What kind of parent do you think you will be?

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    Apr 20, 2013 5:35 PM GMT
    If you want and plan to have kids one day what kind of parent do you think you will be? Will you the strict one or the fun one? I see myself being the more submissive and nurturing parent. I'd rather have a husband who is into being the disciplinarian. I don't like seeing children cry, lol. I'd teach them music and food and how to design a bathroom and how to put together outfits and how to plan dinner parties.

    On a related note how would you explain what being gay was to your future children?
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    Apr 20, 2013 5:37 PM GMT
    I want to be a hot dad who teaches his son computer programming since he is 2 years old.
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    Apr 20, 2013 5:39 PM GMT
    charlitos saidI want to be a hot dad who teaches his son computer programming since he is 2 years old.


    So like Johnny Galecki from Big Bang only gay, lol?


    And yes he's hot to me.
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    Apr 20, 2013 5:56 PM GMT
    Ive always said if I had kids, I'd be a strict parent. I'd be more strict on my kids then my parents were on me.

    I don't want to take away my child's childhood, but I want them to learn discipline at a young age. Hopefully they'll be good in school, be athletes, have healthy eating habits AND have plenty of friends.
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    Apr 20, 2013 5:58 PM GMT
    Slim2010 saidIve always said if I had kids, I'd be a strict parent. I'd be more strict on my kids then my parents were on me.

    I don't want to take away my child's childhood, but I want them to learn discipline at a young age. Hopefully they'll be good in school, be athletes, have healthy eating habits AND have plenty of friends.


    I think being too strict forces kids to rebel. I want my kids to be able to discover who they are on their own. I would want them to think of me as fun daddy and the daddy who is their friend. Someone they can talk to and confide in.
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    Apr 20, 2013 6:11 PM GMT
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    Slim2010 saidIve always said if I had kids, I'd be a strict parent. I'd be more strict on my kids then my parents were on me.

    I don't want to take away my child's childhood, but I want them to learn discipline at a young age. Hopefully they'll be good in school, be athletes, have healthy eating habits AND have plenty of friends.


    I think being too strict forces kids to rebel. I want my kids to be able to discover who they are on their own. I would want them to think of me as fun daddy and the daddy who is their friend. Someone they can talk to and confide in.




    I don't think it would force them to be rebels. My parents were strict on me and I definitely wasn't a rebel. I had plenty of friends, joined clubs and sports, had manners. I didnt have straight "A's" (which is where I'd be more strict with my children), but I had grades good enough to be able to continue in all of my extracurricular activities (and I had a lot).

    I think letting your child do whatever he/she pleases from any early age is more likely to produce rebel behavior.

    I wouldn't want my child to think of me as a friend. Someone who they can talk to and confide in, yes. A friend? No. I never thought of my parents as friends, but I could always ask for their advice and knew they would always listen.
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    Apr 20, 2013 6:13 PM GMT
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    Slim2010 saidIve always said if I had kids, I'd be a strict parent. I'd be more strict on my kids then my parents were on me.

    I don't want to take away my child's childhood, but I want them to learn discipline at a young age. Hopefully they'll be good in school, be athletes, have healthy eating habits AND have plenty of friends.


    I think being too strict forces kids to rebel. I want my kids to be able to discover who they are on their own. I would want them to think of me as fun daddy and the daddy who is their friend. Someone they can talk to and confide in.




    I don't think it would force them to be rebels. My parents were strict on me and I definitely wasn't a rebel. I had plenty of friends, joined clubs and sports, had manners. I didnt have straight "A's" (which is where I'd be more strict with my children), but I had grades good enough to be able to continue in all of my extracurricular activities (and I had a lot).

    I think letting your child do whatever he/she pleases from any early age is more likely to produce rebel behavior.

    I wouldn't want my child to think of me as a friend. Someone who they can talk to and confide in, yes. A friend? No. I never thought of my parents as friends, but I could always ask for their advice and knew they would always listen.


    I don't think a lot of boundaries are a good thing. My opinion is that it's their life and I will try to guide them but if they aren't going to heed what I say I can't force them.
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    Apr 20, 2013 6:15 PM GMT
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    Slim2010 said
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    Slim2010 saidIve always said if I had kids, I'd be a strict parent. I'd be more strict on my kids then my parents were on me.

