15 THINGS WE NEED TO STOP DOING!

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    Apr 24, 2013 11:20 AM GMT
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    Apr 24, 2013 11:23 AM GMT
    I'm sure we can relate to some of them, but yes gentlemen, we gotta check ourselves before we wreck ourselves.
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    Apr 24, 2013 5:00 PM GMT
    These, especially, in my opinion:


    2. Shaming someone or deeming them unattractive for acting “femme.” Not only is this some deep self-loathing shit, it also feeds into the idea that behaving in a feminine way is, in fact, bad. AKA misogyny!


    5. Killing themselves. (Seriously.)


    15. Hate other gay guys for no reason. It’s so important to have a great big gay family. Don’t alienate yourself!
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    Apr 24, 2013 6:03 PM GMT

    15. Hate other gay guys for no reason. It’s so important to have a great big gay family. Don’t alienate yourself!


    Never gonna happen just look at how much hate is here on this site.
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    Apr 24, 2013 6:15 PM GMT
    14. Straight acting. Masc.

    I disagree. I have enough bloody drama queens in my life. Who says you can't be gay and masculine? I've seen some straight boys fannying around with their hair more than I do and I'm not having it.
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    Apr 24, 2013 8:45 PM GMT
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    16. Calling their female friends 'my girl *pause* friends'.

    I think the whole masc/fem generalisation is a bit unproductive. Sure, someone might be too fem for you but he might not think of himself as fem. And what is masc/fem is different from person to person. Two guys complaining that guys are too fem might be talking about two completely different groups of guys.

    I'm an honest man and every time I see a profile with something about masc or whatever I just go "But what does that mean?! Moving on." My friends tell me that when we go out I appear dour and unapproachable whenever I'm not smiling (talk about stressing me out). Is that masc? Sometimes it seems like masc means a bit overweight and bad hair. I can't live up to that!
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    Apr 24, 2013 9:19 PM GMT
    Somebody i know needs to reread #10!
    And i'm sure alot of us are guilty of that too. icon_confused.gif
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    Apr 24, 2013 9:21 PM GMT
    I love how one of these is to stop judging other gays and let them be but the entire article is one judgement. Sigh... Fail writer.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Apr 24, 2013 9:26 PM GMT
    Judgement is a human behavior that will never go away

    There's no way we can all just love each other and be one big happy family. This is for overly optimistic tree hugging, rainbow wearing men

    Sorry but reality sucks
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    Apr 24, 2013 10:00 PM GMT
    bosjock90 saidI don't agree with some of the points to be honest ...

    2. Shaming someone or deeming them unattractive for acting “femme.” Not only is this some deep self-loathing shit, it also feeds into the idea that behaving in a feminine way is, in fact, bad. AKA misogyny!


    Sorry, but I do find certain men that act femme to be unattractive. We are all entitled to what we deem attractive. I don't DISLIKE them as a person, but they certainly aren't my type, and no one is allowed to judge me for that.

    8. Slut-shaming other gay guys. There is no right or wrong way to be gay. If someone wants to have anal sex with a guy they just met, that’s their prerogative. As long as they’re safe, no one is getting hurt… I hope. Similarly, it’s totally okay if having anal sex is a big deal to you and you only want to have it in a relationship. Gay guys spend too much time comparing themselves to other gays. Just do you, babe.

    I don't "slut-shame", but I also will judge someone if they sleep with half the city in a single weekend on a regular basis. If this person was my friend, I wouldn't mind them hooking up with whomever and wouldn't pass judgement. But if they are to be dating material, I definitely would consider this as a red flag.

    15. Hate other gay guys for no reason. It’s so important to have a great big gay family. Don’t alienate yourself!

    I think this is a really good point and I agree with it.


    spoken like to a heteronormative
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    Apr 25, 2013 1:25 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin saidSomebody i know needs to reread #10!
    And i'm sure alot of us are guilty of that too. icon_confused.gif


    Who is it? Call him out! icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 25, 2013 1:52 AM GMT
    I don't mind all the robotic requirements, but if I can pull off being a super nice friendly gay, will I have to wear a uniform, or a badge or anything, because that right there is where I am going to draw the line.
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    Apr 25, 2013 2:38 AM GMT
    Sashaman said
    GigoloAssassin saidSomebody i know needs to reread #10!
    And i'm sure alot of us are guilty of that too. icon_confused.gif


    Who is it? Call him out! icon_lol.gif


    Boyfriend, you know who he is!
    Mmmhmmm......
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    Apr 25, 2013 2:40 AM GMT
    Chainers saidI love how one of these is to stop judging other gays and let them be but the entire article is one judgement. Sigh... Fail writer.


    I don't think his intention is to be judgemental, but rather advisory.
    We're all guilty of doing them, and we know it's wrong, so we just need a hard look in the mirror to remind us.
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    Apr 25, 2013 3:00 AM GMT
    I'm thinking this author might be a bit of a lonely, bitter queen. some of this stuff doesn't add up and some of it is downright contradictory. 7 & 8 are a perfect example. In 7 he says not to hook up with "straights" but then in 8 he basically says not to shame guys for who or how often they go down on.