Do You Talk To The Guys On Your Hot List? Or Try To?

  • Joeyphx444

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    Apr 23, 2013 10:51 PM GMT
    Or are the guys you chat with strictly from your buddy list?
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    Apr 24, 2013 5:29 AM GMT
    Neither.

    I don't keep a buddy list, as I haven't figured out what they're for.

    It is hard for me to read people, so I approach hotlisting cautiously. My hot list is only for guys I find physically attractive, based solely on the pics in their profile at the time, without regard to whether we have anything else in common. So I generally don't reach out to them unless I feel there is something more. I look for signs the feeling is mutual or that they would like to have a conversation. If they reply to being hotlisted with a simple thank you note, I assume they are just being polite. I don't want to be one of those guys who read too much into every scrap of attention. If they seem interested in a dialogue, I am happy to oblige. But I'll always leave an opening for them to sign off if it turns out they were just being especially polite.

    When people hotlist me, I usually send a brief note of thanks. (I understand you can't really do that if thousands of guys are hotlisting you, but I don't have that problem.) icon_wink.gif But I won't correspond at all with people who have no pics or fake pics, didn't fill out their profile, or people who are just trolling. Ain't nobody got time fo' dat.

    The people I communicate with are people I find interesting. Some of them may be on my "to do" list; others aren't. icon_wink.gif You have to ask.
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    Apr 24, 2013 5:32 AM GMT
    No. My hot list pretty much sums up the kinda guys that I would let put it in my hole.

    My buddy list is for guys who I tend to get along with on the forums and would probably talk to IRL....
  • Montague

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    Apr 24, 2013 5:34 AM GMT
    Edit: I take that back. I really don't anymore.
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    Apr 24, 2013 5:35 AM GMT
    I'll talk with anyone. My buddy list is for a mutal thing, my hotlist is mostly for the guys I find attractive, or would like to talk to someday.
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    Apr 24, 2013 5:38 AM GMT
    it really not that serious. simply, my hot list basically consist of guys that i think are hot or would be eyeing up in the club, have dirty thoughts about and etc. icon_eek.gif just because i put someone on my hotlist doesn't mean that i expect anything in return from them. they can say thank you or nothing back. if we become buddies, we become buddies.
  • stratavos

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    Apr 24, 2013 5:41 AM GMT
    I chat with people all over... but chatting with my hotlist, is not that often. though I really should be trying to make a stronger effort about that.
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    Apr 24, 2013 5:43 AM GMT
    The hotlist gives others that view my profile, a sense of the type of guys that I find attractive. Because attraction is such a very difficult thing to describe, the best way to describe the type of guys I'm attracted to is to simply look at the hotlist haha. Buddy lists are guys who I actually chat with and are essentially guys who know me and the guys I've talked to in the chatroom. ;)

  • He_Man

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    Apr 24, 2013 5:49 AM GMT
    I'll talk to anyone that talks to me. Well, unless they're rude, make crude comments or have a faceless/pictureless profile.

    Why would you "hot list" someone and then not want to talk to them?

    The "Buddy List" I find really strange, tho... I get request from guys that I don't even know that want to "buddy list" me, and I'm like I've never once talked to you, have no idea who you are, and this is the first time we have ever communicated with each other, and you want to be my "buddy"?

    To me, a "buddy" is someone who you've spoken to for awhile, have met in person and like enough to actually keep in contact with. You're NOT my buddy if you've only spoken to me once, or have contacted me and then disappeared, throwing me out like some discarded cumrag that you used until it got too crusty from all the cleanups, so much so that you had to throw it out.

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    Apr 24, 2013 5:52 AM GMT
    He_Man saidI'll talk to anyone that talks to me. Well, unless they're rude, make crude comments or have a faceless/pictureless profile.

    Why would you "hot list" someone and then not want to talk to them?

    The "Buddy List" I find really strange, tho... I get request from guys that I don't even know that want to "buddy list" me, and I'm like I've never once talked to you, have no idea who you are, and this is the first time we have ever communicated with each other, and you want to be my "buddy"?

    To me, a "buddy" is someone who you've spoken to for awhile, have met in person and like enough to actually keep in contact with. You're NOT my buddy if you've only spoken to me once, or have contacted me and then disappeared, throwing me out like some discarded cumrag that you used until it got too crusty from all the cleanups that you have to throw it away.






    did i do that ?

    - runs and cries -
  • He_Man

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    Apr 24, 2013 6:01 AM GMT
    CopperDevil said
    He_Man said






    did i do that ?

    - runs and cries -


    Well, if you noticed, you're still on my "buddy list," so I guess that means no...

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    Apr 24, 2013 6:08 AM GMT
    He_Man said
    CopperDevil said
    He_Man said






    did i do that ?

    - runs and cries -


    Well, if you noticed, you're still on my "buddy list," so I guess that means no...



    13293897.Grin.gif i know i just wanted to see you say it icon_razz.gif
  • BloodFlame

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    Apr 24, 2013 8:24 AM GMT
    I don't really have much people on my hotlist as I don't really spend lots of time browsing here but for the most part, I don't really talk with them.

    Half the time it's because I'm nervous and shy (pathetic yes but I'm not going to lie lol). And I don't want to irritate them. But if they do reply with a thank you for comment or thank you for the hotlist, I just say you're welcome and that's that. Like others said, the hotlist to me is guys I find physically attractive on their look. However, if the guy has a well thought out and interesting/humorous profile, I would consider giving a message. I did this once on my old profile and to my surprise, the guy did message back and we talked for a good while so yeah, it really just depends.
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    Apr 24, 2013 8:25 AM GMT
    What hot list? icon_confused.gif
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    Apr 24, 2013 8:27 AM GMT
    Trollileo saidWhore.

    I wasn't charging you. I just need some cab fare. icon_sad.gif
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    Apr 24, 2013 8:39 AM GMT
    I only talk to someone who has initiatve to talk with me back. Instead of stalking me Michael Myers style viewing my profile with no courage to let me know what's up

    The hot list is there for guys I find sexy of course. Buddy list is for my homies

  • Beeftastic

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    Apr 24, 2013 9:14 AM GMT
    Reality and tough experience / rough treatment have pretty much taught me I don't have a chance in hell of chatting up most guys on my hot list icon_sad.gif
  • Rowing_Ant

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    Apr 24, 2013 9:15 AM GMT
    Oh dear lord no. Id be too shy and embarrassed icon_redface.gif
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    Apr 24, 2013 9:45 AM GMT
    The guys on my hotlist are out of my league, so no, I don't initiate conversation.
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    Apr 24, 2013 10:03 AM GMT
    naaah, they dont reply back..so why bother? :/
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    Apr 24, 2013 11:18 AM GMT
    Hot list ... we talk every day
  • Just_Tim

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    May 01, 2013 8:09 PM GMT
    Yep, every single day icon_biggrin.gif Always a pleasure.
  • Joeyphx444

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    May 01, 2013 8:10 PM GMT
    Just_Tim saidYep, every single day icon_biggrin.gif Always a pleasure.


    Well that's easy for you lol
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    May 01, 2013 8:11 PM GMT
    I only hotlist people who I've already chatted with. My buddy list is even smaller, I generally don't buddy list someone unless we've really connected.
  • Nayro

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    May 01, 2013 8:13 PM GMT
    Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. I usually send them at least one message expaining why i hotlisted them. But sometimes I don't bother because I know they are WAAAAAAAAAY out of my league icon_sad.gif