If you dread old age, this is inspiring

  • beaujangle

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    Apr 21, 2013 11:02 AM GMT

    http://www.kevinmd.com/blog/2012/11/fear-age.html

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    Apr 21, 2013 4:11 PM GMT
    I feel better after reading Mr Fisk's story .....but still old age is creeping on with every day passing , it is in our mind that we have to fight the fear of it ...
  • tuffguyndc

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    Apr 21, 2013 4:21 PM GMT
    i think for many the fear comes from knowing we are going to die. i do not think it is from becoming old
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    Apr 21, 2013 4:40 PM GMT
    If You are not sick or in pain...what's the BFD about getting old?

  • MikeW

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    Apr 21, 2013 4:43 PM GMT
    Cash saidIf You are not sick or in pain...what's the BFD about getting old?


    THANK YOU! icon_smile.gif And as for viagra, don't need that. Yet. lol.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Apr 21, 2013 4:45 PM GMT
    MikeW said
    Cash saidIf You are not sick or in pain...what's the BFD about getting old?


    THANK YOU! icon_smile.gif And as for viagra, don't need that. Yet. lol.
    That is a good, valid point. Age is only a meaningless number as far as I am concerned. It is how you feel that counts.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Apr 21, 2013 4:53 PM GMT
    Old age is no big deal if you have health and money, but for probably about 80% of the aged population this is simply not going to be the case. So just enjoy what you have while you can and don't stress the rest, it creeps up on you so slowly you don't even notice, or accept, that you're actually old.
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    Apr 21, 2013 5:00 PM GMT
    I think it's more about the gradual slowing and loss of strength to endure in all you do but if you can keep the positive outlook and remain active, it can be fulfilling. Mr. Frisk is fortunate to be healthy and active so his attitude reflects that.

    Now if you'll excuse me, I need to go get a prescription filled icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 21, 2013 5:02 PM GMT
    We fear old age because it means we're closer to death. We need studies to tell us this? icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 21, 2013 9:30 PM GMT
    ART_DECO saidWe fear old age because it means we're closer to death. We need studies to tell us this? icon_rolleyes.gif
    I dont think that we fear death as much as we fear what may lead up to death
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    Apr 21, 2013 9:30 PM GMT
    Cash saidIf You are not sick or in pain...what's the BFD about getting old?



    you turn uggo disgusto and no one wants to have sex with you...
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    Apr 21, 2013 9:40 PM GMT
    blueyedItalian said
    ART_DECO saidWe fear old age because it means we're closer to death. We need studies to tell us this? icon_rolleyes.gif
    I dont think that we fear death as much as we fear what may lead up to death

    Death can come suddenly, without a lot of warning. Our age is like a clock, and I can see my own time running out. Sooner or later my age will catch up with me.

    I'm not worried so much about getting older, and all that involves, but about getting dead. You're only 50. When you get to be our age I'll ask you that question again, assuming I'm still around to ask it.
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    Apr 21, 2013 10:01 PM GMT
    chris_hastings1 said
    you turn uggo disgusto and no one wants to have sex with you...

    I understand, being "uggo disgusto" myself already. So you pair up with someone as old as yourself.

    He's grateful, you're grateful, and you both have good sex, relatively speaking. Yah know we can't be lovely 20-somethings forever, so you have to plan for the end game. But at least we ARE still in the game, even if it's not on prime time anymore.

    Guys here mock me for being "gramps" but I wonder where they'll be in 40 years or so? I've got a husband, I sleep with him every night, we love each other, and take care of each other. I wonder what my critics here have, even today at their precious younger ages? I suspect many of them go to bed with lonely jealousy, rather than with a man. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 21, 2013 10:02 PM GMT
    I have to say I am scared of turning 25 in a few weeks. I DONT WANT TO BE A QUARTER OF A CENTURY OLD!
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    Apr 21, 2013 10:04 PM GMT
    RadRTT saidI have to say I am scared of turning 25 in a few weeks. I DONT WANT TO BE A QUARTER OF A CENTURY OLD!

    We all go through that. You exploit what you are, and celebrate that you got as far as you have. And though you give me untold grief here, happy 25th when it happens. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 21, 2013 10:06 PM GMT
    ART_DECO said
    RadRTT saidI have to say I am scared of turning 25 in a few weeks. I DONT WANT TO BE A QUARTER OF A CENTURY OLD!

