Hate my life! Halppppp? How can I move away?

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    Apr 21, 2013 4:20 PM GMT
    So basically... Here's my life in a nutshell.

    - Feel like I'm in a *I don't want to be lonely* relationship. After 5 years, I've grown up, and a very different person to him now. And to me sex means a lot in a relationship, to him it means nothing. And I'm sick of feeling like I have to beg for it, and wait through a month to maybe get somewhere. Even if we break up, we work together so I'll still see him pretty much everyday.

    - I work full time at McDonalds, I get treated like shit and I come home every day reminding myself how unhappy I am.

    - I live in bumfuck country, so I find myself running away every weekend I have off to the city just to feel free.

    - I want to study graphic design, but for me to move out of home and to the city I'll need to work full time. So I have to sacrifice one. As I don't know how I could do both :/

    - Years ago when I was 16 Mum used my credit to get a loan, she never paid it. And now I'm screwed. And am stuck with a horrible credit rating. I'm never late for bills or anything. Not to mention I'm also paying off the bill she got through me because she can't afford too. Because of this I don't know how I'll get my own place in the city because my credit score is fucked. So I'll have to house share.

    -I'm scared to house share because I'm afraid to go to the bathroom around anyone else, it's honestly the biggest hurdle of my life to get over my bathroom phobia.

    - I feel so lost and pathetic. I want to move on with my life, I'm turning 21 soon and feel like I have accomplished nothing!

    - Any advice?

    Chris
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    Apr 21, 2013 8:42 PM GMT
    bump
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    Apr 21, 2013 11:39 PM GMT
    It sounds as if the worst thing you can do right now is to continue as you are, so I would say stop worrying about making the wrong decision. In future, I think you will definitely regret it if you let too much more time pass in your current situation, but I don't think you will regret mixing things up by getting out of McDonald's, however you accomplish it.
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    Apr 22, 2013 12:39 AM GMT
    u should whore ur ass out.
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    Apr 22, 2013 1:46 AM GMT
    I'm in a similar boat.

    Can you go at least part-time to school? It'll be slow, but it's a start. Maybe see if you can get a job at a better place.

    I'm honestly not the best one to help you with this. All I can suggest is to look at all your options and find one that will make you at least partly happy.
  • Apparition

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    Apr 22, 2013 3:34 AM GMT
    talk to your man and schedule sex for one day of the week, tell him if he wont, you will.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Apr 22, 2013 4:20 AM GMT
    There is no use in talking to 'your guy'. This relationship has run its course and you are now simply in a relationship of convenience because you mutually need each other to pay the rent. Time for you to move on to a new job. I suggest you keep your job at McDonalds and get a part-time job as a waiter. Once you become experienced in your wait job you will find the money much better than McDonalds. You can then work into a full time position once you have proven yourself at your wait job and blow off your McDonalds job and say good bye to your current "room mate" and get a new one. It's not going to happen over night, but you have to start making it happen now. This will pass, it's just going to take you 2 or 3 months to make it happen. And what ever you do, don't tell live-in buddy what your plans are and why you are getting a parttime job. Tell him you just want more money to afford a better car (or what ever).
  • Webster666

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    Apr 22, 2013 5:00 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidThere is no use in talking to 'your guy'. This relationship has run its course and you are now simply in a relationship of convenience because you mutually need each other to pay the rent. Time for you to move on to a new job. I suggest you keep your job at McDonalds and get a part-time job as a waiter. Once you become experienced in your wait job you will find the money much better than McDonalds. You can then work into a full time position once you have proven yourself at your wait job and blow off your McDonalds job and say good bye to your current "room mate" and get a new one. It's not going to happen over night, but you have to start making it happen now. This will pass, it's just going to take you 2 or 3 months to make it happen. And what ever you do, don't tell live-in buddy what your plans are and why you are getting a parttime job. Tell him you just want more money to afford a better car (or what ever).


    This is good advice.