The worst and/or most uncomfortable date

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    Apr 13, 2013 5:34 PM GMT
    I have had some good dates and I have had some BAD dates. I thought it would be fun if we shared our stories, maybe help with the “what not to do’s” that don’t come naturally to some people…

    The one date that will always stick out in my head was with a guy I met through Facebook. He was a friend of a friend and sent me a random message and we began to chat. He was really attractive and a chemical engineer (we are both science nerds), so we really hit it off through conversation. He asked me what I had planned for the night and I told him about the bar I was meeting my friends at. Turned out the bar was right around the corner from his place. He suggested we meet and have a drink, I accepted his offer. We met that night and it was actually really pleasant, until shit hit the fan!
    To make this story short… By the end of the night he had invited me to move in with him, on his family vacation the following month so i could meet his entire family, told me he was falling in love with me, and to top it off… the end of the night he cried because he had to go out of the country for work the next day and he didn’t want to have to leave me… I never talked to him again after that night.
    I know what you're thinking, but he was sober. He only had one beer the entire night.
  • LoveAndPeace

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    Apr 14, 2013 3:53 AM GMT
    Dude sounds cray cray...maybe he doesn't have a high tolerance for alcohol? Ask him do u remember last night and were u sober?
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    Apr 14, 2013 4:01 AM GMT
    Um....I don't think alcohol was his problem. The guy was clearly on something and it wasn't alcohol.
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    Apr 15, 2013 7:34 AM GMT
    Erik101 saidUm....I don't think alcohol was his problem. The guy was clearly on something and it wasn't alcohol.


    Yeah, love drugs.
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    Apr 15, 2013 8:02 AM GMT
    Haha... There was a recent topic about how long you should wait before telling someone that you love them:

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3133274/

    I guess this pretty much answers that question.

    My worst dating experience was with a closeted, marine guy. We met on line and talked for several weeks before making arrangements to meet up at a bar in town, but because he couldn't be outed (DADT time) he only wanted to meet up at a straight, local bar. I didn't have a problem with it, so I said sure, why not. I get to the bar and reached over to hug him, and he immediately put his arms in between me and him to block the hug and stuck out his hand to give me a proper, manly handshake. It was just a simple hug. I wasn't going to rip his pants off and fuck him in public -- Jeesh!

    The night only got worse. All throughout the night, he kept looking over his shoulder and around to make sure that he didn't recognize anyone. I thought that he was in witness protection because he was freaking out all night. We finished our drinks and then walked out of the bar. Him first and then I followed him out so as not to be too suspicious. Yeah, right? I know...

    After that ordeal it just continued to get worse. I was walking beside him down the side walk, and he spots one of his fellow marine friends and freaks out. He told me to walk on the other side of the street. I was like WTF icon_exclaim.gif You want me to walk to the other side of the street so that you can walk up to your friend and act like you weren't out getting dick!

    Well, I was stupid enough to stick around when I should have just walked away and left. I walked across the street, thinking I would just stand there and wait, but the two of them started walking down the street together talking. I had to keep up with them on the other side of the street so I wouldn't lose sight of him. How fucking embarrassing that was! I was following my date down the street from the opposite side of the rode because he didn't want to introduce me to his marine buddy. I'm not that fucking gay that you have to hide me so as not to out yourself. Well, I did have a tight muscle shirt on, so maybe that was gay enough.

    About three blocks of me following the two from the opposite side of the street, they finally said their goodbyes and my date walked across the street to get me. I basically walked with him back to where he parked and said, "well that was fun!" He thanked me for meeting him and asked if I wanted to go out again sometime, which I immediately replied, "will we be dinning in the same restaurant together, or will we be getting reservations in two separate restaurants and talking by phone or text?" He didn't understand my sarcasm, so I said that I would call him if I was interested. Let's just say that I've never called him back!
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    Apr 15, 2013 8:09 AM GMT
    He_Man saidHaha... There was a recent topic about how long you should wait before telling someone that you love them:

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3133274/

    I guess this pretty much answers that question.

    My worst dating experience was with a closeted, marine guy. We met on line and talked for several weeks before making arrangements to meet up at a bar in town, but because he couldn't be outed (DADT time) he only wanted to meet up at a straight, local bar. I didn't have a problem with it, so I said sure, why not. I get to the bar and reached over to hug him, and he immediately put his arms in between me and him to block the hug and stuck out his hand to give me a proper, manly handshake. It was just a simple hug. I wasn't going to rip his pants off and fuck him in public -- Jeesh!

    The night only got worse. All throughout the night, he kept looking over his shoulder and around to make sure that he didn't recognize anyone. I thought that he was in witness protection because he was freaking out all night. We finished our drinks and then walked out of the bar. Him first and then I followed him out so as to to be too suspicious. Yeah, right? I know...

    After that ordeal it just continued to get worse. I was walking beside him down the side walk, and he spots one of his fellow marine friends and freaks out. He told me to walk on the other side of the street. I was like WTF icon_exclaim.gif You want me to walk to the other side of the street so that you can walk up to your friend and act like you weren't out getting dick!

    Well, I was stupid enough to stick around when I should have just walked away and left. I walked across the street, thinking I would just stand there and wait, but the two of them started walking down the street together talking. I had to keep up with them on the other side of the street so I wouldn't lose sight of him. How fucking embarrassing that was! I was following my date down the street from the opposite side of the rode because he didn't want to introduce me to his marine buddy. I'm not that fucking gay that you have to hide me so as not to out yourself. Well, I did have a tight muscle shirt on, so maybe that was gay enough.

