Finally took my first real step..

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    Oct 19, 2008 2:05 AM GMT
    Well, a few days ago, I finally took my first real step into the relationship world. I finally asked this guy I have been crushing on to go out.

    I was VERY nervous, since I wasn't 100% sure he was gay and I have NEVER asked anyone out before in my life (only just came out on New Years Eve/Day). Unfortunatly, he turned me down, not cus he didn't like me(yay), but he already has a boyfriend.

    He DID however take my phone number(yay again) and I asked if maybe him AND his bf would like to hang out sometime. I don't have any gay friends close by really, so even if I can't have him for a BF, I would like to have other gays to hang out with and talk to. Besides, maybe he knows other hunky guys for me to try my luck with. icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 19, 2008 2:12 AM GMT
    Good approach and great attitude. Never take an "all or nothing" approach to the dating world...hopefully you can get to know this couple, then some of their friends and soon you might be introduced to a friend of a friend who you might want to date! Good luck there.
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    Oct 19, 2008 3:16 AM GMT
    you won't catch any guys if you don't throw out a line... good job on taking the first step!!
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    Oct 19, 2008 5:31 AM GMT
    Ditto.

    You're doing the first necessary thing - and isn't it good to know your gaydar was working? Nice he took your number, and I'd only add this advice: don't let yourself look to your potential new friends as a dating service! They may know lots of gay people in the area, but you could regret it big time if they turn out to be the kind who are always setting people up!

    On the other hand, just meeting their friends and the friends of those friends opens up your possibilities exponentially.

    As I have often told my single girlfriends - you want to meet people, you have to go out. So few interesting, attractive, single people drop by the house uninvited!
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    Oct 19, 2008 5:52 AM GMT
    Good job. I went up to a guy the other week. I always let guys come up to me.

    He was really nice, cute and straight... But at least I went out of my way which is a huge step for me.

    Congrats to you too!

    Being out going is fun! and so hot this year.icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 19, 2008 5:57 AM GMT
    Thanks for sharing this. Keep up the courageous efforts and have fun getting to know more people. I strongly advocate getting to know all kinds of people, cause who knows where any chance encounter will lead.
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    Oct 19, 2008 6:04 AM GMT
    my little monkey is growing up so fast... i'm so proud of you. i know that was a HUGE step for you AND YOU DID IT! congrats and keep at it. ;)
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    Oct 19, 2008 8:09 AM GMT
    Good job! I don't know if I could do it thast directly honestly.

    Just be careful not to fall in love with him anyway icon_razz.gif