Dating and working nights / weekends

  • chadwick1985

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    Apr 19, 2013 8:59 AM GMT
    Ok, so I work nights and weekends currently and I don't foresee that changing any time in the near future. Trying to go on dates and actually find a lasting relationship while working this schedule is proving to be difficult. icon_evil.gif

    Is anyone here working nights and weekends that is dating someone who is not? If so, how did you make it work? Any advice?
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    Apr 19, 2013 10:32 AM GMT
    I'm in the healthcare field and sometimes, I work nights. At first, it was very difficult for my bf and I, especially when we are sleeping alone. But I do not work every night nor every weekend. He and I have discussed my schedule a million times and we came to an agreement that during my nights off, I get to spend them with him sans distractions. So far, it has worked well for both of us.
  • TroyAthlete

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    Apr 19, 2013 5:06 PM GMT
    Date your coworkers.

    #problemsolved

    #newproblemsahead
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    Apr 19, 2013 5:12 PM GMT
    I was bumped to night shift in January and work every other weekend. This makes dating difficult since the majority of "normal" America sleeps at night and is off on weekends.

    My only advise is to somehow find a guy that is truly flexible and will work WITH you to see you when you are free. This takes a special person. I find too many guys are simply " in it for themselves" and if you can't be there at a convenient time for them, too bad.

    Yeah, you are looking for a needle in a haystack BUT when you do find him, he will be the gem of your life icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 19, 2013 5:26 PM GMT
    You poor guy! I remember being fresh out of college and working at my first job at Hewlett-Packard. They put me into the Swing shift and then the Graveyard shift - but thankfully - only for a few months. God - it was tough! All my friends were on different time schedules. Dates? I had none (zero) during that time frame! The only good thing? Well - - - - I can't think of any!
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    Apr 19, 2013 5:30 PM GMT
    My new job i'm going to be on the graveyard shift, and to be honest I don't think I will be changing positions anytime soon because I really need the experience, But I don't really mind it because there is a guy I know for sure is gay in the graveyard shift too, so at least I will make a friend.
  • MidwesternKid

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    Apr 19, 2013 6:50 PM GMT
    I regret at times trying to make my last relationship work as long as I did. He worked nights, but refused to work mornings. We rarely spent quality time together. When we did all he wanted was for me to help him get off, cuddle, or run errands for him.
  • chadwick1985

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    Apr 20, 2013 11:22 AM GMT
    MidwesternKid saidI regret at times trying to make my last relationship work as long as I did. He worked nights, but refused to work mornings. We rarely spent quality time together. When we did all he wanted was for me to help him get off, cuddle, or run errands for him.



    That sounds rough. See if I had the opportunity any time soon to swap to day shift, trust me I would.
  • chadwick1985

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    Apr 20, 2013 11:24 AM GMT
    Thanks for the help, I'm sure eventually I will make something work out. I will say this, although I work nights, my time at home would be spent being with my significant other. Yes I would want to sleep but if they worked days, I would stay up until he left for work and would be up when he came home.