Question about Top/Bottom Stuff

  • Joeyphx444

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    Apr 18, 2013 12:57 AM GMT
    How do two tops become bfs or two bottoms become bfs? I have seen it but they ARE usually in an open relationship, but what's the point?

    Also, just random, but should this site have that as an option on profiles?

    It really shouldn't matter for friendship or chatting but sometimes you chat with a guy and you like each other but oops you are both bottoms icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 18, 2013 12:58 AM GMT
    Maybe some people love one another because deep long term relationships are not all about sex?
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    Apr 18, 2013 12:59 AM GMT
    smartmoney saidMaybe some people love one another because deep long term relationships are not all about sex?


    Haha very funny.
  • jo2hotbod

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    Apr 18, 2013 1:09 AM GMT
    Joeyphx444 saidHow do two tops and two bottoms become bfs? I have seen it but they ARE usually in an open relationship, but what's the point?


    So there are two tops and two bottoms, four people?
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    Apr 18, 2013 2:49 AM GMT
    Joeyphx444 saidHow do two tops and two bottoms become bfs? I have seen it but they ARE usually in an open relationship, but what's the point?

    Also, just random, but should this site have that as an option on profiles?

    It really shouldn't matter for friendship or chatting but sometimes you chat with a guy and you like each other but oops you are both bottoms icon_rolleyes.gif


    Makes no since to me either icon_neutral.gif
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    Apr 18, 2013 3:00 AM GMT
    My bf is a top, I consider myself a top. I hate bottoming, the first time I did I vomit and could not believe I just did that. But when you love someone you just got to bite the bullet and take the dick every once in a while.
  • jo2hotbod

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    Apr 18, 2013 3:05 AM GMT
    Jewlicious saidMy bf is a top, I consider myself a top. I hate bottoming, the first time I did I vomit and could not believe I just did that. But when you love someone you just got to bite the bullet and take the dick every once in a while.


    Damn licious, dat wut make u hut
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    Apr 18, 2013 3:21 AM GMT
    Personally, I think if you're in a real loving relationship, no party should be an "exclusive anything". I think that's a tad selfish. If you love someone, you're gonna do whatever it takes to sexually fulfill them, and vice versa. I think it's best if both are versatile icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 18, 2013 4:23 AM GMT
    My bf and I both consider us mostly tops. we both prefer topping vice bottoming (abou75% of the time). but every now and again one of us will get a wild hair on our ass and really want to bottom. that's some of the best sex we ever have.

    but if we're both in the mood to top and have no interest in bottoming, then we either just do oral or we don't have sex that particular night.

    it's all about open, honest communication.

    sure there are times where one of us may "take one for the team" and bottom even though we really aren't fully wanting to...so we'll try....and if it doesn't work out, then we just say "nope, not gonna happen" and we understand that it's ok to stop.
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    Apr 18, 2013 4:48 AM GMT
    If your relationship is only about sex then a hooker would probably be less complicated.

    Personally I think if two people don't have the same sexual preferences then an open relationship fits that bill perfectly. I take the OP's "what's the point" comment on an open relationship to be uppity at best, stupidity more likely, frankly.

    I get that some guys require sex to be emotionally intimate with another person, or they require emotional intimacy with another guy to have sex, however you care to justify that to yourselves. That's a foreign concept to me but I think I understand the translation. I guess that's why they make double ended dildos. I'm not real into toys myself. I had a very good friend, since deceased, who was a bottom with another bottom so they popped Viagra so they could play top with each other. I thought it pathetic yet cute.

    I had another sort of friend, an old roommate, who was a top in a relationship with another top. They wanted to be monogamous so each took a turn at being the bottom even though they weren't into it. As far as I know they don't have a pill for that.

    For me it would be like eating cow brains even though I'm a vegetarian just because my partner decided to cook cow brains for dinner. Whatever blows your skirt up, but as far as I'm concerned, fuck that. My partners always respected my diet and I always respected theirs. We never had to change for each other. We loved each other just for who we were.

    Whatever works for ya.