Learning to Enjoy Bottoming?


  • Apr 21, 2013 7:35 PM GMT
    so spare me the label lecture and everything..... cause i don't solely identify as a bottom... blah blah blah

    that being said.. when it comes to me being "ready" even for masturbation i just cant seem to find it enjoyable.. like when i want it theres just something missing..

    so like many a bottom ive had small tears and such so idk if i've just lost sensitivity and also had a yeast infection which was probably the most painful experience of my life icon_redface.gif lol ... anyway but i want it back and it want it back NOW!!! lol

    any advice/tips/recommendations on improving my anal sensitivity ???


  • Apr 21, 2013 8:01 PM GMT
    I for one believe you either REALLY enjoy bottoming or you only do it because you want to "try" it or if your partner wants to try or it's once in a blue mood thing.

    If you can't seem to get into it, chances are you are not THAT into bottoming.

    Bottoms like me have ass that is always "horny". Some people do not believe it. My partner thinks it's silly that my ass can feel "horny", can "twitch"... he is a Top so he doesn't get it. Yes, I've fucked him a few times but it was always really for the "hot" moment.

    As for tears, yes, I've my share of pain. It was really my ignorance. If you want to be a true bottom, you have to have a very good routine to dilate that hole. Some are born much tighter (like me!!) than others. People like me can easily develop anal fissure.

    I am 33 and I'm only starting to get into a good routine. As a guy who loves anal sex than anything else, I need to watch what I eat, drink fiber drinks to make sure my stool is always soft and dilate every morning for 10mins.

    However, if you have somebody that fuck you regularly, you'll probably have no such problem. Lube, lube, lube!!! I was naive thinking that spit-fuck is so hot but what's not hot is after I get a fissure and takes weeks or months to heal.

    If you want to enjoy bottoming more, I will start by dilating/stretching your hole on a regular basis. There is an Anal Dilator kit on Amazon. It's not the best made one but it has 5 sizes and the length of it is perfect to dilate but not too long to penetrate too deep (which may too dirty). Try not to give yourself too much enema all the time as water makes your muscle tense which is not good for fissure.

    What you have may be Fissure or Hemorrhoid. You can probably see Hemm but as Fissure, it can be tiny but REALLY pain the butt. You want to let it heal completely. I made a mistake thinking that "anal sex is always painful" so I just fuck through it. Oh boy. . what a mistake. Luckily, I don't get fucked often (partner is not horny) and at age 33, I still have time to start it over..

  • Apr 23, 2013 4:09 PM GMT
    awwww thanks for the feedback... yeah still kinda lost in the "vibe" of things cause everyone is like "Patty" { my name is Patrick} you're such a bottom.. its like uhhh first who says you decide my label and secondly who cares? lol

    but idk if im a 100% bottom? blah but i wouldn't mind it cause im naturally submissive i think lol

    anyway this song is pretty much about me


  • Apr 23, 2013 7:12 PM GMT
    Well, there are other sub categories for bottoms.

    Oral Bottom? Do you like to deep throat, swallow and lick Top's ass? (I am not much of this)

    I think a Bottom is a guy whose holes get used and enjoy being used. Mouth and Ass!

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    May 18, 2013 9:07 PM GMT
    Would be such a pleasure to guide and help you develop yourself into a nice and happy bottom man with my own hands (and cock, lol) ;)
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    May 21, 2013 6:21 AM GMT
    chasingthehunter saidawwww thanks for the feedback... yeah still kinda lost in the "vibe" of things cause everyone is like "Patty" { my name is Patrick} you're such a bottom.. its like uhhh first who says you decide my label and secondly who cares? lol

    but idk if im a 100% bottom? blah but i wouldn't mind it cause im naturally submissive i think lol

    anyway this song is pretty much about me




    ^ THIS BOY IS A BOTTOM~~

    I like bottoming only when I'm in the mood (it's so painful). Just remember to use plenty of lube.

    Also everything on what chinesefollower said very smart and helpful, thanks dudde!