Moving on/rebound

  • Mark87

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    Apr 17, 2013 1:30 PM GMT
    So blah blah I got knocked back by some cunt. Anyway now that that month long process is over Im trying to meet other ppl again and a guy at my Muay Thai gym caught my eye. Also he spoke three words to me so the foundation for a spring wedding has been laid. No idea if he's gay or straight. Also don't want to make shit mad awkward. Should I just keep my mouth shut and go on Grindr next time I'm there? Or should I ask him if he wants to get a drink afterward?

    Till then I'll be sifting through my brains locker room fantasies.
  • MikeW

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    Apr 17, 2013 2:07 PM GMT
    One thing I've learned in my long life is to not make JO fantasies out of people I meet. I use porn for that. I don't even make those fantasies out of guys on RJ even though there is a lot of eye candy here and some guys might even like it. I don't think it is fare to myself or the other person.

    Why? Because I've learned it gets in the way of my getting to know someone as a person and possibly becoming friends first. Ok, so this guy spoke to you and you find him attractive but you don't know anything about him. This could be the beginning of a friendship. I know it is difficult to NOT objectify guys we find attractive, to see them as a person, but it isn't fair to do that to anyone especially if you don't know whether he is interested in you that way. My advice: get to know him as a person first and see where that goes.

    If you're just looking for a hook-up, grinder might work. Never used it so don't know.
  • Mark87

    Posts: 106

    Apr 17, 2013 6:54 PM GMT
    Weeeeell it's not that serious
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    Apr 17, 2013 7:05 PM GMT
    I vote Grindr, it's just more fun that way. Also don't forget Scruff. (where the real masculine gay men are icon_wink.gif )
  • Mark87

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    Apr 18, 2013 7:20 AM GMT
    I want to go to there
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    Apr 18, 2013 7:23 AM GMT
    A drink afterwards sounds reasonable.
  • Mark87

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    Apr 18, 2013 7:42 AM GMT
    And if that drink is at The Eagle he might just get the shadow of a hint. I like the way you think.
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    Apr 18, 2013 8:32 AM GMT
    Rebounds are the best part of relationships!