starting with an older man

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    Apr 15, 2013 4:45 PM GMT
    hey im just after any opinions on whether having sex both oral/anal for my first time would be a good idea with a man about twice my age, its just that i've received an offer and i dont want to keep him hangin...
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    Apr 15, 2013 5:08 PM GMT
    More experience might be a plus side. Might be a good idea to weigh the pros and cons before engaging in any sexual activity though...

    I've only been in a relationship and slept with someone a bit more than half my age, and no complains here!
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    Apr 15, 2013 5:22 PM GMT
    yeah im just tryin to think of all the pros n cons... what could be some cons?
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    Apr 15, 2013 7:09 PM GMT
    justcurious_24 saidyeah im just tryin to think of all the pros n cons... what could be some cons?


    The age think isn't a factor, except possible guilt if you're not comfortable with someone your age.

    Cons for sleeping with someone are all the same. Be careful who you're sleeping with, be safe, make sure things are mutual. Most importantly - be concerned for your safety and have an escape route if things go wrong. Always use a condom!
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    Apr 15, 2013 7:18 PM GMT
    You're about to have gay sex for the first time and you're worried about leaving the other guy hanging? icon_eek.gif

    You're an idiot.

    Do more research before you catch something and spread it through the community.
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    Apr 15, 2013 8:24 PM GMT
    Totally didn't see it was your first time. That changes a lot.

    You're virginity isn't going anywhere dude. Save it for someone who counts, okay? You'll thank yourself in the long run.
  • jayatl56

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    Apr 16, 2013 1:50 PM GMT
    My ex was about half my age and after 4 years he decided that the age gap was too much because, as he put it, he didn't want to take care of an old man when that old man got sickly.

    So if there's a con for you, that might be it. As the older guys gets old you'll be taking care of him.

    On another note, a friend of mine in New Orleans lost a partner a few years back who was about twice his age. They were together for about 12 years I guess and it was a variety of illnesses that finally took him at about 83 years old. My friend is 52. My friend was at his bedside for everything, every sickness, every doctor visit, every therapy session, etc. It was painful to see him as he mourned his partner's death when it came.

    I thought about my ex when that happened and thought that he either just fell out of love or it was a result of his own narcissism. I'm guessing that it was the former rather than latter although he's the most narcissistic fuck on the planet! icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 17, 2013 12:47 AM GMT
    Older guys are HOT! Love to play with the grey hairs.
  • Suetonius

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    Apr 17, 2013 3:41 AM GMT
    justcurious_24 saidhey im just after any opinions on whether having sex both oral/anal for my first time would be a good idea with a man about twice my age, its just that i've received an offer and i dont want to keep him hangin...

    So you're having sex for the first time? Well, you're not going to marry your first one, so his age makes no difference. If you are sexually attracted to him, go for it. If not, don't. One advantage is that he will likely be very experienced, so you might learn a lot faster. And if you really won't kiss a guy (your profile), you might have a hard time finding a compatible partner your age, unless it is strictly bathhouse sex.
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    Apr 17, 2013 4:01 AM GMT
    When I was 18 I went out with 40 year olds. One guy was a hot bartender. They will teach you many things besides sex too.
  • TheBizMan

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    Apr 17, 2013 4:21 AM GMT
    Lol dude.. sex is not some sort of business transaction. If you want to do it, do it.
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    Apr 17, 2013 3:53 PM GMT
    Thanks guys, i appreciate your detailed responses, and i think i will be taking up some of them!
  • helloandgoodb...

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    Apr 22, 2013 12:34 PM GMT
    chances are he gets off on deflowering virgins. bet it's not all you are hoping for. wait for someone you click with on all levels
  • Destinharbor

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    May 10, 2013 5:47 PM GMT
    helloandgoodbi saidchances are he gets off on deflowering virgins. bet it's not all you are hoping for. wait for someone you click with on all levels

    I'm continually amazed at the guys here that have no more grasp of human emotions and motivations than the stupidest right wing Christians. Or Muslims.