How to ask a friend/acquaintance on a date?

  • WhoDey

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    Apr 15, 2013 4:09 AM GMT
    Do you specifically say "Lets go out on a date?" Would saying "Lets hang out" or "Lets grab a drink" be too vague? Seems like the latter would be easier to ask because it relieves the pressure for both parties. But the former gets directly to the point
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    Apr 15, 2013 4:15 AM GMT
    "Wanna go for a coffee sometime?" usually works.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Apr 15, 2013 5:08 AM GMT
    "Would you like to go out for dinner and catch a movie?"
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    Apr 15, 2013 5:11 AM GMT
    Depends on your personality.

    The direct approach: Simply tell him you are interested in him and want to go out

    The indirect approach: Invite to hang out in a casual atmosphere and flirt whenever you get the opportunity. Repeat until he gets the message.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Apr 15, 2013 5:20 AM GMT
    "Do you want to go get a drink" is the easiest and least date sounding .. then just see where things go from there .... remember: don't drink and drive ... take a cab if you have too much to drink to avoid an awesome night becoming a night in hell
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    Apr 15, 2013 11:32 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk said"Do you want to go get a drink" is the easiest and least date sounding .. then just see where things go from there .... remember: don't drink and drive ... take a cab if you have too much to drink to avoid an awesome night becoming a night in hell


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    Apr 15, 2013 4:01 PM GMT
    (taking notes)
  • Destinharbor

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    Apr 15, 2013 4:33 PM GMT
    None of these answers are getting to the point. But it is tricky. Sooner or later you're going to have to cross the friendship line. If you just ask him out for a drink, it may not occur to him that you are interested in romance and you end up having drinks with a buddy. Try testing the waters at home in front of the TV, a game or something you both like. Casually just reach out and put your hand on his shoulder. See what happens. If he leans into it or puts him hand on yours, or otherwise reacts positively, look him in the eye and ask if he'd like to go on a date. (I suggest you not immediately jump him.) Take it slow. You wouldn't want to screw up your friendship. And it might take him a while to adjust his thinking... or... he may be thinking that way, too. Or not. If he appears uncomfortable, just say "Sorry, man. You just looked so fucking cute sitting there. We're cool."
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    Apr 15, 2013 4:54 PM GMT
    McQueen said"Wanna go for a coffee sometime?" usually works.
    +1
  • calibro

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    Apr 15, 2013 8:34 PM GMT
    show your peen
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    Apr 15, 2013 9:18 PM GMT
    Wanna fuck?
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    Apr 15, 2013 9:24 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk said"Would you like to go out for dinner and catch a movie?"


    I know. Seems simple enough.

    I would add: "My treat."

    Then see how the "date" goes. If it goes well ask them out on another and another and eventually you can bring up the fact that you like them more than just a friend or acquaintance and that you'd like to take the relationship to another level.

    That's the way boys and girls do it. It should also work for boy and boys too.
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    Apr 15, 2013 9:36 PM GMT
    Apparently this is a "new" acquaintance, and you don't know what he or she is interested in. Movies are great first dates, since you are not expected to talk. So, start with "Hey, do you like movies?"
    [yeah]
    "Have you seen x?"
    {no, not yet - or No, I haven't heard of it]
    "Well [after explanation] it's on Wednesday at 7:30. Want to go?"
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    Apr 15, 2013 10:02 PM GMT
    Puppenjunge saidMovies are great first dates, since you are not expected to talk.


    No, movies are great first dates since it gives you something to talk about afterwards over drinks.

    And it gives you the opportunity to use the old poke your cock through a hole in the bottom of the popcorn bucket trick. First dates love that sorta stuff! icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Apr 15, 2013 10:34 PM GMT
    I told ya no buttah on mah corn.....icon_evil.gif
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    Apr 15, 2013 11:17 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidNone of these answers are getting to the point. But it is tricky. Sooner or later you're going to have to cross the friendship line. If you just ask him out for a drink, it may not occur to him that you are interested in romance and you end up having drinks with a buddy. Try testing the waters at home in front of the TV, a game or something you both like. Casually just reach out and put your hand on his shoulder. See what happens. If he leans into it or puts him hand on yours, or otherwise reacts positively, look him in the eye and ask if he'd like to go on a date. (I suggest you not immediately jump him.) Take it slow. You wouldn't want to screw up your friendship. And it might take him a while to adjust his thinking... or... he may be thinking that way, too. Or not. If he appears uncomfortable, just say "Sorry, man. You just looked so fucking cute sitting there. We're cool."



    +1

    I feel you have to be a little more direct. If you ask a friend out for a beer or to the movies, won't it just sound like you want to have a drink or watch a movie as friends? For me especially I'm OBLIVIOUS to any flirting/romantic gesture, so some sort of hint would be appreciated.
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    Apr 16, 2013 2:06 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidWanna fuck?

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  • davidsticky69

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    Apr 16, 2013 7:11 PM GMT
    When in doubt, always ask Joey.

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    Apr 16, 2013 7:25 PM GMT
    turbobilly saidI told ya no buttah on mah corn.....icon_evil.gif


    Dat ain't buttah, Boo!
  • JohnDoe9688

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    Apr 16, 2013 7:43 PM GMT
    I would make sure that your friend wants a romantic date before you try to go ahead and ask/do it. You should be able to tell based on how he interacts with you if youre really good friends or something more. Just let him know youd like to hang out, and then hang out. Try not to be so nervous when you hangout (because remember...he's just human, and probably a little nervous too...especially if you said specifically you want to go on a DATE). Have fun!
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    Apr 16, 2013 8:05 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan said
    turbobilly saidI told ya no buttah on mah corn.....icon_evil.gif


    Dat ain't buttah, Boo!


    Well shit, obviously you don't need me huhr.....or mah furtive gropin.....icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 17, 2013 12:54 AM GMT
    Ask him to go shopping with you.
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    Apr 17, 2013 1:04 AM GMT
    Laugh at all his stupid jokes, and make it look like you're enjoying it. A few touches here and there, as you laugh. Smiling, eye contact.

    you're welcome.

  • Apr 17, 2013 1:10 AM GMT
    Pick up your balls and get to the point-- "I really like you and think you're attractive" or something similar. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Apparition

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    Apr 17, 2013 5:58 AM GMT
    How about you go hang out somewhere and at the appropriate moment watching tv or something or some hot boy walks by. say:


    "Fuck he just made me horny, it's been so long, I so need a boyfriend, a nice bottom boy who likes to suck dick and get plowed.....know anybody? " 5 second STARE with evil grin. moment of truth and you dont even have to ask to fuck up the relationship.