the route of all evils....

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    Apr 18, 2013 9:48 PM GMT
    ok here goes...is it possible for two individuals to transition from casual sex to something more stable with possibility of dating long term? Lets just say hypothetically there are two individuals with busy schedules. Both of whom coming to the realization that it would be beneficial for both to be casual lovers...but both have feelings for each other but understands it would not be wise due to the lack of time each can contribute. Is there a median btw casual lovers vs. monogamously dating someone?
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    Apr 19, 2013 2:05 PM GMT
    46 views but no replies? or input? wow.
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    Apr 19, 2013 2:19 PM GMT
    Sure, there's a median : "monogamous casual lovers"

    I was seeing a guy, long-distance, both of us with busy careers but we made time on weekends and days off to spend time together.
    We both enjoyed each other's company and the sex was great. We were content on being monogamous all the while.

    Eventually we realized it wasn't going to evolve into anything fully committed and moved on, can't say it was my ideal bf situation but it was fun while it lasted.
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    Apr 19, 2013 4:14 PM GMT
    Fuck buddies. Friends with benefits.
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    Apr 19, 2013 10:58 PM GMT
    thanks. i only ask as theres something like that going on in my life but i dont know how to even approach the topic with the person. Its kind of a subject of discussion that needs to be had but no one wants to be the first to bring it up. lol
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    Apr 19, 2013 11:45 PM GMT
    tereseus1 said Its kind of a subject of discussion that needs to be had but no one wants to be the first to bring it up. lol


    I think it's time "someone" brought it up.
    Am I correct in assuming that you'd be happier with a stronger commitment
    from this guy?

    I think you'd be wise to have this conversation with your b.f. ( or whatever term you use...that's the prob. eh? ) Sounds like, at the least, you need some sort of definition of what you guys have together.
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    Apr 23, 2013 12:03 AM GMT
    GordHunter said
    tereseus1 said Its kind of a subject of discussion that needs to be had but no one wants to be the first to bring it up. lol


    I think it's time "someone" brought it up.
    Am I correct in assuming that you'd be happier with a stronger commitment
    from this guy?

    I think you'd be wise to have this conversation with your b.f. ( or whatever term you use...that's the prob. eh? ) Sounds like, at the least, you need some sort of definition of what you guys have together.


    its hard not knowing whats going on...if its just play or borderline "more".

  • Apr 23, 2013 1:36 AM GMT
    tereseus1 saidok here goes...is it possible for two individuals to transition from casual sex to something more stable with possibility of dating long term? Lets just say hypothetically there are two individuals with busy schedules. Both of whom coming to the realization that it would be beneficial for both to be casual lovers...but both have feelings for each other but understands it would not be wise due to the lack of time each can contribute. Is there a median btw casual lovers vs. monogamously dating someone?


    I think you guys are better off as "fuck buddies" that like to fuck and spend time together. Labeling yourselves as "lovers" will only cause more harm than good IMO.

    Monogamous or not.. one can choose to hang out with one buddy (it doesn't mean you are monogamous!). There is no need to frame yourself in a "mono" because what if you see somebody that can be a potential life partner?

    If his job is too busy or yours is too busy, chances are staying friends is better for now.

    Sure, everyone has feelings for each other but if you truly fall in love with somebody, you will MAKE TIME and he will MAKE TIME too. The fact that you two are still second-guessing... nah. Just stay as fuck buddy. You can choose to only have one fuck buddy.