I really want a LTR again...

  • LuckyPierre

    Posts: 192

    Apr 20, 2013 4:24 AM GMT
    I do. I really, really do.

    But I'm working 2 jobs and I have very little time to spend even looking for a LTR. I manage to hookup successfully-but I read too much into those and while I wish for a call back, they don't seem to happen.

    So, how do I turn these hookups into something more? I'm good at what I'm doing. But nobody wants to get past the fuck and see the movie. I've tried the movie first, but that always seems to lead to kissing-and then, well... I tend to loose my clothes and then he does and then, well...

  • WApilot

    Posts: 191

    Apr 20, 2013 4:44 AM GMT
    If at first you don't succeed, try, try again...


    I'm sure eventually the 'right' guy will come along but it'll take time and patience, also, looking in the right places.

    I'm guessing because of your busy chaotic schedule, it's hard to legitimately meet a good guy in the right places. I understand, when the opportunity comes up, the clothes will always come off. Were men but we have to have self restraint at times, especially in your case if you want an LTR.

  • LuckyPierre

    Posts: 192

    Apr 20, 2013 6:11 AM GMT
    WApilot saidIf at first you don't succeed, try, try again...


    I'm sure eventually the 'right' guy will come along but it'll take time and patience, also, looking in the right places.

    I'm guessing because of your busy chaotic schedule, it's hard to legitimately meet a good guy in the right places. I understand, when the opportunity comes up, the clothes will always come off. Were men but we have to have self restraint at times, especially in your case if you want an LTR.



    I'm trying.

    I'm a Bartender.. this is not helping. Even though I work in hotel/restaurants and I'm not a typical bartender-once guys hear what I do, I think they get turned off. It's s shitty job to be partnered to.
  • WApilot

    Posts: 191

    Apr 20, 2013 10:17 PM GMT
    If that's what the guys are thinking, then they're not worth your time, because a job is important, but it should not be the only factor in deciding whom to date.

    I found my current boyfriend off of the hook-up app 'Growlr'. We both weren't looking for a hook-up, but we've been together for awhile now. It just took a little while to find each other amongst a sea of horny/non-LTR men.

    There are people whom have met and fell in love with each other off of this website. Like I said, it just takes patience and time and a lot of trial and error.
  • DanOmatic

    Posts: 1155

    Apr 20, 2013 10:26 PM GMT
    I agree with WAPilot. Keep at it, and know what you want/don't want. It may be a bit of a challenge with your job, simply because of the hours and time commitment, but where there's a will, there's a way.
  • Splendidus_1

    Posts: 611

    Apr 20, 2013 10:28 PM GMT
    'Tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all” - if you need some inspiration about trying 'till it works.
  • Joeyphx444

    Posts: 2382

    Apr 20, 2013 11:25 PM GMT
    ^^ Ur Handsome icon_biggrin.gif ^^
  • jackooh

    Posts: 109

    Apr 25, 2013 2:49 PM GMT
    hmmm could try not sleeping with guys? make excuses after dates about having to go/etc that way they'll be forced to spend more time with you before gettin in your pants, n then they'll be more likely to call you back cus they know you better icon_biggrin.gif
  • LuckyPierre

    Posts: 192

    Jun 13, 2013 5:19 AM GMT
    Well now... Here we are again... So since my OP... I've had just a few one night stands and only a couple boyfriends. But several jobs... nobody wants to hear about that.

    I'm to the point where I think I'm going to sell my house, kill my cats (not really) and move. Really.

    I'm tired of Florida and want to move back to the West Coast. Back to where it all started. Oh. My..

    And just to be relevant-I've lost weight. Trying.

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