    I don't want to take away my child's childhood, but I want them to learn discipline at a young age. Hopefully they'll be good in school, be athletes, have healthy eating habits AND have plenty of friends.


    I think being too strict forces kids to rebel. I want my kids to be able to discover who they are on their own. I would want them to think of me as fun daddy and the daddy who is their friend. Someone they can talk to and confide in.




    I don't think it would force them to be rebels. My parents were strict on me and I definitely wasn't a rebel. I had plenty of friends, joined clubs and sports, had manners. I didnt have straight "A's" (which is where I'd be more strict with my children), but I had grades good enough to be able to continue in all of my extracurricular activities (and I had a lot).

    I think letting your child do whatever he/she pleases from any early age is more likely to produce rebel behavior.

    I wouldn't want my child to think of me as a friend. Someone who they can talk to and confide in, yes. A friend? No. I never thought of my parents as friends, but I could always ask for their advice and knew they would always listen.


    I don't think a lot of boundaries are a good thing. My opinion is that it's their life and I will try to guide them but if they aren't going to heed what I say I can't force them.


    If you're not willing to lay down boundaries for your child, then you're not being a parent, I'm sorry.
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    Apr 20, 2013 6:16 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince saidOn a related note how would you explain what being gay was to your future children?

    there is no need for explanation, they will understand all by themselevs.

    The parenent I want to be is...friendly, supportive, authoritative, fun, strict, educating, entertaining, etc.
    It depends on the situation.
    If my child does something bad, I'll educate like a teacher.
    something good, I'll appreciate as an admirer.
    if crying, I'll be supportive as a father.
    if happy, I'll share it as a friend.
    If sad, I'll console like a mother.
    If help is needed, I'll assist like a brother.
    The best parent in my opinion is to be 'All in one' and always be wise in choosing the right decisions and behave accordingly on raising their children.
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    Apr 20, 2013 6:17 PM GMT
    Well there are some boundaries like dont kill someone and don't steal and go to school. But it's down to them if they choose to live by the few rules I put in place. I can't force anyone to do anything.
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    Apr 20, 2013 6:20 PM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince saidWell there are some boundaries like dont kill someone and don't steal and go to school. But it's down to them if they choose to live by the few rules I put in place. I can't force anyone to do anything.


    Those aren't boundaries that you set, those are LAWS that the government puts into place that you don't have a say in.
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    Apr 20, 2013 6:22 PM GMT
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    MashogaNubianPrince saidOn a related note how would you explain what being gay was to your future children?

    there is no need for explanation, they will understand all by themselevs.

    The parenent I want to be is...friendly, supportive, authoritative, fun, strict, educating, entertaining, etc.
    It depends on the situation.
    If my child does something bad, I'll educate like a teacher.
    something good, I'll appreciate as an admirer.
    if crying, I'll be supportive as a father.
    if happy, I'll share it as a friend.
    If sad, I'll console like a mother.
    If help is needed, I'll assist like a brother.
    The best parent in my opinion is to be 'All in one' and always be wise in choosing the right decisions and behave accordingly on raising their children.


    I think this sums up my parenting ideal. I'd adapt based on situation and my kids' personality, since people respond to things differently. My brother and I are a like in many respects, but we're vastly different in others. One parenting style that works/ed on me would backfire on my little brother.
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    Apr 20, 2013 6:22 PM GMT
    Slim2010 said
    MashogaNubianPrince saidWell there are some boundaries like dont kill someone and don't steal and go to school. But it's down to them if they choose to live by the few rules I put in place. I can't force anyone to do anything.


    Those aren't boundaries that you set, those are LAWS that the government puts into place that you don't have a say in.


    You know I what I mean. I'm just more of a liberal free thinking type of person who doesn't believe in a lot of rules. I probably will end up with someone who is the exact opposite of me. Which is a good thing because I could never lay down the law in my home convincingly.
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    Apr 21, 2013 4:26 AM GMT
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    MashogaNubianPrince saidWhat kind of parent do you think you will be?

    The kind that aborts. icon_eek.gif


    Hahaha. icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Apr 21, 2013 4:44 AM GMT
    I'll be a constantly worrying Asian dad who expects more from my kids than I could ever have achieved.