..uh..what?

  • wherewillwebe

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    Apr 14, 2013 10:10 AM GMT
    say....
    you 'MAY' be going away in 4 years and a guy you are seeing says that he wouldn't want to see you too often because he might fall in love with you if he saw you too often and it would be too hard for him to get over you when you're gone 4 years later

    I don't get it..uh..what?icon_eek.gif
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    Apr 14, 2013 10:37 AM GMT
    yeah he's not into you sweetie.

    Go find a better investment
  • marcussollice

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    Apr 14, 2013 10:52 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidyeah he's not into you sweetie.

    Go find a better investment


    Kinda reminds me of Rihanna's We found love! lol
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    Apr 14, 2013 11:19 AM GMT
    hmm...looks like he may have already fell in love!
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    Apr 14, 2013 12:16 PM GMT
    You're being played. Wow, are you really this clueless? Four years? Seriously?
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    Apr 14, 2013 1:01 PM GMT
    wherewillwebe saidsay....
    you 'MAY' be going away in 4 years and a guy you are seeing says that he wouldn't want to see you too often because he might fall in love with you if he saw you too often and it would be too hard for him to get over you when you're gone 4 years later

    I don't get it..uh..what?icon_eek.gif

    It may well be a lame excuse in lieu of telling you that he's really not serious about you, as some are suggesting here.

    But... for some guys it could be legitimate, at least per their logic. Let's say he's well established where he is (Brisbane area, right?), with a solid career, home investment, network of friends. He has no desire to ever relocate, happy to remain indefinitely where he is.

    Now you come along, and tell him you're just a temporary thing by his time lines, you'll spend a few years with him and then off you go. Why would he invest in a relationship like that? Would you expect him to pull up substantial roots at mid-life and follow you? What if he's looking for a life partner? Why should he take a 4-year detour from his planned path to go up a dead-end street with you? When he hopes to find his partner right there in Brisbane.

    One can argue about true love trumping all other considerations. But some guys, especially as they get older (and what's his age?) want both, love and the status quo they've already built. And after all, if you're so definite about relocating in 4 years, can't he also be equally firm & fixed about STAYING where he is in 4 years?

    In which case he may be doing you both a favor. You find yourself a transient, while he'll find himself a Brisbane fixture.
  • calibro

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    Apr 14, 2013 3:04 PM GMT
    for a second i was concerned... then i saw you're from brizzy
  • wherewillwebe

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    Apr 14, 2013 10:26 PM GMT
    cheers, ta icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 14, 2013 10:30 PM GMT
    he's a fuckamagician, he's one of those guys who will fuck with your head and make you think they like you and then go out with someone else,

    Fuckamagicians are the worse
  • wherewillwebe

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    Apr 16, 2013 3:55 AM GMT
    but he wouldn't like me to see other guys..he wants to be exclusiveicon_eek.gif