Finding it Difficult to make Friends

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    Apr 12, 2013 12:01 AM GMT
    I got out of two friendships that ended bad and I am finding it difficult to make friends . I chat with People but it's just small talk , and if I do meet someone most of the time we just meet once and that's it .does anyone have any advice on how to make friends ? It gets lonely being on your own , and i got laid off my job just been really depressed about it
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    Apr 12, 2013 12:12 AM GMT
    You can hang with me and Andrew in Toronto? And maybe even Mohamed and FootballAHwk
  • LoveAndPeace

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    Apr 12, 2013 12:13 AM GMT
    Don't worry icon_smile.gif ill be your fweind icon_biggrin.gif Anyway u don't have any more friends? Try telling your friends to invite their friends so u can meet them
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    Apr 12, 2013 12:22 AM GMT
    OMG me too
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    Apr 12, 2013 12:25 AM GMT
    LoveAndPeace saidDon't worry icon_smile.gif ill be your fweind icon_biggrin.gif Anyway u don't have any more friends? Try telling your friends to invite their friends so u can meet them


    no i don't one kept standing me up and the other one just didn't want to respond back to me and lost contact
  • AMoonHawk

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    Apr 12, 2013 12:59 AM GMT
    You need find something that you will have a commonality with others
    stoners get stoned
    runners run
    drunks get drunk
    volunteers have a cause
    bowlers bowl
    dancers dance
    swimmers swim

    what do you do?
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    Apr 12, 2013 1:00 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidYou need find something that you will have a commonality with others
    stoners get stoned
    runners run
    drunks get drunk
    volunteers have a cause
    bowlers bowl
    dancers dance
    swimmers swim

    what do you do?



    Well I like to Draw , Photography , Video Games
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    Apr 12, 2013 1:03 AM GMT
    Sorry can't help you, friends are just bloodsuckers that distract you from your goals.
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    Apr 12, 2013 1:05 AM GMT
    I just saw the other post you had started in the health section about depression. If I were you - I'd work on that first. If you're down in the dumps, it will be tough to connect with new people. Depression saps your motivation.

    The job would be another primary focus - being out of work can do a number on the self-esteem. Getting a new job will give you the feeling of moving forward and will give you a chance to meet new people (and maybe potential friends).

    Once you've gotten your foundation back, then start branching out and trying to meet people. Do you have anyone that you could network with? (any acquaintances that you could get to know better, friends you've fallen out of touch with, relatives that are around the same age, etc) If not, get involved with the community, join a sport, pretty much anything that gets you around other people could provide you with opportunities.
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    Apr 12, 2013 4:53 AM GMT
    Well if its gay men you are talking about then i'm sorry to let tou know that gay men are VERY flaky, well actually men in general but especially gay men. This is probably because most of the time gay men dont really want to make " friends " , some will lie and say they do, but in general they are only interested in talking to people they are attracted to, and even then its still a gamble because even if the guy is attracted to you telling you he " wants you " and that you are ohh sooo hot, but then open and read your internet messages and stop replying to you out of nowhere creating an akward internet silence

    best advice i can give you is dont rely on gay guys for friendship, if you want a real friend just seek a real friend from life experience, not saying you can find good gay guys, its just not that common :/
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    Apr 12, 2013 4:55 AM GMT
    Sport leagues are great way to make friends and build relationships if you're into that thing.

    I would not have high hopes meeting people from online and it turning into a real relationship. Sure it can happen, but it's rare. Most people are total flakes when it comes to that sort of stuff and its annoying to deal with.
  • Kairr

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    Apr 12, 2013 5:37 AM GMT
    anthony2394 said
    AMoonHawk saidYou need find something that you will have a commonality with others
    stoners get stoned
    runners run
    drunks get drunk
    volunteers have a cause
    bowlers bowl
    dancers dance
    swimmers swim

    what do you do?



    Well I like to Draw , Photography , Video Games



    humm I like those, too. icon_razz.gif

    Prolly just your personality.
  • Apparition

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    Apr 12, 2013 5:47 AM GMT
    be a mentor to a kid...sure you can find one to play video games with.


    http://www.bigbrothersbigsisters.ca


    lots of art and game meetup groups in TO

    http://www.meetup.com/find/?offset=0&psize=64&currentpage=1&allMeetups=true&categories=&keywords=&radius=5&userFreeform=toronto&mcId=&mcName=&gcResults=Toronto%2C+ON%2C+Canada%3ACA%3AON%3AToronto+Division%3AToronto%3A%3A%3A43.653226%3A-79.3831843&sort=default
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    Apr 12, 2013 5:48 AM GMT
    Hey Anthony! Long time. I would chill with you if I were in Toronto ;)
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    Apr 12, 2013 5:52 AM GMT
    anthony2394 said
    AMoonHawk saidYou need find something that you will have a commonality with others
    stoners get stoned
    runners run
    drunks get drunk
    volunteers have a cause
    bowlers bowl
    dancers dance
    swimmers swim

    what do you do?



    Well I like to Draw , Photography , Video Games


    you got me at draw. I love guys who are artistic! from art to dance, I think it's such a sexy quality. Want to be friends?!?! icon_redface.gif
  • Apparition

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    Apr 12, 2013 5:53 AM GMT
    theres a coed lgbt soccer league...

    http://outsporttoronto.org/organisations/downtown-soccer-toronto
  • Lucky350

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    Apr 12, 2013 5:54 AM GMT

    Try avoiding the "awkward introduction"

    Going up to someone and introducing yourself
    is nice, but it always has an awkward stigma afterwards...

    Try finding something funny to say as an introduction...
    Or
    Simply joining in a group conversation always works....

    You'll get the hang of it =)
  • AMoonHawk

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    Apr 12, 2013 5:55 AM GMT
    anthony2394 said
    AMoonHawk saidYou need find something that you will have a commonality with others
    stoners get stoned
    runners run
    drunks get drunk
    volunteers have a cause
    bowlers bowl
    dancers dance
    swimmers swim

    what do you do?



    Well I like to Draw , Photography , Video Games

    Join a photography class, group or club
    Play video games at arcades and not always at home
    Draw in public places like parks and in front of museums
    Even if you know how to draw take classes in art and drawing ... you never can learn to much if you are too good at it to take classes then teach classes in drawing
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    Apr 12, 2013 6:16 AM GMT
    Gay men's yoga. I'll fix lots of things.
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    Apr 12, 2013 6:48 AM GMT
    NotThisShitAgain.jpg
  • killercliche

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    Apr 12, 2013 8:31 AM GMT
    As posted before, it's best to be doing something commonly that a friends is commonly doing as well. Otherwise every potential hangout is consumed first with the "well, what do you want to do?" conversation.

    If you are a gymrat, get a workout buddy.

    you say you are into art and photography, maybe take some classes?

    If your intention is to make new friends that are just there to make time for you, I'm sorry to say, but new friends just don't have time for friends, cause they are consumed with what they want to be doing, so the easiest way to become fast friends is to already be doing what they are doing, make sense?
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    Apr 12, 2013 9:19 AM GMT
    Maybe it has something to do with how you made multiple profiles showing your nude bits as public photos and saying how you want dirty frequent hook ups?
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    Apr 12, 2013 10:41 AM GMT
    Sorry to hear bro about your problems and I don't mean to downplay your depressions. Things like this happen to all of us at one point or another.

    The friends part, hang on to the ones you got, try to have an open mind and be friends with straight people too. Things always happened for a reason, I had falling out with friends in the past too. Once they're gone now, my life is less dramatic.

    The job part, well the economy is bad at the moment. There are million of workers unemployed still. There are people in worse situation.

    I do this when I feel really down.

    *** I watch war movies, about the holocaust or something very tragic to remind myself god there's much worse evil happened in the past. Don't sweat your drama.

    *** I masturbated and cum to release stress Lol, it helps a lot. I'm like on the cloud after an Orgasm. I suggest everyone to try this.

    ***Talking to your family and other friends help too.