Going to my first ever gay bar tonight (solo)! What should I expect?

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    Apr 13, 2013 5:33 PM GMT
    Not old enough to drink, but really just wanting to go as I've never been before. Not sure the type of bar it is but it's the only gay bar in a town of about 180,000 - so I think it's bound to be crowded. I have to drive just 40 minutes away to go though icon_confused.gif

    I know I've asked before but anything I should expect/prepare myself for? Pretty nervous and excited! icon_razz.gif

    Link to the website:
    http://www.partnersbarhuntsville.com/
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    Apr 13, 2013 5:38 PM GMT
    Oh, no I would never go to a bar/club alone. That's just asking to get rapped in all your orifices!! Don't go alone!
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    Apr 13, 2013 5:40 PM GMT
    Seric saidOh, no I would never go to a bar/club alone. That's just asking to get rapped in all your orifices!! Don't go alone!


    I don't think anyone's going to rape me right in the middle of a bar haha! Right? Right? icon_eek.gif
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    Apr 13, 2013 5:48 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh said
    I don't think anyone's going to rape me right in the middle of a bar haha! Right? Right? icon_eek.gif

    This seems to be a grill as well as a bar, which I presume admits under 21, like our "Rosie's" here. Therefore you won't be raped, and you might not have access to the bar if it's closed off from the dining area. I don't know the place, though I've been in Huntsville. Anybody been there? They have a number you can call.
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    Apr 13, 2013 5:50 PM GMT
    ART_DECO said
    JumpMan_Josh said
    I don't think anyone's going to rape me right in the middle of a bar haha! Right? Right? icon_eek.gif

    This seems to be a grill as well as a bar, which I presume admits under 21, like our "Rosie's" here. Therefore you won't be raped, and you might not have access to the bar if it's closed off from the dining area. I don't know the place, though I've been in Huntsville. Anybody been there? They have a number you can call.


    Yeah my friend (who's 21) has been there a couple of times, and he's said it's not separated. I think they put an "X" on your hand so you can't buy any type of alcohol.

    I'm just so confused what to do. Can I order water at a bar? Am I supposed to tip bartenders for water? What if there's no place to sit? So many questions... haha
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    Apr 13, 2013 6:06 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh said
    ART_DECO said
    JumpMan_Josh said
    I don't think anyone's going to rape me right in the middle of a bar haha! Right? Right? icon_eek.gif

    This seems to be a grill as well as a bar, which I presume admits under 21, like our "Rosie's" here. Therefore you won't be raped, and you might not have access to the bar if it's closed off from the dining area. I don't know the place, though I've been in Huntsville. Anybody been there? They have a number you can call.

    Yeah my friend (who's 21) has been there a couple of times, and he's said it's not separated. I think they put an "X" on your hand so you can't buy any type of alcohol.

    I'm just so confused what to do. Can I order water at a bar? Am I supposed to tip bartenders for water? What if there's no place to sit? So many questions... haha

    You'll get the hang of it quick enough. Mixed-age bars like that will either stamp or otherwise mark the back of your hand, or band your wrist. Then you can order anything non-alcoholic at the bar. You should always tip the bartender for anything served to you, even water.

    You'll prolly be given chilled bottled water, costing nearly as much as a soft drink. A Coke or Sprite in a glass on ice will look the same as a mixed drink, especially if you ask for a slice of lime, might make you feel less self-conscious about your age.

    I think you'll be relieved how tame it's gonna be. I hope you have fun. And be sure to LOOK like you're having fun & smiling the whole time, you'll meet more guys that way, if that's on your agenda. Tell yourself it's gonna be fun just by being there as a first-time observer, no matter you do, and that positive glow will be noticed by others.
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    Apr 13, 2013 6:07 PM GMT
    Seric saidOh, no I would never go to a bar/club alone. That's just asking to get rapped in all your orifices!! Don't go alone!


    man, please. he'll be fine. i would say just be cool and chill out. if anybody pushes up on you on some "are we fucking or not?" try to push the conversation to something else or let them know that you're not interested in that kind of action.
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    Apr 13, 2013 6:39 PM GMT
    Sounds awesome - Thanks Art! I'm really going for a chillaxed, fun, time anyway and I'll be sure to look like I'm having fun icon_razz.gif




    scaredmidget said
    Seric saidOh, no I would never go to a bar/club alone. That's just asking to get rapped in all your orifices!! Don't go alone!


    man, please. he'll be fine. i would say just be cool and chill out. if anybody pushes up on you on some "are we fucking or not?" try to push the conversation to something else or let them know that you're not interested in that kind of action.


    Thanks for the tip! Ya, even though I'm in a long-distance relationship for now I'm really not looking for hookups. Just meeting new people and socializing I guess!
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    Apr 13, 2013 6:48 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh saidSounds awesome - Thanks Art! I'm really going for a chillaxed, fun, time anyway and I'll be sure to look like I'm having fun icon_razz.gif




    scaredmidget said
    Seric saidOh, no I would never go to a bar/club alone. That's just asking to get rapped in all your orifices!! Don't go alone!


    man, please. he'll be fine. i would say just be cool and chill out. if anybody pushes up on you on some "are we fucking or not?" try to push the conversation to something else or let them know that you're not interested in that kind of action.


    Thanks for the tip! Ya, even though I'm in a long-distance relationship for now I'm really not looking for hookups. Just meeting new people and socializing I guess!


    it's an interesting experience. i wouldn't heavily rely on what some people say about gay bars being a place where you'll get sexually harassed by whoever because your experience might be different. i've been to a few gay bars within the last year with others and alone and i didn't have guys preying on me like that at all. no one touched me, patted my ass, hit on me or anything like that. icon_lol.gif was able to socialize, make conversations and basically have a guys night out with other guys at the bar. icon_razz.gif it was fun. not everyone that goes to a gay bar is interested in having sex with random guys. wish you the best of luck.
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    Apr 13, 2013 6:54 PM GMT
    To be roofied.



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    Apr 13, 2013 6:59 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]_SAGE_ said[/cite]To be roofied.

    Roofies in water? Psh, I hope they're more classy than that icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 13, 2013 7:07 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh saidSounds awesome - Thanks Art! I'm really going for a chillaxed, fun, time anyway and I'll be sure to look like I'm having fun icon_razz.gif

    Please let us know how it goes. A bar & grill atmosphere, which allows mixed ages, will be an easy introduction to a gay place.

    When I was a faculty advisor to a university "10% Club" GLBT student organization we had mixed-age functions like this all the time, to accommodate all the college students. Underage got wrist banded to control alcohol, we arranged entertainment (often drag shows like your place has, DJs and special acts), and we tried to create a fun, safe, non-threatening experience for these young people, many of whom had never socialized with large groups of GLBT until they came to our campus.

    I think you're gonna be just fine. This sounds like a good formula for you. You may do little your first night, but you'll know in subsequent visits how to maximize your enjoyment of the place. Have fun! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 13, 2013 7:12 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh said[quote][cite]_SAGE_ said[/cite]To be roofied.

    Roofies in water? Psh, I hope they're more classy than that icon_razz.gif


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    Apr 13, 2013 7:23 PM GMT
    You should expect disappointment.
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    Apr 13, 2013 7:23 PM GMT
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    Well, maybe a drag king show tonight. If so you might see lots of lesbians there. Doesn't mention a cover, but bring some cash anyway, for tipping, and valet parking if they have it.
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    Apr 13, 2013 7:33 PM GMT
    Hopefully you have an awesome time! I haven't been to a Gay Club/Bar yet either (only 20 years old), but Im excited to.

    Why are you goin' alone?
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    Apr 13, 2013 7:40 PM GMT
    If you are going alone, you should consider how to get out of chit-chat with a guy who is attracted to you, but not vice-versa.
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    Apr 13, 2013 7:59 PM GMT
    bus9ja2d saidIf you are going alone, you should consider how to get out of chit-chat with a guy who is attracted to you, but not vice-versa.
    "I have to go to the bathroom. I have diarrhea."

    Works every time. icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 13, 2013 8:00 PM GMT
    bus9ja2d saidIf you are going alone, you should consider how to get out of chit-chat with a guy who is attracted to you, but not vice-versa.


    This.

    Also, be prepared to "stay the night" just in case you get lucky.

    Bring rubbers.
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    Apr 13, 2013 8:02 PM GMT
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    bus9ja2d saidIf you are going alone, you should consider how to get out of chit-chat with a guy who is attracted to you, but not vice-versa.
    "I have to go to the bathroom. I have diarrhea."

    Works every time. icon_lol.gif


    I used to use "sorry, but I'm not interested". But it doesn't work with some of them! Now I say I have an STD, that usually sees them off icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 13, 2013 8:31 PM GMT
    Sounds boring unless you expect to get hit on or you plan on being direct and walking up to people to start conversation. Though that can be intimidating unless you see other solo guys around you're interested in talking with (would be a bit awkward walking up to a group of people).

    Also just get ice water from the tap! Bottled water is a waste of money IMO. Still tip.
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    Apr 13, 2013 8:36 PM GMT
    If there are lots of lesbians there it could work out quite well, because they will be an easy option to chat to e.g. "I haven't heard of drag kings before, how are they different to drag queens?"
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    Apr 13, 2013 8:36 PM GMT
    some people go there alone for one night stand
    if u are nervous, better go with friends icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 13, 2013 9:48 PM GMT
    Wish I were going w/ you Josh. You could take me in with a studded collar and leash, me in my leather thong. You'd get to fight all the other young pups off. icon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 13, 2013 11:26 PM GMT
    Better take your ID icon_biggrin.gif