OPs Who Don't Participate in Their Own Threads

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    Apr 23, 2013 7:32 PM GMT
    Have you ever poured your heart into a post, spent a great deal of time writing a thoughtful reply, or given exceptionally valuable advice to an OP who never responds and doesn't participate in his own thread? How does that make you feel?
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    Apr 23, 2013 7:48 PM GMT
    I think most of the time the OP does read and understand what you have written, they may just not want to reply back.

    I like making threads and hearing other people participate more. I also feeling a bit guilty about bumping it a lot and don't want to hog a post haha!
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    Apr 23, 2013 7:53 PM GMT
    shortbutsweet saidHave you ever poured your heart into a post, spent a great deal of time writing a thoughtful reply, or given exceptionally valuable advice to an OP who never responds and doesn't participate in his own thread? How does that make you feel?

    Without full context I might feel annoyed or ignored. That said, it's important to recognize that just because someone doesn't respond to you it doesn't mean that they haven't read or haven't considered what you've written. It also doesn't mean that they won't read it or won't consider it, because it's possible they haven't. Forum posts (and text messages, another area where a variation of your question comes up) are asynchronous forms of communication, meaning that communication is intermittent and not dependent on an instant answer. Meanwhile, talking over the phone or having an in person conversation are examples of synchronous forms of conversation, where some form of response is necessary to continue communication.

    Somewhere out there someone reads what you write. In my short time here I can't begin to tell you the number of times I've received private messages about a post I've made, sometimes from an OP. Sometimes it's because they don't want to get involved in the thread and just want to read responses, or because they have something personal to share that they'd rather keep between us. People then who have only read one of those posts and see little to no response to it within the thread would be mistaken to think that there was no response.

    There's always more context and more going on than what you can see at surface level.
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    Apr 23, 2013 7:55 PM GMT
    This is why I dont put a lot of effort into threads created by profiles that joined the site the same day or week. They're only here to get quick answers and then split right after.

    Same goes for regular members that have a history of posting aimless topics about themselves but don't participate in other threads.

    Either way, I don't think anyone should feel offended or hurt that their thoughtful reply didn't get any acknowledgement from the OP. I'm sure someone else out there could benefit from it.
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    Apr 23, 2013 8:08 PM GMT
    I've noticed this before as well. You'll get this thread from some desperate soul begging for advice, there will be about 2-3 pages of replies and the OP is no where to be found. Bad form, if you ask me. Even a quick blanket 'thank you' is better than nothing. Not to mention that they are wasting an opportunity to interact more personally with fellow RJers.

    There are exceptions though... like if your thread takes on a mind of its own and morphs into the Pizza Hut thread of cataclysm and destruction. Then you are free to sit back, grab some popcorn and enjoy the show. icon_wink.gificon_lol.gif
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    Apr 23, 2013 8:09 PM GMT
    I won't pour my heart into this post because I have a feeling shortbutsweet won't be replying to any of the posts on this thread. . . .icon_lol.gif

    But, no, it doesn't really bother me.
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    Apr 23, 2013 8:11 PM GMT
    Well I always reply to my posts lol.

    To anwser yours though. It is what it is
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    Apr 23, 2013 8:12 PM GMT
    The "Dating & Relationships" forum is loaded with them. It doesn't bother me! I move on to the next topic.
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    Apr 23, 2013 8:13 PM GMT
    yeah, sometimes it's annoying and sometimes it's not.
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    Apr 23, 2013 8:31 PM GMT
    OPs Who Don't Participate in Their Own Threads

    METTA
    METTA
    METTA
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    Apr 23, 2013 8:47 PM GMT
    Neight saidOPs Who Don't Participate in Their Own Threads

    METTA
    METTA
    METTA

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    Apr 24, 2013 2:01 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidMetta is awesome....so glad he posts. (And yeah, he definitely comes back to his own threads. He's smart enough not to get baited by the shit-disturbers, though, hahaha.)

    I did notice that we've not seen hide nor hair of the OP though. icon_mad.gif


    I agree about Metta. He has responded to a couple of my posts that I had several questions on. He definitely pays attention!
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    Apr 24, 2013 2:02 AM GMT
    metta8
    MartinMPL
    anthonyc2394 (one-word replies don't count)

    Any others I'm missing?
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    Apr 24, 2013 2:06 AM GMT
    Incendiary saidmetta8
    MartinMPL
    anthonyc2394 (one-word replies don't count)

    Any others I'm missing?


    Might as well ad shortbutsweet to that list. . . .
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    Apr 24, 2013 2:12 AM GMT
    yourname2000 said

    I did notice that we've not seen hide nor hair of the OP though. icon_mad.gif



    If OP re-posts in this thread I will be disappointed.
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    Apr 24, 2013 2:51 AM GMT
    OPie is busy eating his trailer mac.

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    Apr 24, 2013 2:58 AM GMT
    xrichx said I don't think anyone should feel offended or hurt that their thoughtful reply didn't get any acknowledgement from the OP. I'm sure someone else out there could benefit from it.


    Truth.
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    Apr 24, 2013 12:17 PM GMT
    Yes, I'm always disappointed if nobody replies to my posts. Waah, waahhhh waahhhh . Made me incredibly jaded and distrustful of other posters. I think I will never find another poster...... Wait, what are we talking about again?
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    Apr 24, 2013 12:29 PM GMT
    U mad bros?
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    Apr 24, 2013 12:30 PM GMT
    Usually when I post to a thread my response is ignored. In fact, the thread tends to sink faster than the Titanic after my reply. It does not bother me much as I am sure the OP would have read my response. Truth be told, I really do not participate on the boards all that much.