Should you approach guys while they are working ?

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    Apr 22, 2013 9:44 PM GMT
    What is your opinion on approaching a dude while they are working..i.e. retail stores, staff at the gym, the clerk at the post office? Some say don't do it because if dude is working in customer service job and its their job to be nice and they may have no true interest in you, others say if they give you that extra service attention for no real reason and they not making a profit from you it may be some interest...opinions?
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    Apr 22, 2013 9:50 PM GMT
    Obviously you should do it. Especially if you sense they are straight, possibly married or Asian.
    Good luck. Now get out there and hit on everyone that so much as asks if you'd like ranch on your salad.
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    Apr 22, 2013 9:54 PM GMT
    No, you shouldn't. They're probably not that into you anyway.
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    Apr 22, 2013 9:56 PM GMT
    I don't see why not. I've done it all the time.
  • PolaroidSwing...

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    Apr 22, 2013 10:28 PM GMT
    No, not if they're a good employee. It puts them on the spot, and in an uncomfortable position. If they do like you, it would be unprofessional for them to flirt with a customer. If they aren't interested then they have to figure out how to let you down, while also maintaing some level of professionalism, which creates awkward dissonance. Going to work is stressful enough without having to deal with that.
  • MidwesternKid

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    Apr 23, 2013 3:29 AM GMT
    Don't do it. Let them come to you.
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    Apr 23, 2013 3:34 AM GMT
    No. I turn off sexual thinking when I'm at work. I just want to focus on work.
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    Apr 23, 2013 3:46 AM GMT
    I would go with no
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    Apr 23, 2013 4:25 AM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince saidI don't see why not. I've done it all the time.


    ..and how did that work out for you ?
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    Apr 23, 2013 4:39 AM GMT
    I say go for it

  • Apr 23, 2013 4:43 AM GMT
    PolaroidSwinger saidNo, not if they're a good employee. It puts them on the spot, and in an uncomfortable position. If they do like you, it would be unprofessional for them to flirt with a customer. If they aren't interested then they have to figure out how to let you down, while also maintaing some level of professionalism, which creates awkward dissonance. Going to work is stressful enough without having to deal with that.


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  • He_Man

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    Apr 23, 2013 4:48 AM GMT
    The only time it would be appropriate to "approach guys while they are working" is if they are hookers, and then of course, you have to approach them! Geesh!

    Other than that, I would say that it would be inappropriate to approach someone while he/she is working. You put them in an awkward spot, plus it could put their jobs in jeopardy if their employer overhears any language or behaviors that they deem inappropriate.

    You could always just stalk them and hang outside of their jobs, but then that would be just creepy!
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    Apr 23, 2013 4:57 AM GMT

    Hell nO! NO WAY! that's no manners...unless its tea break and you need to go to the gents...than its okay.
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    Apr 23, 2013 5:44 AM GMT
    Brotha_D said
    MashogaNubianPrince saidI don't see why not. I've done it all the time.


    ..and how did that work out for you ?


    Well most of them were straight but I met one cute gay guy. We're friendish now.

    Although I had one guy tell me he was straight only to find out afterwards he was gay but just not that into me.

    But that's life. You fall down and you get back up.
  • wherewillwebe

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    Apr 23, 2013 10:00 AM GMT
    Don't do it!!

    When you do work in retail, you are supposed to be extra nice and kind to people. I was working as a sales person once and some random guy rang and told me that I assisted him a few days ago and he thought I seemed very professional and nice and all...and then he suddenly asked me if I was gay and if so, he would like to take me out for dinner or somethingicon_eek.gif
    mmm.......
  • calibro

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    Apr 23, 2013 12:02 PM GMT
    unless you're ridiculously attractive, i swear i will hurl a forty-five-pound plate at you if you get in the middle of my work or workout. it speaks to how desperate you are and how you have no respect that i'm in the middle of something that doesn't involve you. but ridiculously attractive people can do anything they want.
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    Apr 23, 2013 3:20 PM GMT
    calibro saidunless you're ridiculously attractive, i swear i will hurl a forty-five-pound plate at you if you get in the middle of my work or workout. it speaks to how desperate you are and how you have no respect that i'm in the middle of something that doesn't involve you. but ridiculously attractive people can do anything they want.

