Dealing with Depression/Anxiety

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    Apr 12, 2013 12:10 AM GMT
    I been having a lot of issues going on in my life lately with being laid off from work , loss two friendships . I been to Counseling it helped out a bit and I been Diagnosed with Depression and Anxiety by a Psychiatrist . Most of the I feel alone and isolated . Can anyone relate to this and if so how do you cope with it and if you have any advice ? Thank You
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    Apr 12, 2013 3:29 AM GMT
    Stay busy. Exercise. Be patient. Things will change. If it gets unbearable, take some happy pills.
  • GingerOH

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    Apr 12, 2013 3:55 AM GMT
    Don't feel bad about asking a therapist or doctor about taking a medical approach. I ended up in an extremely depressed state around my junior year in college. I was put on anti-depressants and it worked wonders. Sometimes it a chemical imbalance and it's nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about.

    Also getting healthy helped out as well. I started exercising and gave up soda for tea. icon_smile.gif

  • GingerOH

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    Apr 12, 2013 3:56 AM GMT
    Also, writing stuff down just to get it off your chest helps too.
  • TroyAthlete

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    Apr 12, 2013 4:06 AM GMT
    Hmmm. I guess it depends on what kind of depression and what kind of anxiety disorder. Do you know?
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    Apr 12, 2013 8:50 AM GMT
    Read: Six Pillars of Self Esteem by Nathaniel Branden
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    Apr 12, 2013 9:19 AM GMT
    Depression n anxiety are different. Anxiety leads to depression. I been diagnosed too about year ago. I
    'm trying to change my thought process from negative to more positive by using a few techniques I read about. Meds help provided you can get the right ones.

    Talk to others who are dealing with it as each case is different, you are not alone. It's not uncommon, but all the down feelings are all caused by thoughts. If you don't have the thoughts you can't have the feelings. That's the biggest winner I've found.
    Over thinking and constant thought analysis makes it so hard to make the simplest decision. Try to worry less about things you have no control over. Remember what has brought you happiness in the past, put yourself first and give it time.
    Talk to your councillor be honest and leave all the shit in the past....in the past. Only look forwards.
  • Rowing_Ant

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    Apr 12, 2013 9:42 AM GMT
    I'm in the same place at the moment. Currently waiting to see a therapist.

    Feal "lost" (in a word) and that I am falling into myself, sprialling down. Not wanting to leave the house or be around people yet being desperately lonely (talk about conflicted). NOt having the energy or motivation to get out even for a walk or being able to concentrate on anything for any lenght of time and getting frustrated; not finding joy in anything,

    The big help to get me to do anything is my kitten because he makes me get up, feed him, do his litter tray and is company and fun to be with. I write a list of jobs to do and force myself to do at least half - energy levels and mood permitting. It would be easy to just crash in my bed and do nothing and cry. I woke up crying this morning feeling Ive not been asleep and feel like shit to be honest.

    Im not on any happy pills.....so yeah can totally empathise anthony2394

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    Apr 12, 2013 9:46 AM GMT
    Keep yourself busy. And perhaps some therapy can help
  • Rowing_Ant

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    Apr 12, 2013 10:00 AM GMT
    Therapy is easier said than done. I feel to be on an eternal "waiting list"......since January.

    Something needs to happen because when I look in a mirror I see a huge fat bloated ugly ugly person looking back....and I am assured that I'm neither hugely fat nor ugly...........however in my head I am. I so am. Go figure.
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    Apr 20, 2013 9:35 AM GMT
    anthony2394 saidMost of the I feel alone and isolated .


    NTSA
  • rudolphe

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    Apr 24, 2013 3:26 AM GMT
    When the op doesn't respond to the other posters advice and or support it kind of makes you think he's not even lookin at the thread huh :/


    And Anthony I'm sorry to hear that you've been struggling lately. Unfortunately I can't really offer any advice that would be different than from what some of the more sage and respectable members have already posted. Jut know that your not alone Anthony, if your still struggling or could use someone to talk to feel free to message me, my ears always open for friends. The same goes for you Rowing Ant.
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    Apr 24, 2013 3:28 AM GMT
    I got some nice pills from the doctor and spend a lot of time online here and other sites
  • mr_bijae

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    Apr 24, 2013 3:35 AM GMT
    A book that really helped me through some dark times in my life:

    The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

    http://amzn.com/1577314808

    By learning to live in the moment I was able to focus on the problems that were really facing me, not the thousand upon thousand of issues that my mind was creating. The mind is a wonderful tool, and when it doesn't have a complex problem to solve, it makes one up then tries to solve it. In the book The Power Of Now you'll find tools to help you put the mind at rest when you don't need it, giving you some very tranquil moments of clarity.

