People with CP have sex!?!?!?

    Oy.

    Like him? Think he's cute? Wanna' play? Play. It's sex, not a telethon, not anybody else's business, not a one way ticket to some mythical hell. Fuck , have fun, bring joy, be kind (unless otherwise instructed) and cuddle and have coffee afterwards.

    Humanity - it comes 'as is', so step up to the buffet.
  • Destinharbor

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    Apr 11, 2013 8:07 PM GMT
    MuscleComeBack saidWait.... People with CP have sex!?!?!?

    Oy.

    Like him? Think he's cute? Wanna' play? Play. It's sex, not a telethon, not anybody else's business, not a one way ticket to some mythical hell. Fuck , have fun, bring joy, be kind (unless otherwise instructed) and cuddle and have coffee afterwards.

    Humanity - it comes 'as is', so step up to the buffet.

    Nicely said. And true.
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    Apr 11, 2013 11:57 PM GMT
    Yes vey true.
    We are sexual beings with a need to be fulfilled.
    Bring joy and pleasure to someone is great.