Is anal sex really more enjoyable than vaginal sex? (Yourname2000, Aristoshark)

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    Apr 23, 2013 10:28 PM GMT
    Recently, Aristoshark responded to one of my posts with this quote:

    Or maybe because you're married and straight and no one has the least fucking idea why you are here.

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3124224

    Then, at another place, Yourname2000 responded to another of my posts:

    That douche is actually straight. One of the fucking breeder idiots that comes to RJ to troll us fags. Isn't that the most pathetic thing you've heard all year?

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3148985

    This I find amazing about the attitude of these two guys, which seems to indicate anger within themselves over their own sexual orientation rather than at me, who happen to be an easy target.

    That I'm married to a female, enjoy vaginal sex and I have children are all true. So it appears on the outside that I'm straight, and "normal" like the other 96% of the population. So what am I doing on this site, a gay site?

    The fact is, I have been here long enough to see that there are quite a number of RJ members who were married, have children and since divorced, mostly for the reason that they have "discovered themselves" or who are no longer able to live a lie in the closet.

    Now here is the truth. I do find some men very attractive. These men are usually taller than me, and slim. There are some members here who I wish I could put my arms around and nestle my cheek on their neck or chest, which is smooth. Such imaginations gives me a boner.

    But I also find women attractive, including my wife, who I made sure that she was fully aware of my gay feelings even before the relationship took off, long before we hitched. In fact it was her who asked me,
    "Are you gay?"
    Which I responded, "Yes, I am."

    Furthermore, she is fully aware that I have a member's profile on this site, and she is quite happy with it, only asking that none of our daughter's pics be posted here.

    And another thing: there are many members on this site who do not have anal sex, not because they can't find a partner, but because such activity simply does not appeal. I am one of those guys.

    Now in the church I attend, I do have a "boyfriend" of sorts, also married and having two daughters, but his relationship with his wife fell on to the rocks, I think, because she seems very bossy and independant. The friendship we have I would class as bromance where we cuddle, kiss his neck but stay clear of any sex.

    The staff at the leisure pool where my gym is located have whispered to one another, pointing their finger at me and saying to each other that I'm gay. One of the perpetrators had got a shock of his life when he accidently bumped into us as a couple while on the way to the station. Suddenly his self esteem, puffed up by the thought that I was gay, fell and crashed back to earth.

    Anal sex does not appeal to me. And it mystifies me how it can appeal to you, even reaching the climax of orgasm. I can be turned on by men but there is nothing appealing below his waistline.

    Most members on this site are decent guys. But if anal sex stimulate you, that is your doing, and your choice (nobody forces you into it.) But why not show better respect for those like me who prefer vaginal sex to anal but still have boners over other men too?

    I define "Gay" as having an attraction for those of the same gender.
    Maybe such statements quoted above is something we can do without, especially if really, it's none of their business.
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    Apr 23, 2013 10:34 PM GMT
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    Apr 24, 2013 2:17 AM GMT
    Um...if you're married...why are you kissing other peoples necks? icon_confused.gif

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    Apr 24, 2013 3:21 AM GMT
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    Apr 24, 2013 3:38 AM GMT
    If you've never tried anal sex, you are as guilty of prejudice as the RJ guys you are questioning, and ever so slyly, trying to bash... and yes I am one of those guys that came out late in life after having 3 children and figuring out that dick is more my speed.... so in the most literal sense, go get fucked! lol! sorry had to say it...
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    Apr 24, 2013 4:30 AM GMT
    Hi NotThatOld;

    now this, " I define "Gay" as having an attraction for those of the same gender."

    ...Bi men also have an attraction for those of the same gender, and also attraction to those of the opposite sex, such as yourself. It's so delightfully simple and what's even better, the bisexual scale is a sliding one. You can fit anywhere on it that is true for you. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug

    PS consider that it's where you are, and not where others are. I think judgement of where they are might easily be replaced with a respectful curiosity, or just being happy for what makes them happy.

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    Apr 24, 2013 4:57 AM GMT
    I just wanted to say that your profile picture is the most terrifying thing I've ever seen. Ever. Aah!
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    Apr 24, 2013 9:06 AM GMT
    NeutralObserver saidI just wanted to say that your profile picture is the most terrifying thing I've ever seen. Ever. Aah!

    It reminds me of this
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    Apr 24, 2013 9:37 AM GMT
    what did i just read
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    Apr 24, 2013 5:57 PM GMT
    meninlove said Hi NotThatOld;

    now this, " I define "Gay" as having an attraction for those of the same gender."

    ...Bi men also have an attraction for those of the same gender, and also attraction to those of the opposite sex, such as yourself. It's so delightfully simple and what's even better, the bisexual scale is a sliding one. You can fit anywhere on it that is true for you. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug

    PS consider that it's where you are, and not where others are. I think judgement of where they are might easily be replaced with a respectful curiosity, or just being happy for what makes them happy.



    The most sensible reply poster so far on this thread, which to my surprise, had collected more responses than I expected!
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    Apr 24, 2013 6:01 PM GMT
    IceBuckets saidUm...if you're married...why are you kissing other peoples necks? icon_confused.gif



    Only one person, not "other peoples" and that after a long relationship. The reason? This guy is hot!
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    Apr 24, 2013 6:04 PM GMT
    NeutralObserver saidI just wanted to say that your profile picture is the most terrifying thing I've ever seen. Ever. Aah!


    The image is a computer photoshop of a mix between a human and a dog's face. Available on the "Images of Dogs" website on Google.
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    Apr 24, 2013 6:06 PM GMT
    Macaque said
    NeutralObserver saidI just wanted to say that your profile picture is the most terrifying thing I've ever seen. Ever. Aah!

    It reminds me of this
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    Yes, I like him. But I'm not too impressed with the geek behind the lab observation window!
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    Apr 24, 2013 9:57 PM GMT
    NotThatOld said
    IceBuckets saidUm...if you're married...why are you kissing other peoples necks? icon_confused.gif



    Only one person, not "other peoples" and that after a long relationship. The reason? This guy is hot!

    And the fact that you're carrying on an inappropriate (and borderline sexual) relationship with someone who you aren't married to...isn't an issue?

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    Apr 25, 2013 10:49 PM GMT
    what does it matter what one likes .
    i like anal sex as a top , did not enjoy vaginal sex all that much , yet i liked eating pussy ( though it's been ages now ) so go figure.
    The brain can be infinitely versatile in its tastes.
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    Apr 28, 2013 10:39 AM GMT
    If I return in my next life as a vagina, I'd be sure to let you know.
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    Apr 28, 2013 10:42 AM GMT
    IceBuckets said
    NotThatOld said
    IceBuckets saidUm...if you're married...why are you kissing other peoples necks? icon_confused.gif



    Only one person, not "other peoples" and that after a long relationship. The reason? This guy is hot!

    And the fact that you're carrying on an inappropriate (and borderline sexual) relationship with someone who you aren't married to...isn't an issue?



    He's already married to a woman he's never going to fully love. What's a few hickeys?
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    Apr 28, 2013 1:20 PM GMT
    Is anal sex really more enjoyable than vaginal sex?

    Yes and no, and how the word "enjoyable" is defined. A vagina feels better to me at gripping my penis than a rectum does, plus it usually stays lubricated.

    Yet when I was having sex with women my mind was elsewhere, I was just sticking my dick in a hole. I was often asked why I kept my eyes mostly closed. It was so I could stay inside the mental fantasies I'd create, to distract me from an act I found somewhat gross, even if it did feel good to my dick.

    I always keep my eyes open for sex with men, and I don't conjure up fantasies. That alone tells me the excitement is coming from the man himself, and the entire experience I'm having with him including the visual, not just from how my dick is feeling. And that I don't find it gross, but great. icon_biggrin.gif

    But the physical feeling with anal isn't as good for me when I top as compared to a vagina. Yet overall I enjoy anal better (and haven't had straight sex since I came out) because men turn me on far greater than women ever could.

    Not to mention that no woman ever gave me a BJ or a handjob like a man can. So for me it's not just vagina vs. anal, but vagina vs. anal & oral & manual & bottoming & male bodies & male strength & male scent...

    Better stop, I'm beginning to hyperventilate. icon_redface.gif
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    May 31, 2013 2:49 AM GMT
    NotThatOld said

    Anal sex does not appeal to me. And it mystifies me how it can appeal to you, even reaching the climax of orgasm. I can be turned on by men but there is nothing appealing below his waistline.




    Excuse me?! just because you don't enjoy it does not mean you have the right, of all people non the less, to degrade others for choosing to do so.

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    May 31, 2013 2:56 AM GMT
    MisfitToy said
    IceBuckets said
    NotThatOld said
    IceBuckets saidUm...if you're married...why are you kissing other peoples necks? icon_confused.gif



    Only one person, not "other peoples" and that after a long relationship. The reason? This guy is hot!

    And the fact that you're carrying on an inappropriate (and borderline sexual) relationship with someone who you aren't married to...isn't an issue?



    He's already married to a woman he's never going to fully love. What's a few hickeys?

    Um...and the woman he's married to? I assume she doesn't have feelings or emotions that might be a conflict of interest to someone else sucking on her husbands neck.
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    May 31, 2013 3:03 AM GMT
    IceBuckets said
    MisfitToy said
    IceBuckets said
    NotThatOld said
    IceBuckets saidUm...if you're married...why are you kissing other peoples necks? icon_confused.gif



    Only one person, not "other peoples" and that after a long relationship. The reason? This guy is hot!

    And the fact that you're carrying on an inappropriate (and borderline sexual) relationship with someone who you aren't married to...isn't an issue?



    He's already married to a woman he's never going to fully love. What's a few hickeys?

    Um...and the woman he's married to? I assume she doesn't have feelings or emotions that might be a conflict of interest to someone else sucking on her husbands neck.


    Yeah well closeted guys are weird.
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    May 31, 2013 4:54 AM GMT
    IceBuckets saidUm...if you're married...why are you kissing other peoples necks? icon_confused.gif



    The expression on your face in your profile pic goes perfect with the response. Win
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    May 31, 2013 2:06 PM GMT
    To OP, post whatever you want to post. Ignore the judgmental mean girls.
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    Jun 02, 2013 8:08 AM GMT
    most closeted men are very desperate and will fuck anything, even a 60 year old.