Inspiration or Self Consciousness?

  • Joeyphx444

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    Apr 26, 2013 10:07 PM GMT
    When you see good-looking, muscular guys on this site, in person at the gym or on TV, do you get inspiration from them or does it make you feel a little bad about your own appearance?

    I saw a lot of guys write on their profiles and in the forums about how the guys in here inspire them and everything but I always wonder if there's a little bit of self doubt going on too. I am sure and I KNOW men go through the same thing women do when they are bombarded by images of beauty on TV, magazines, etc

  • Apr 26, 2013 10:53 PM GMT
    I think it's both.

    The problem I have is that sometimes I set the standard/goal too high and then get discouraged.

    I also tend to think more positively because people REALLY do have different tastes. I only like stocky/chubby guys while some only like skinny men. I always feel there are people out there for me. Trying to be somebody you are not is a painful way to live IMO.

    What is your drive to work out? To stay healthy? To beat certain weights? To have awesome muscle look?

    My drive is to simply test my perseverance and changing my lifestyle a bit. I also feel asian men do not age well past certain age. Yeah, we may look a bit younger at first but boy, when we age, we do not age well. I feel those that workout tend to age better. Body shape.. smile.. that energy.. of course I could be wrong but I feel believing in something gives me a drive. Without a drive, I don't feel like living.

    Find that drive. Find that inspiration. Think more positively. I know it's easier to say than done. icon_sad.gif Even sometimes I feel I need to have that perfect 6-pack or jock body but I pretty much admit to myself that I am always going to be a small framed person and I know many people like small framed guys!
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    Apr 26, 2013 11:04 PM GMT
    I think its a little on both too. I admire the guys at the gym and while I'm there they inspire me to push harder and stay longer.

    But other times I feel sooooo inadquate. Especially being a smaller guy I know I can never become a big, bodybuilder type guy. And I've accpeted that and have learned to love my body, but still have my moments...



    It's still good jack off material though!!
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    Apr 26, 2013 11:23 PM GMT
    Joeyphx444 saidWhen you see good-looking, muscular guys on this site, in person at the gym or on TV, do you get inspiration from them or does it make you feel a little bad about your own appearance?

    I saw a lot of guys write on their profiles and in the forums about how the guys in here inspire them and everything but I always wonder if there's a little bit of self doubt going on too. I am sure and I KNOW men go through the same thing women do when they are bombarded by images of beauty on TV, magazines, etc


    You never know. Most people who looked at your photos would never imagine that you could feel self-doubt when comparing yourself with others.

    While not trying to minimize the problem, which is a big one for many guys, we should aways remember that some people have real problems, such as wars in their countries or living in shacks on rivers of sewage.
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    Apr 26, 2013 11:28 PM GMT
    for me yes I do get inspired to get into better shape after seeing all these guys on this website, But, i'm also very realistic on the goals I set myself for. Just because I see a guy and I know I want to get a body just like his, I have to realize my genetics probably won't get me there unless I start using heavy supplements.
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    Apr 27, 2013 1:07 AM GMT
    Also, you have to remember a lot of the bigger guys in your gym, as well as many actors and other celebrities, look the way they do due to steroids, giving a false impression of what is really realistic for the average man not on chemicals to achieve. I am not one to judge people's decisions in this regard, and I actually don't think it should even be illegal, but using steroids is not generally the healthiest thing you can do, so at some point they have made a decision to pursue muscle at the expense of their long term health. In addition, among gay men, not all, but many HIV+ guys are also on testosterone and growth hormone to counteract some of the effects of the disease and as a result become big and muscular beyond what they would have achieved naturally. Again, while I am all for people improving their medical condition and their looks this way, it has given many men in the gay community an unrealistic body template to compare themselves against.

    This obsession with size is really a somewhat recent phenomenon and is probably in part a reaction to the AIDS nightmare years when people were wasting away. If you look back at pre-AIDS 70s video footage related to gay life (see, e.g., the Village People's YMCA video), you will notice that the average body ideal back then was much thinner than today.