Does facial hair change the way people perceive and treat you?

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    Apr 12, 2013 9:27 PM GMT
    This morning, I used my beard trimmer to trim my full (but well-groomed) goatee into a stubble look. I figured I wanted to have the "edge" a beard gives you without having it dominate your face the way a beard can.

    Then, the strangest thing happened today when I went into town to work. Now, to preface, I'm usually the Southern gentleman who says hello or at least nods his head to people he passes by, especially if they're girls. On the way down, I ran into a random girl, who really took notice of me and smiled back. I ran into an old lady and she did the same. As did someone by the river. It was so odd. Then, when I was studying at Starbucks, a girl across from me started to flirt with me, and then another beautiful girl later sat in the same spot and was sort of flirtatiously shy around me. Similar things happened on my way home in the evening.

    When I had my goatee, this sort of thing just wasn't happening. I had noticed that strangers weren't being quite as friendly to me as they were in the Fall when I was clean-shaven (but the difference wasn't night and day like it was today, probably since I was really overweight in the Fall). I mean, a few months ago, when I was reading in a pub, I asked the bartender (an older lady) to hold my backpack and gym bag while I went to church across the street. I had done this before no problem with another bartender (I'm a "regular" at this pub), but she was extremely hesitant, and after I tried to hand her my stuff, she asked me whether there was a bomb in my backpack in a serious tone, and I just couldn't believe my ears. She thought I was a terrorist lol! She made me put my backpack down in a back room - she wouldn't touch it. That night I did really shorten my goatee and kept it shorter. Usually people look at me and think I'm a cute, nice guy. I didn't want people to look at me and think I was some sort of dark, imposing, sinister person.

    But anyway, there seems to be a night and day difference in the way people approach me depending upon my facial hair, at least if the past few months are any indication. Have any of y'all had similar experiences? Or perhaps the inverse: are people sometimes nicer to you when you do have a beard? Also, do you guys who are on the "cuter" side of things tend to grab other guys' attention more when you have a more scruffy look, or has it mattered at all? I'm liking my new style, especially with the results I got today haha. Always fun to try something new icon_cool.gif
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    Apr 12, 2013 9:37 PM GMT
    Now I have a beard a lot of ladies will look at give me a smile and bla bla bla guys on the other hand seem to be more put off by my beard they'll look but only fleetingly and then look away and pretend they haven't seen me.

    Although BEST PART I have to move out of peoples way less, they see me coming and the crowd just moves out of my way (although I move outta the way of old people, pregnant ladies, anyone who you should move outta the way for)

    It all depends on the person though, most everyone thinks I look better with a beard when they know me but think I look more intimidating especially when I'm in a shitty mood and it shows on my face.

    It just depends on the person really the kind of attention you'll get when you have a beard. Girls seem to flirt with me more guys seem more hesitant with me. the other way around it was guys would be a lot less hesitant and girls would mostly ignore me.
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    Apr 12, 2013 9:40 PM GMT
    funny. going to do an experiment about that later. i took a pic of me with facial hair earlier, pic didn't get approved yet and i'm going to take a pic with my beard and mustache shaved off later like an hour or so. anybody else interested in doing the same thing for fun? maybe we can share opinions on the perceptions we have on the before and after pics.
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    Apr 12, 2013 9:59 PM GMT
    People think I look younger when I am more shaved and cleaned up. And older with the facial hair
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    Apr 12, 2013 10:08 PM GMT
    scaredmidget saidfunny. going to do an experiment about that later. i took a pic of me with facial hair earlier, pic didn't get approved yet and i'm going to take a pic with my beard and mustache shaved off later like an hour or so. anybody else interested in doing the same thing for fun? maybe we can share opinions on the perceptions we have on the before and after pics.


    Half of my pics are of me clean-shaven, and half with a goatee. None are with my current look, but you can compare me clean-shaven vs goatee.
  • jo2hotbod

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    Apr 13, 2013 12:25 AM GMT
    Facial hair is currently in, at least the trimmed, groomed, defined look
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    Apr 13, 2013 12:49 AM GMT
    Your goatee ain't cute, that's why.
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    Apr 13, 2013 1:24 AM GMT
    Yes. When I don't shave (or trim), my sparse facial hairs tend to make me look like a bum. lol
  • hdurdinr

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    Apr 13, 2013 1:46 AM GMT
    It's true - the fuller the beard the more people ignore you!
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    Apr 13, 2013 1:52 AM GMT
    McQueen saidYour goatee ain't cute, that's why.


