Delete RJ Profile?

  • Joeyphx444

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    Apr 19, 2013 3:42 AM GMT
    If your boyfriend asked you to delete your RJ profile would you? Assuming he's not on here too lol
    If he is on this site would you both delete your profiles?

    Or maybe just suspend profile lol

    I would have no problem deleting any dating sites I'm on but I wouldn't get rid of my profile here or even suspend it. It's clearly more than a dating site and there is an option for having your marital status. I have friends I like to talk to on here and I like to read the forums and the workout routines/tips.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Apr 19, 2013 3:44 AM GMT
    No ... I don't really consider RJ to be a hookup site so I think it would be fine for both of us to have a profile on here ... sure there is always the potential ... but if you can't trust each other .. maybe you're in the wrong relationship
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    Apr 19, 2013 4:00 AM GMT
    No
  • MikeW

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    Apr 19, 2013 4:21 AM GMT
    No, I'd ask him to join.
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    Apr 19, 2013 4:35 AM GMT
    Boyfriends are temporary. RJ is forever. icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 19, 2013 4:47 AM GMT
    MikeW saidNo, I'd ask him to join.


    That's what I did, so sometimes he contributes, but more often he uses his lips on my neck instead of peering over my shoulder at the monitor. icon_wink.gif

    lol, I probably shouldn't have shared that.
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    Apr 19, 2013 5:01 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    MikeW saidNo, I'd ask him to join.


    That's what I did, so sometimes he contributes, but more often he uses his lips on my neck instead of peering over my shoulder at the monitor. icon_wink.gif

    lol, I probably shouldn't have shared that.


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    Go on. . . . icon_wink.gif

    I don't use this site for dating, so I wouldn't see the point of deleting my RJ profile. BUT if he wanted me to delete Grindr, then I definitely would.
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    Apr 19, 2013 5:08 AM GMT
    Boyfriend? boyfriend? Can you really still get one of those? icon_smile.gificon_confused.gif
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    Apr 19, 2013 10:36 AM GMT
    No! I'm a member of a travel forum and my bf knows this. He understands that it's all fun and nothing more. RJ follows the same concept.
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    Apr 19, 2013 10:47 AM GMT
    Sounds like someone who likes to be in control...don't.
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    Apr 19, 2013 11:02 AM GMT
    I kept my RJ Profile and asked him to join.
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    Apr 19, 2013 11:35 AM GMT
    Yes it's a great site, yes I have made some 'friends' albeit in the cyber sense here BUT a bunch of guys, shirtless exposing their best assets to other highly testosterone charged men....c'mon, it's not all that innocent and 'just chat'!! ;) As for the question at hand, well it's not Grindr but ask enough guys and they will tell you they are fine with their partner being on there and other sites, it just comes down to what you can handle best and if you can trust your guy/he can trust you enough to be exchanging messages with a guy whose got an insane body, is in your city and 10 years younger but they are just taking about 'exercise' ....;) I jest and I am cynical but mate, off all the sites to worry about, this is the least threatening!
  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Apr 19, 2013 11:47 AM GMT
    I don't treat RJ as a dating site; never have. I have deleted all dating sites since starting to date my BF but I did so because I didn't want to have them not because he asked me to delete them.

    If you are in a relationship and spending lots of time on any website, gaming, etc is likely not good for your relationship unless it is an activity you are both doing.

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    Apr 19, 2013 11:47 AM GMT
    Obviously yes.
    He must delete all social medias that interact with other people, basically meaning all of them.
    He must also allow me to check his phone a least twice daily just to make sure there's nothing suss and I have to know his whereabouts immediately after asking.
    I must pre-approve his outfits before he goes anywhere and he must be okay with me changing his schedule spontaneously to fit my schedule.
  • Danskerb

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    Apr 19, 2013 11:49 AM GMT
    No. This isn't a hookup site.
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    Apr 19, 2013 11:49 AM GMT
    Definitely not, its a fitness site and never used it for hook up or such, so its RJ forever, take it or leave it.. icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 19, 2013 12:07 PM GMT
    MikeW saidNo, I'd ask him to join.

    Exactly what I did with my husband. I created an RJ account for him, so he could see what I do here, though he never uses it. I sometimes show him things on the screen that might interest him, I hide nothing from him. And he's met a number of the guys here when I have.

    Openness is the best policy. The OP needs to stress with his BF that RJ is a gay health & fitness site, not a hookup site, and show that to him.
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    Apr 19, 2013 12:21 PM GMT
    It depends on how you really view RJ. I don't see it as a hookup site but I'd think it is a temptation site. If you are the type of guy that can't handle your impulses well, you should consider just going inactive. No need to delete your account.

    Him asking you to not be on here/deleting your account isn't controlling by itself. But his reaction to you saying no might be an indicator. If you invite him to join, and he does, are you prepared to deal with other guys emailing him in your city?
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 19, 2013 12:30 PM GMT
    My participation on RJ has never been a problem since I view it as a social site. I think if there was an issue, I'd try and work it out and ultimately take the action that seems most reasonable to us. I would be a little alarmed if I had a partner that requested that I stop participation from social sites or limit social interaction,.
  • kellenJ

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    Apr 19, 2013 1:11 PM GMT
    No. Someone who makes such a request is, insecure, has trust issues, and controlling.
    Why not create a profile of his own.

    I had a guy I was seeing TELL me to not to talk to other men. My response was filled with four letter words and a grounding no.

  • Eccomi09

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    Apr 19, 2013 1:18 PM GMT
    This is a dating site. Why would we have Hot Lists?

    It's not exclusively a dating site, but still, that is the most likely intended outcome.

    I'd not do anything my bf demands. I'd talk with him about his concerns and move from there. But then again, I don't make demands on people and I believe in happen and honest communication. And I don't pitch a hissyfit over the small things that really just hit my insecurities, rather than something greater. For example, I don't get pissy if some super hot guy hits on my husband because that's just my insecurities fueling the hissyfit. I get upset if in public he makes out with him. Then, it is my honor and public persona that is being affected.

    RJ is like the former in the example. If a hot guy talks to him and not me, it's only my insecurities kicking in and I have no ownership of him or legitimate need to tell him not to come on here anymore because I feel insecure.

    Perspective from a guy in a 12 year relationship. Something clearly is working for us.
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    Apr 19, 2013 2:07 PM GMT
    Nay! RJ is more respectable. We have life here. People are real here with their shining individuality and refreshing thoughts. As per with my man's agreement, I have hidden my pic profile and have the status updated and thats it. He believes me and that is all i want and I strive for. In nutshell, I was active in RJ and i am still active in RJ icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 19, 2013 2:33 PM GMT
    Trollileo said
    xrichx saidBoyfriends are temporary. RJ is forever. icon_lol.gif
    Solution: date an RJ member.


    Personally I don't think anyone who has a RJ profile is boyfriend material, but that's just me.
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    Apr 19, 2013 2:48 PM GMT
    We're both on R.J. and although we met here, we think of this as a health & fitness site. We each have very good friends here and wouldn't consider leaving just because we're a couple. There are a lot of couples here.
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    Apr 19, 2013 4:11 PM GMT
    This is yet another hypothetical question, each relationship is different and this can only be decided after discussing the reasons between the two parties.
    Communications that seems to be very difficult between adults!

    Anything else is speculation of what you would do based on no solid reason provided by the other party.