    We all go through that. You exploit what you are, and celebrate that you got as far as you have. And though you give me untold grief here, happy 25th when it happens. icon_biggrin.gif
    aww thanks. And just as a response to your previous post. I will say this. I am very happy for you that you have a husband and a great live with him. And I am very happy that he has you. I had a heart transplant and I know the pain emotionally and physically, and I did it alone...and you were there for him. I truly never wish any harm on any single person! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 21, 2013 10:15 PM GMT
    RadRTT said
    ART_DECO said
    RadRTT saidI have to say I am scared of turning 25 in a few weeks. I DONT WANT TO BE A QUARTER OF A CENTURY OLD!

    We all go through that. You exploit what you are, and celebrate that you got as far as you have. And though you give me untold grief here, happy 25th when it happens. icon_biggrin.gif
    aww thanks. And just as a response to your previous post. I will say this. I am very happy for you that you have a husband and a great live with him. And I am very happy that he has you. I had a heart transplant and I know the pain emotionally and physically, and I did it alone...and you were there for him. I truly never wish any harm on any single person! icon_biggrin.gif

    A heart transplant at your age? What a challenge for you! My sympathy, and encouragement.

    My husband just had a heart bypass, as I think you know, and that was tough enough. But a transplant? I can't imagine what that was like.

    Was this long ago? I'm glad you found this site, a great resource for health & fitness. My husband is doing great, BTW, he seemed to have turned a corner last week, suddenly improving and really like his old self, in a matter of days. It's been amazing to see it happen, because just 2 weeks earlier he seemed to be declining, and I was going into panic.

    And now we're off to dinner, so I gotta cut this short. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 21, 2013 10:24 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidOld age is no big deal if you have health and money, but for probably about 80% of the aged population this is simply not going to be the case. So just enjoy what you have while you can and don't stress the rest, it creeps up on you so slowly you don't even notice, or accept, that you're actually old.


    I agree with everything but the bit about creeping up on you slowly. Psychologically it happens at an accelerating rate since 8 years, for example, is half your life at 16 but just a tenth of your life at 80.
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    Apr 21, 2013 10:38 PM GMT
    What i fear of getting old? Since im single and never been married or had any kids. Nobody will be around to take care of me when i get to that time in my life. I do have Neace and Nephiews, but I dont expect them to take care of me anyhow, plus They dont care about me in the least. I just lost my Dad over a year ago to which He suffered from Pancreatic Cancer for 6 yrs before It took his life. And now my Mom has so much joint pain and had to have hip surgury, making her not get around well. She is only 79.

    After seeing my Parents go through what there suffering from, Im hoping I die from a Stroke and hope its sudden. I dont want some "stranger" feeding me and making me suffer from bed sores and wiping my ass and taking my money in a public/ state nursing home..
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    Apr 21, 2013 10:39 PM GMT
    only thing i'm worried about in terms of getting old is not having the ability to get it up. viva los alamos if my dick stops working. icon_cry.gif
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    Apr 21, 2013 10:42 PM GMT
    am I the only one who would like to be 10 again?
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    Apr 21, 2013 10:44 PM GMT
    klobasnik saidam I the only one who would like to be 10 again?


    maybe. if i had the chance to be 10, it would be to rewrite the wrongs of the past that have made me into the guy that i am today. it's all good though.
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    Apr 21, 2013 10:50 PM GMT
    After not only living thought and surviving the gay plague era. where I lost countless mates and loved ones, who never got to be 30, 40 let alone 50. To of reached middle age and still be HIV-, and having had a fucking good time in my youth too. Being in a LTR of 20+ years, and living a contented life. I do not fear old age at all. But then after loosing so many mates and loved ones and being loved, I don't fear death either, when so many never got to be middle aged and given the chance too grow old as I have. But then with my work, I'm also around death a lot too, and in many ways, am so over the selfish way other act when someone dies. Oh and we don't only live once, we live every day we are alive.

    I look back with no regrets knowing I did it my way.

  • AMoonHawk

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    Apr 21, 2013 10:54 PM GMT
    RadRTT saidI have to say I am scared of turning 25 in a few weeks. I DONT WANT TO BE A QUARTER OF A CENTURY OLD!

    OMG ... stop ... 25 to 35 are like the best fucking years of your life ... enjoy them all you possibly can, but remember to plan for the future too. 25 to 35 are the prime years, that's like the peak, You'll never be more hotter, healthier and energized.
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    Apr 21, 2013 10:58 PM GMT
    davidingeorgia saidWhat i fear of getting old? Since im single and never been married or had any kids. Nobody will be around to take care of me when i get to that time in my life. ..

    aaaaa ... don't worry about that ... there are a bunch of gay senior living centers all around the country ... Personally, if I have to be old, that is where I would want to live once I am having trouble taking care of myself ... I'll be