greater than friendship, less then relationship

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    Oct 19, 2008 5:42 AM GMT
    hey guys, i've been quite frustrated about this situation with this guy i've known for a little while now...

    so we started talking online and spend hours and hours on emails, ims, and texts etc. then we met each other in person, and to make a long story short, he said he liked me and i liked him as well, so we were in a "relationship." however, later on, we decided to be friends since i'm moving to another state for school, and he thought a long distance relationship wouldn't work. it was a hard time, and i spent a while crying.

    so yeah, we're friends. but to tell you the truth, i haven't quite adjusted myself with this situation. the reason why i decided to be friends with him instead of hating and blaming on him for the breakup is because i simply think he's a great guy. he's got school, work, and he's going for them. he told me his goals and everything before, and i truly thought he was someone i'd never imagined.

    anyways, so i text him asking how it's going and such, and i know he's been busy, but it's so frustrating how he doesn't get back to me as much i do to him. like, i asked him if he wanted to hang out as "friends" a couple weeks ago, and he told me he'd get back to me but didn't. sometimes i feel like a fool trying to reach someone i can't.

    when you get texts or calls from your friends, you get back to them, right? isn't it what friends do? i've been thinking about him a lot recently, and it's so frustrating. should i just delete his number and forget about him? i just don't know what to do.
  • OptimusMatt

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    Oct 19, 2008 3:18 PM GMT
    Fuggettabout it - when you're crushing on a guy and he's not crushing back, waiting by your phone/messenger client for him to respond is excruciating. If you weren't so hung up on him then his less frequent texting wouldn't bother you so much. Problem is, you're still hung up on him, so...take a break from him. Otherwise you'll come off as a clingy, needy, annoying ex instead of a potentially really good friend.
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    Oct 19, 2008 3:49 PM GMT
    Actually no, friends are made to be there when you need them, when something happens and you feel noone cares, they surafce. It's beautiful, I know, but in times of peace, you blow them off, take them for granted, and snap at them when you need to let off steam. Talkng to them everyday on your cell and getting mad when they don't call.....that sounds like a relationship. Ofcourse, doing that kills relationships, but should never be done in a friendship. Friendships are casual.
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    Oct 20, 2008 3:02 AM GMT
    A few questions.

    1) how long have you known each other before dating?
    2) how long have you dated?
    3) how long since you broke up?
    4) how often do you see this guy?
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    Oct 20, 2008 6:34 AM GMT
    well, i've been thinking about this, and i feel much better after reading the comments and messages i got from you guys. i'm just going to try to look forward. i'll be okay. icon_smile.gif