'Breaking Cherries' applies to guys or no?

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    Oct 19, 2008 11:06 PM GMT
    I haven't bottomed since the end of July, and the guy wasn't that large at all but it definately hurt and everything, being my first time and such...

    Question is though, did he break my 'man cherry' so that the next time I'd bottom it'd hurt a bit less, now that it's been stretched out a good amount?

    Though the cock this time is definately going to be bigger...
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    Oct 19, 2008 11:39 PM GMT
    In the strictest sense, no man has a "cherry." That refers to the female hymen, a membrane which is torn when any large object enters the vagina for the first time. Blood flow results, which may be the source of the red cherry term.

    The ability of your anal sphincter to accept a penis is a different issue entirely. A single mild stretching may not adequately prepare you for your next encounter. The sphincter in most men requires a number of penetrations to adjust, plus there is also a psychological element. You really have to "will" yourself to relax and accept the penetration.

    If you expect "this time" to be soon, then you might get yourself a dildo and perform some stretching exercises on your own. Especially since your last anal experience was 4 months ago, with a guy you say was not large, compared to the one you're expecting.
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    Oct 20, 2008 12:34 AM GMT
    I agree with Vespa. Anal is really about communication, especially if you're not used to it. Take it slow and relax into it. Using a dildo wouldn't hurt.
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    Oct 20, 2008 1:55 AM GMT
    Christian73 saidAnal is really about communication,


    Now there is good advice! Communication! And about trust and self-control.

    So that when you say "Slower!" that's what he'll do. And if you have to say "I can't take it" he'll respect that and not, in effect, rape you.

    But when he goes little-by-little, if that's what you need, and patiently pauses while you get used to it, then you have found a real keeper. That's my definition of a gentleman, and a guy worth hanging onto.
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    Oct 20, 2008 2:53 AM GMT
    Your anus is not like a worn pair of shoes. You can't break it in and make it fit right. You may have been tight then, but you wont get less tight unless you keep sticking stuff up there. With anal sex, and everything else, practice makes perfect.

    But, here is what you are doing wrong. Last time you bottomed it hurt. You shouldn't let a guy fuck you if it hurts. You need to tell him "hey, would you mind eating my ass a little longer so I can relax for you?". Your first time shouldn't have hurt if a) the guy was prepping you right and b) you were communicating what you need.

    If you are going to try and sit on a bigger weenier this time have him prep you a little longer with his fingers and face. Playing with a toy too might help you get ready.

    Have fun. Play safe.
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    Oct 20, 2008 10:14 PM GMT
    I'm telling you...get a dildo or something and have some serious fun by yourself before you try the real deal. Once you have an appreciation for fake dick just imagine how good real dick is. Your lovers will appreciate it...I'm telling you.