Tattoo Conversation

  • comical44

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    Apr 24, 2013 3:04 AM GMT
    So me and my little brother that ive been mentoring for almost two years were having a conversation yesterday about something we talked about in the past regardarding tattoos...

    He recently got a tattoo by his friends older brother who use to own his own shop. At first I yelled at him because it wasnt done in a shop etc etc and How I hoped everything was clean (which it was) and from there I made a deal with him....

    No more tattoos until you turn 18 and can get it professionally done in a shop. He will be 18 within the year so he doesnt have a long time to go. I then said wait till your 18 and on your 18th birthday Ill take you to a good shop/artist to get a tattoo and ill get one at the same time...it will be a cool experience..might sound like a strange thing to do between a mentor/mentee but im all about art/expression/tattoos....and he said "DEAL!"

    He then said "can we get similiar tattoos?"

    I said "what do you mean?"

    He said " Your one of the closest relationships in my life and that I've ever had....want to get a tattoo that symolizes Brothers?....We could get a tattoo that symbolizes our brotherhood and how close we are and have it say "unbreakable bond"

    So yes very random story and to some of you it might seem out of the norm for a mentoring relationship but when he brought up this topic and said that to me it really hit me in the heart and made me feel like im actually making a difference in his life...

    Just thought I would share

  • MikeW

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    Apr 24, 2013 3:14 AM GMT
    I've never gotten a tattoo but I often admire them on other people. Very nice story. Sounds cool to me! icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 24, 2013 3:24 AM GMT
    Sounds great man. tattoos should be meaningful for sure!
  • AMoonHawk

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    Apr 24, 2013 3:27 AM GMT
    ya .. do it
  • comical44

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    Apr 24, 2013 3:28 AM GMT
    I agree, tattoos should have some thought involved when getting them...but the conversation I had with him about it was interesting...He was very sincere/serious about getting a tattoo and how he wants his next tattoo to symbolize my mentoring/brother-like relationship with him which really just got me thinking that he must value me in his life and made me feel really important...it was a nice feeling as a mentor to be honest
  • Apparition

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    Apr 24, 2013 3:36 AM GMT
    cool. i hate tattoos that are not emotional.
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    Apr 24, 2013 9:49 AM GMT
    Yes, definitely get something that has meaning to both of you.
  • jo2hotbod

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    Apr 24, 2013 9:53 AM GMT
    That's cool, good for him
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    Apr 24, 2013 12:03 PM GMT
    Yeah man! Great story and nice that you've been able to impact his life like that. Very cool!
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    Apr 24, 2013 12:52 PM GMT
    TheQuest saidYes, definitely get something that has meaning to both of you.


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  • comical44

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    Apr 24, 2013 6:50 PM GMT
    yea our conversation really was meaningful to me. Thought it was pretty cool
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    Apr 24, 2013 6:53 PM GMT
    comical44 saidSo me and my little brother that ive been mentoring for almost two years were having a conversation yesterday about something we talked about in the past regardarding tattoos...

    He recently got a tattoo by his friends older brother who use to own his own shop. At first I yelled at him because it wasnt done in a shop etc etc and How I hoped everything was clean (which it was) and from there I made a deal with him....

    No more tattoos until you turn 18 and can get it professionally done in a shop. He will be 18 within the year so he doesnt have a long time to go. I then said wait till your 18 and on your 18th birthday Ill take you to a good shop/artist to get a tattoo and ill get one at the same time...it will be a cool experience..might sound like a strange thing to do between a mentor/mentee but im all about art/expression/tattoos....and he said "DEAL!"

    He then said "can we get similiar tattoos?"

    I said "what do you mean?"

    He said " Your one of the closest relationships in my life and that I've ever had....want to get a tattoo that symolizes Brothers?....We could get a tattoo that symbolizes our brotherhood and how close we are and have it say "unbreakable bond"

    So yes very random story and to some of you it might seem out of the norm for a mentoring relationship but when he brought up this topic and said that to me it really hit me in the heart and made me feel like im actually making a difference in his life...

    Just thought I would share



    You have to mark yourself to assert the value of a relationship. LOL.

    While your relationships may endure, many don't and a dumb tattoo is still a dumb tattoo, made dumber when that relationship faded or went sour.

    Your friend is "young and dumb" and asking you to confirm your relationship by marking yourself is a very insecure thing to ask.

    Just say no.
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    Apr 24, 2013 7:18 PM GMT
    chuckystud said
    comical44 saidSo me and my little brother that ive been mentoring for almost two years were having a conversation yesterday about something we talked about in the past regardarding tattoos...

    He recently got a tattoo by his friends older brother who use to own his own shop. At first I yelled at him because it wasnt done in a shop etc etc and How I hoped everything was clean (which it was) and from there I made a deal with him....

    No more tattoos until you turn 18 and can get it professionally done in a shop. He will be 18 within the year so he doesnt have a long time to go. I then said wait till your 18 and on your 18th birthday Ill take you to a good shop/artist to get a tattoo and ill get one at the same time...it will be a cool experience..might sound like a strange thing to do between a mentor/mentee but im all about art/expression/tattoos....and he said "DEAL!"

    He then said "can we get similiar tattoos?"

    I said "what do you mean?"

    He said " Your one of the closest relationships in my life and that I've ever had....want to get a tattoo that symolizes Brothers?....We could get a tattoo that symbolizes our brotherhood and how close we are and have it say "unbreakable bond"

    So yes very random story and to some of you it might seem out of the norm for a mentoring relationship but when he brought up this topic and said that to me it really hit me in the heart and made me feel like im actually making a difference in his life...

    Just thought I would share



    You have to mark yourself to assert the value of a relationship. LOL.

    While your relationships may endure, many don't and a dumb tattoo is still a dumb tattoo, made dumber when that relationship faded or went sour.

    Your friend is "young and dumb" and asking you to confirm your relationship by marking yourself is a very insecure thing to ask.

    Just say no.


    It’s a friendship, not a relationship… as a Big; I totally understand where you are coming from. We do what we do to improve and direct a child’s life away from poor decisions and behaviors. The tattoo not only is a permanent reminder of the things you have taught him, but also a reminder of the great influence he had in his life. It would be a way to always “be with him” without always being in the same room. I have several tattoos that are extremely meaningful to me, including one that reminds me of a friend that has past. Although the relationship has “faded” I have zero regrets of getting it! It’s a constant reminder of good times and the friendship we had. I never did it to “assert value on our friendship,” I did it because it had extreme value to me. 95% of the people that see it don’t even know why I have it, and I don’t even care to share the full story behind it. A tattoo is personal art and shouldn’t matter to anyone else.
    DO IT!
  • comical44

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    Apr 25, 2013 12:29 AM GMT
    @njbu2004.....Great story and I really agree with everything you say. tattoos are personal art that other people in the end dont need to know the meaning behind or have a say in...Thanks