    Hah, thanks for letting me know icon_lol.gif
  • Whipmagic

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    Apr 13, 2013 2:00 AM GMT
    I started to grow a beard about five years ago. It has definitely changed who is interested in me, but I can't say that I get more or less attention. In the professional realm, it seems to have added a bit of gravitas that I may have been perceived to lack earlier.
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    Apr 13, 2013 2:04 AM GMT
    Whipmagic saidI started to grow a beard about five years ago. It has definitely changed who is interested in me

    Yes... it attracts bears and not big hot buff bears either...

    Seriously, I have a beard that does not make me a bear. It makes a man who can grow a damn beard and grow it well!
  • Devix

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    Apr 13, 2013 2:08 AM GMT
    Totally, when i'm shaved, i look like i'm 17, nobody gives me credit.
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    Apr 13, 2013 2:11 AM GMT
    McQueen saidYour goatee ain't cute, that's why.


    Your face ain't cute. Now go back under your rock.
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    Apr 13, 2013 2:14 AM GMT
    hdurdinr saidIt's true - the fuller the beard the more people ignore you!


    Must be a regional thing. Here in New Orleans, I get more attention with a full beard. Seems like the scruffier the better here. Plus I get a lot of straight curious guys come up and run their fingers through it and tell me how good it looks. They don't do that when I'm clean shaven!
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    Apr 13, 2013 2:18 AM GMT
    Y E S
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    Apr 13, 2013 2:19 AM GMT
    yes
  • RaggedyMan

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    Apr 13, 2013 2:22 AM GMT
    Beard, goatee, nomad look. All of which help me with nothing. They do draw the attention away from my burly eye brows though.
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    Apr 13, 2013 2:22 AM GMT
    Yeh facial hair makes me look so much more masculine! icon_biggrin.gif
  • He_Man

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    Apr 13, 2013 2:27 AM GMT
    Beards command respect!

    With a beard, you can part and walk on water, create entire universes, and contemplate the mysteries of the universe. From gods to philosophers to world-famous scientists and, even, hot-ass porn stars, having a beard commands respect! The beard is sacred. That is all...

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    Apr 13, 2013 2:33 AM GMT
    He_Man saidBeards command respect!

    With a beard, you can part and walk on water, create entire universes, and contemplate the mysteries of the universe. From gods to philosophers to world-famous scientists and, even, hot-ass porn stars, having a beard commands respect! The beard is sacred. That is all...

    You DO look much better with the Face Fuzz.


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    Apr 13, 2013 2:34 AM GMT
    hdurdinr saidIt's true - the fuller the beard the more people ignore you!


    I've had the opposite experience. I first grew my beard just to see what it looked like. What color will it be? Will it be curly? How thick? I figured most people would hate it and then I'd shave it after a couple of months. Nope.
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    Apr 13, 2013 2:35 AM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    hdurdinr saidIt's true - the fuller the beard the more people ignore you!


    Must be a regional thing. Here in New Orleans, I get more attention with a full beard. Seems like the scruffier the better here. Plus I get a lot of straight curious guys come up and run their fingers through it and tell me how good it looks. They don't do that when I'm clean shaven!


    And then you wake up.
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    Apr 13, 2013 2:35 AM GMT
    Most ppl add anywhere from 8 to 10 years on my age!
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    Apr 13, 2013 2:35 AM GMT
    Nonsense90 said
    Scruffypup said
    hdurdinr saidIt's true - the fuller the beard the more people ignore you!


    Must be a regional thing. Here in New Orleans, I get more attention with a full beard. Seems like the scruffier the better here. Plus I get a lot of straight curious guys come up and run their fingers through it and tell me how good it looks. They don't do that when I'm clean shaven!


    And then you wake up.


    No, I've had the same thing happen to me. People want to touch my beard. Even straight guys sometimes. I think they're curious to feel what it feels like. Soft? Scratchy? And then they'll often add "I can't grow a beard" or "mine isn't as thick as yours when I try to grow mine" or "I've been thinking about growing mine. Does it itch?"