    You CAN overcome depression and anxiety through meditation!!!

    Years later I found this poster and I find it to be true:

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    Apr 24, 2013 3:38 AM GMT
    Exercise is great for anxiety & depression. As far as treatment, the best treatment is talk therapy combined with medications (assuming your symptoms warrant meds).

    Your life could completely turnaround in a moment - never know what tomorrow will bring, so, trying to stay positive is a must.
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    Apr 24, 2013 5:29 AM GMT
    OP and Others: You are def NOT alone - there are many many of us on RJ that deal with these issues and it's discussed often. Take heart, try to focus on the light and positive as best you can - and seek professional help. Hang in there!
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    Apr 24, 2013 5:40 AM GMT
    Hang in there,Chief! It gets better. I have always found it best when I feel my worse to (sometimes force) myself to get out and go do something. Anxiety (Panic Attacks) run in my family. With all the media hype and bullshit images of what we are supposed to be; it's easy to get depressed. Growing older with no spouse or children can be depressing as well, but it all comes back to your mind set. It helps to stay positive and surround yourself with supportive folks. Thant's easier said than done at first.
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    Apr 24, 2013 5:43 AM GMT
    I'm depressed that my therapist charges $110 an hour!
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    Apr 24, 2013 4:17 PM GMT
    timshel saidI'm depressed that my therapist charges $110 an hour!

    Wow! That's more depressing.
    I read somewhere " A doctor treats your illness by giving you treatment and then kills you by giving you the bills"
    Seems like your therapist is justifying it.
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    Apr 24, 2013 4:21 PM GMT
    Harry7785 said
    timshel saidI'm depressed that my therapist charges $110 an hour!

    Wow! That's more depressing.
    I read somewhere " A doctor treats your illness by giving you treatment and then kills you by giving you the bills"
    Seems like your therapist is justifying it.
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    In Chicago a good psychiatrist is $200 for 45 minutes! Count your blessings! You're getting things for less than half price.
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    Apr 24, 2013 4:26 PM GMT
    timshel saidI'm depressed that my therapist charges $110 an hour!


    That's cheap for NYC! icon_cool.gif
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    Apr 26, 2013 2:21 AM GMT
    [quote]
    You CAN overcome depression and anxiety through meditation!!!

    Years later I found this poster and I find it to be true:

    jQcJd3q.jpg[/quote]

    This is very true.
  • rudolphe

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    Apr 26, 2013 3:53 AM GMT
    VenkyJock said[quote]
    You CAN overcome depression and anxiety through meditation!!!

    Years later I found this poster and I find it to be true:

    jQcJd3q.jpg


    This is very true. [/quote]

    Lol of course it's true, I should slap some common sense on a jpeg and claim to be spiritual too.
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    Apr 26, 2013 5:28 PM GMT
    I have struggled with depressive disorder for my whole life. I've tried at least 15 different medications and either they didn't work or the side effects were worse than the disease. Been through therapy and that helps sometimes. I recently went through a study at UCLA and did electro magnetic therapy which worked for a while, but now am back to the struggle although my symptoms have lessened.

    I have found a group called recovery international, it is helping because it is theory that works by retraining you thought process, with the added benefit of being able to go to a group sort of like AA. In my experience depression is an illness, that for me , is going to be life long, how depressing is that icon_surprised.gif You can get the reading materials online, just google recovery international.

    Isolation is part of the disease and I know it's hard to be social when you really don't want to be. I have to force myself quite often to do things, but usually enjoy myself when I do. My best advice is make a program that works for you. For me it is exercise, duh :-), keeping my mind busy with positive thoughts, and doing things that bring me joy. And remember you are not alone.

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    Apr 26, 2013 5:33 PM GMT
    Rowing_Ant saidTherapy is easier said than done. I feel to be on an eternal "waiting list"......since January.

    Something needs to happen because when I look in a mirror I see a huge fat bloated ugly ugly person looking back....and I am assured that I'm neither hugely fat nor ugly...........however in my head I am. I so am. Go figure.


    Why do you have to be on a waiting list? My friends who had depression went to there regular doctor and he got them to the psychiatrst doctor within a week and he put them on medicine Zolaft I think and in a few weeks they were much better.