scaredmidget said seriously speaking, i'm kind of flirting with the idea of getting busy with somebody BUT i don't feel that i'm ready to do it. in fact, i don't want to do any of that period-making out, hugging, getting intimate or any of that when the opportunity presents itself right in my face. i am literally scared and getting sick to my stomach thinking about it where i just feel like running away to simply avoid it. the other night before, i had a nightmare about it. don't have a single idea why that is. anybody here can relate?
I think it really depends on the value you give to sex and intimacy. Do you feel like sex is something you should reserve for the right person in the right situation (a committed relationship), or are you just scared of the act itself?
Those feelings are understandable. We're all scared of things that are unfamiliar to us, and that goes beyond sex acts. Sometimes fears are just paper tigers, and all it takes is one experience to clear things up. I'm sure you've been through this in your life in some other way.
There's a difference between "not being ready" and being scared. If you think the former is based on the latter, try to ask yourself why.