Weird hookup experience..

  • Onemoresummer

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    Apr 27, 2013 10:52 PM GMT
    Met this guy from online.
    He came over to my house last night.
    Anyway, he was rather odd.

    He came dressed out in sports gear as he'd just been to a game of football and he had a flag (something that 12 year olds grow out of).

    He told me how he only has 2 friends. Obviously alarm bells were ringing. Sounded like he did a lot of things alone.

    Anyway, we eventually did it and it was pretty great.

    But I said he could stay the night as he didn't drive and had to get public transport home (was like 1am).
    He then proceeded to tell me that his Johonva Witness parents shipped him away from them when he told them he was gay. Says he basically doesn't have any contact with them. Thought this was sad.
    He also told me his best friend died in a car accident last year and he doesn't sit in the front of a car anymore. Understandable.
    Mentioned how he was on anti-depressents but went off them as he didn't think they were working. Buzz killer.

    Also spoke about how he isn't exactly "100% proud of being gay".

    Anyway, at this point I couldn't really bear anymore so we did it again and fell asleep.

    I couldn't really sleep having someone next to me so i've only had about 2 hours rest.

    I got up, got changed and told him I would drop him off at the station as I've got work today. He was cool with that.
    Anyway, he said "see you soon..." and I was like "have a good day".

    He was a great lay but def weird with a lot of stuff.
    I feel like if I never contact him again it will be a further kick to his self confidence.

    What should I do if he (inevitably) contacts me again!?

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    Apr 27, 2013 11:37 PM GMT
    tell him ur not interested

  • Apr 27, 2013 11:40 PM GMT
    Since you referred to him at one point as being 'unbearable', and that you felt uncomfortable sleeping next to him, I don't think you like him enough for this relationship to develop further. His problems are his problems, and you can't help him even if you guys were together, he needs to figure it out on his own, walk out of the shadows and then we could start talking.

    Should he texts you in the foreseeable future, waive it off saying that 'I'm not currently interested in dating, however you are a lovely person and I wish you all the best. I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a rough patch, I would recommend you to see a counsellor.'

    Lets face it. He needs help and should get some.

    On a side note, you're an attractive guy, so you shouldn't be held back by this experience!
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    Apr 28, 2013 2:18 AM GMT
    Don't go back, you sound like you deserve better. Just because someone is a great fuck doesn't make them worth knowing or going back for seconds.
    Think of it this way party drugs are fun, that's why people do them, but ultimately they aren't good for you.

    Don't devalue yourself

    and a tip never let a trick stay the night ever!
  • rudolphe

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    Apr 28, 2013 4:52 AM GMT
    yiboz saidDon't go back, you sound like you deserve better. Just because someone is a great fuck doesn't make them worth knowing or going back for seconds.
    Think of it this way party drugs are fun, that's why people do them, but ultimately they aren't good for you.

    Don't devalue yourself

    and a tip never let a trick stay the night ever!




    Not quite how I would refer to someone who's down on his luck, but I would have to agree with his general Message. Don't guilt yourself into maintaining a relationship with someone you have trouble standing, I mean your gentleman caller did break a lot of etiquette rules when he was with you after all. I would suggest you tell him you would just like to be friends, which is probably what he coulduse more than a boy toy anyway.
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    Apr 28, 2013 8:42 AM GMT
    rudolphe said
    yiboz saidDon't go back, you sound like you deserve better. Just because someone is a great fuck doesn't make them worth knowing or going back for seconds.
    Think of it this way party drugs are fun, that's why people do them, but ultimately they aren't good for you.

    Don't devalue yourself

    and a tip never let a trick stay the night ever!




    Not quite how I would refer to someone who's down on his luck, but I would have to agree with his general Message. Don't guilt yourself into maintaining a relationship with someone you have trouble standing, I mean your gentleman caller did break a lot of etiquette rules when he was with you after all. I would suggest you tell him you would just like to be friends, which is probably what he coulduse more than a boy toy anyway.


    Sob stories don't cut it. Generally guys that hook up and tell you a sob story are full of it. You'll see.

    its not like a date its a hook up
  • jackooh

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    Apr 28, 2013 9:53 AM GMT
    from what you said he doesnt sound that weird, everyone has baggage some just have more than others.
    N theres nothing wrong with having just 2 close friends, people who have 100s tend to be more flakey anyway.

    If you dont like him that's your prerogative, do what you want.
  • madsexy

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    Jun 21, 2013 8:37 PM GMT
    Wondering if there's an epilogue to this story.

    Did he hear from him again? If so, was it creepy or just tedious (because of all the baggage)?

    As someone who hooks up a lot, I totally get where you were coming from. I've never felt compelled to ask anyone to stay out of compassion; they knew they'd have to get themselves home afterward when they came to my place to get off. But that's just me, and you're obviously a kinder person.

    And exemplifying that, there would be no question in my mind, and the second time likely wouldn't have happened had he spilled all those guts after the first time. I'd have handed him his clothes, thanked him (after all you did say it was good) and wished him well as I escorted him out the door. I have enough friends who are angst-ridden, disadvantaged and/or otherwise challenged that I'm not picking up any strays to add to the "excess baggage" bin!
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    Jun 21, 2013 9:41 PM GMT
    Everything about this made me sick. You need to get with this psycho crazy man again, he is your soulmate.