    If I duck and the plate misses me, does that make me more attractive to you? icon_smile.gif I'll pay for dinner
  • Eli_jah

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    Apr 23, 2013 5:48 PM GMT
    Brotha_D saidWhat is your opinion on approaching a dude while they are working..i.e. retail stores, staff at the gym, the clerk at the post office? Some say don't do it because if dude is working in customer service job and its their job to be nice and they may have no true interest in you, others say if they give you that extra service attention for no real reason and they not making a profit from you it may be some interest...opinions?


    I have mixed feelings about this. I really like this guy who works as a barback at this gay bar that I go to. I've talked to him a few times and I'm there quite a lot, so he knows me. I was a little drunk one night and I told him how I felt about him. He was really sweet about it. Now whenever I'm there, he finds some way to remind me of that moment, lol.

    So it depends, In my case, it really wasn't that inappropriate. The rules of a gay bar are WAY different than the rules of a run a mill post office. First, this is a place where gay men commune. It is a social environment. It is expected that you will converse with the men who work there on some level. And he knows me as a regular customer. Perhaps if I didn't know him at all, it would have been creepy. Who knows.

    So it really, really depends.
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    Apr 23, 2013 5:52 PM GMT
    I probably wont do it. There is a reason its called a work place, not fun place, hitting on someone place. there is time and place for that.
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    Apr 23, 2013 6:04 PM GMT
    If he works at the Haus of Wurst, he's just asking for it!
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    Apr 23, 2013 6:33 PM GMT
    He_Man saidThe only time it would be appropriate to "approach guys while they are working" is if they are hookers, and then of course, you have to approach them! Geesh!

    Other than that, I would say that it would be inappropriate to approach someone while he/she is working. You put them in an awkward spot, plus it could put their jobs in jeopardy if their employer overhears any language or behaviors that they deem inappropriate.

    You could always just stalk them and hang outside of their jobs, but then that would be just creepy!


    Its only creepy if you aren't hot...
  • TroyAthlete

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    Apr 23, 2013 6:36 PM GMT
    Do it, especially if they're priests, or air traffic controllers.
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    Apr 23, 2013 6:40 PM GMT
    wherewillwebe saidDon't do it!!

    When you do work in retail, you are supposed to be extra nice and kind to people. I was working as a sales person once and some random guy rang and told me that I assisted him a few days ago and he thought I seemed very professional and nice and all...and then he suddenly asked me if I was gay and if so, he would like to take me out for dinner or somethingicon_eek.gif
    mmm.......


    This.

    I work as a server and a BIG Part of the job is making eye contact, smiling big and treating the customers extra nice. I'm sure a lot of my customers think I'm flirting with them, when in reality, I'm just working.

    If someone approached me while I was working I wouldn't be able to do anything without my customers/co-workers/managers seeing me. I'm always being watched so if I did interact with a customer making a pass at me, itd probably be seen as innapropriate.

    Don't approach people while they're working!
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    Apr 23, 2013 6:43 PM GMT
    No way I have that happen to me in the past and its sooooo annoying so lay off when peeps are at work.
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    Apr 23, 2013 6:48 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidObviously you should do it. Especially if you sense they are straight, possibly married or Asian.
    Good luck. Now get out there and hit on everyone that so much as asks if you'd like ranch on your salad.



    Hummmmmm, ranch on my salad... Oh!

    I see what you're saying.

    And I'm going to have to remember that one next time a waiter asks if I want "ranch on my salad." To which I will reply in my most seductive voice, "You betcha big boy. Slather me in your warm, creamy dressing!" icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif