tereseus1 saidok here goes...is it possible for two individuals to transition from casual sex to something more stable with possibility of dating long term? Lets just say hypothetically there are two individuals with busy schedules. Both of whom coming to the realization that it would be beneficial for both to be casual lovers...but both have feelings for each other but understands it would not be wise due to the lack of time each can contribute. Is there a median btw casual lovers vs. monogamously dating someone?
I think you guys are better off as "fuck buddies" that like to fuck and spend time together. Labeling yourselves as "lovers" will only cause more harm than good IMO.
Monogamous or not.. one can choose to hang out with one buddy (it doesn't mean you are monogamous!). There is no need to frame yourself in a "mono" because what if you see somebody that can be a potential life partner?
If his job is too busy or yours is too busy, chances are staying friends is better for now.
Sure, everyone has feelings for each other but if you truly fall in love with somebody, you will MAKE TIME and he will MAKE TIME too. The fact that you two are still second-guessing... nah. Just stay as fuck buddy. You can choose to only have one fuck buddy.