Joeyphx444 saidWell if you look at the whole site, it is geared toward gay men of color
Exactly. It is an interesting web site for a lot of reasons but that is the focus.
As for the 15 reasons, they have a lot of truth.
There are others, though, that I can think of:
Most of us don't date as teenagers. Even if we're sexually active as teens, "dating," which means going out and having fun with someone we're interested in for sex and potential partnership, isn't socially accepted.
We don't have positive gay couple roll models in our families, neighborhoods and in the media. On the contrary, what we see all around us are 'heteronormative' couples. I will argue that these are NOT good roll models for gay relationships. I don't mean to say they have no value at all, but gay relationships are different from straight ones in unique ways too numerous to even begin to list.
Typically men have a more difficulty being in touch with and expressing their true feelings, especially when those feelings aren't socially or culturally 'acceptable'.
Related to the above, it is very difficult for us to distinguish "lust" from "love." But even when we're sure it is more the latter than the former, it is often difficult to express and sometimes difficult to accept. We often 'think' we want to be loved, and it is true we do, but when it comes right down to it, the expression of it often feels like a 'trap'.
This is the area of "intimacy," between men that is more than just sex and to me it is THE #1 reason most gay/bi w/e men are single.
Having a relationship means BOTH men have to be willing to get beyond sexuality and fantasy to the reality of being loved by and in love with another man.