    About three blocks of me following the two from the opposite side of the street, they finally said their goodbyes and my date walked across the street to get me. I basically walked with him back to where he parked and said, "well that was fun!" He thanked me for meeting him and asked if I wanted to go out again sometime, which I immediately replied, "will we be dinning in the same restaurant together, or will we be getting reservations in two separate restaurants and talking by phone or text?" He didn't understand my sarcasm, so I said that I would call him if I was interested. Let's just say that I've never called him back!



    What a bastard, i was texting this guy who is a soldier last month and he was really interested in getting me to go to his house so we i could ' lay on his couch with him ' i kept telling him no i dont go to strangers houses, every time i tried to set up a public he'd be all like ' i'm in the closet ' blaaaah baaah blaaah, seriously its not like i'm going to jump his ballsack and tong kiss i cant stand being someones dirty secret
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    Apr 21, 2013 6:04 PM GMT
    njbu2004 saidI have had some good dates and I have had some BAD dates. I thought it would be fun if we shared our stories, maybe help with the “what not to do’s” that don’t come naturally to some people…

    The one date that will always stick out in my head was with a guy I met through Facebook. He was a friend of a friend and sent me a random message and we began to chat. He was really attractive and a chemical engineer (we are both science nerds), so we really hit it off through conversation. He asked me what I had planned for the night and I told him about the bar I was meeting my friends at. Turned out the bar was right around the corner from his place. He suggested we meet and have a drink, I accepted his offer. We met that night and it was actually really pleasant, until shit hit the fan!
    To make this story short… By the end of the night he had invited me to move in with him, on his family vacation the following month so i could meet his entire family, told me he was falling in love with me, and to top it off… the end of the night he cried because he had to go out of the country for work the next day and he didn’t want to have to leave me… I never talked to him again after that night.
    I know what you're thinking, but he was sober. He only had one beer the entire night.

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    Apr 21, 2013 6:13 PM GMT
    My worst date thus far was meeting a guy from online. We did the occasional txt chats online. He was pretty good looking from the pictures that he sent me, not exactly my type but I figured I'd give him a chance to see if we clicked in person.

    The actual date was horrible. He was indecisive on where to eat and what to do (I think if you're the 'host' per say, you should have this figured out). We ended up eating at a Taco Diner... worst food ever. I couldn't even eat like half of their tiny taco's haha. I wasn't attracted to him, and even more so after he began talking. The entire dinner conversation revolved around his ex, how he goes to church for "fun" even though he's not religious, and how he hates anything that resembles any femininity. He repeatedly talked about how his ex would show rare feminine characteristics and how he hated it. Ugh I could not wait to get out of there!

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    Apr 21, 2013 6:26 PM GMT
    OK - I'll play...

    22 Years old...alone at a bar where a REALLY drunk Guy three times bigger than Me tries to get physical...

    Guy next to Me says - "HEY HE's WITH ME --BACK OFF."

    Which he did.

    I thanked him and offered to buy him a drink.

    He said he didn't have time but asked Me to have dnner with him -- a fair deal I thought.

    I gave him My number and he was gone.

    The next morning I get a call -- let's have dinner.

    K.

    I'm in.

    so that night I am sitting in a Thai restaurant on Hudson Street and in walks My date.

    Wearing an orange jumpsuit unzipped to the waist with a black fishnet t-shirt underneath.

    Three minutes in I realize he has a vocabulary slightly larger than that of a 2-year old donkey.

    I wound up staring out the window trying to think of an elegant way to exit when he asks "What are You thinking????"

    A completely irritating question with no right answer and for ONCE in My life I was TRULY not really thinking anything I was willing to share.

    So, I just looked at him kinda blankly.

    In a VERY loud voice he said - "I know what You are thinking...You are thinking of what I am like in bed!!!!!"

    ALL of the tables around Us slowly turned around and looked...

    If I had a pellet of pure cyanide I would have gladly bit down on it at that moment.
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    Apr 21, 2013 6:36 PM GMT
    Cash saidOK - I'll play...

    22 Years old...alone at a bar where a REALLY drunk Guy three times bigger than Me tries to get physical...

    Guy next to Me says - "HEY HE's WITH ME --BACK OFF."

    Which he did.

    I thanked him and offered to buy him a drink.

    He said he didn't have time but asked Me to have dnner with him -- a fair deal I thought.

    I gave him My number and he was gone.

    The next morning I get a call -- let's have dinner.

    K.

    I'm in.

    so that night I am sitting in a Thai restaurant on Hudson Street and in walks My date.

    Wearing an orange jumpsuit unzipped to the waist with a black fishnet t-shirt underneath.

    Three minutes in I realize he has a vocabulary slightly larger than that of a 2-year old donkey.

    I wound up staring out the window trying to think of an elegant way to exit when he asks "What are You thinking????"

    A completely irritating question with no right answer and for ONCE in My life I was TRULY not really thinking anything I was willing to share.

    So, I just looked at him kinda blankly.

    In a VERY loud voice he said - "I know what You are thinking...You are thinking of what I am like in bed!!!!!"

    ALL of the tables around Us slowly turned around and looked...

    If I had a pellet of pure cyanide I would have gladly bit down on it at that moment.


    HOLY SHITE, that's bad
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    Apr 21, 2013 7:02 PM GMT
    Love is pain.
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    Apr 21, 2013 7:08 PM GMT
    Ick - poor thing; posterchild for emotional dependence if there ever were one. Better for you that nothing more came of it.

    Worst date - met a guy from A4A in 2011. Kind of fratty guy, very closeted, and wouldn't even tell me exactly what kind of work he did. Involved sales of some sort, but even when he told me, he was looking around the restaurant to make sure no one overheard him. The date really jumped the shark when he remarked how he really didn't like black people all that much. It went downhill from there. Haven't seen him or heard from him since, which is perfect with me.
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    Apr 24, 2013 5:34 PM GMT
    @cash - that is priceless!