Wink saidno offense man but you don't look that masculine,
Maybe he's not which could be his point. By his logic it would also keep masculine guys who would otherwise pass over, ignore, and even insult those who are not masculine out of sight which would be less bothersome to both sides.
Pretty much this. I know I'm far from masculine but I also know I'm not campy fem either. I don't know where I stand honestly but at this point, please excuse my language but I don't give a shit anymore. People have judged me and will judge me for whatever and it's just a part of life. Got to accept it.
And you're right, I do personally feel this type of thing would keep these masculine men to avoid fem guys. I'm sorry but it just seems like such a recurring theme so if a site like this was created, at least those masculine men won't have to interact with a fem guy.
Winkno offense man but you don't look that masculine
Yes, I know I don't look masculine and I know I'm not masculine.
This times a thousand broken mirrors
joeyphyx444This is interesting, but not likely to happen. I guess to verify, there would have to be some people judging the applicants to make sure they are masculine. This would probably be done through a personality questionnaire and possibly the applicant submitting a video of themselves talking and stuff so they could analyze voice and mannerisms. All this is too much work lol
It actually does seem like a lot of work haha. I think they're better off doing the questionaire.
DicerollI'm not sure if having separate sites for masculine and feminine guys would solve the 'wars' - if anything the separation of dating sites by something like that could just make things worse. It's not just feminine guys who ignore the 'what I'm looking for' section on people's profiles anyway - nearly everybody seems to do it.
Plus, how would the site 'screen' guys for their masculinity anyway? As many people on this site point out, a lot of guys who describe themselves as masculine/straight acting etc are anything but.
Yeah I know there could be some cons with such an idea but I don't know personally, it just seems like it could do some good at the same time.
And they'd probably do something like a personality quiz to do the weeding out process.
seoulsearcherHaving separate sites isn't going to do anything to "alleviate the masc fem wars". That's tantamount to saying that apartheid alleviated racism in South Africa. It caused further divisions. Part of the reason why it would actually make things worse is because when you are isolated from other types of people, you generally rely solely on stereotypes to describe the other types of people.
The way is currently works, those that are more masc are generally more accepted in society. Look at the majority of movies that portray gay males. "Brokeback Mountain", arguably the most successful gay male movie, depicts masculine gay males struggling. Whereas "I Love You Phillip Morris" did not do so well because of its effeminate character that was not struggling for rights or acceptance.
I mean my friends pretty much took more stock in me and even some conservative friends were happy I came out. I know their reaction, unfortunately, would be different if I were effeminate.
As time progresses and culture relies less on binaries of what is male and female, then we will see progress. This will only occur with mixing and better education regarding gender and sex.
Yeah, it's already apparent that masculinity is clearly the much more desired trait not only in the gay dating world but also in the straight world too. But that is also why I think if such a site like this existed, it would give the masculine men what they want and repel the guys they don't want. I don't know, I guess I've just heard, seen, and even had some negativity revolving around this subject and I could be partially jaded by people these days. :l