Thinking of Not going on Gay Websites and Apps anymore

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    Apr 28, 2013 10:13 PM GMT
    I only chatted with some few awesome people , but I feel like most guys just want sex . I would like Friends and a Relationship but I feel like it's non existent in the Gay Community unless you are really good looking and fit . I feel hopless alone and don't know what to do anymore . I'm not gonna change myself to fit a certain image I am myself and if that deals with me being single for the rest of my life then so be it . I think I am funny , nice , and attractive caring Person .
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    Apr 28, 2013 10:21 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidLike I said the last time you posted this mopy "I'm gonna take my ball and go home" comment:

    "Aww.....we're sure gonna miss you here on RJ." icon_wink.gif


    i won't miss most of you guys most of the time i just got teased i feel like im in highschool again getting teased for being gay now getting teased again for having a problem well sorry that i have issues and not perfect

    #water of a duck's back
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    Apr 28, 2013 10:27 PM GMT
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    yourname2000 saidLike I said the last time you posted this mopy "I'm gonna take my ball and go home" comment:

    "Aww.....we're sure gonna miss you here on RJ." icon_wink.gif


    i won't miss most of you guys most of the time i just got teased i feel like im in highschool again getting teased for being gay now getting teased again for having a problem well sorry that i have issues and not perfect

    #water of a duck's back


    u need real friends. Go to a gay community center or something. Volunteer at a gay event/function so u can meet other gays besides hookup sites and apps.

    put urself out there. Kind of a no-brainer.
    go on meetup.com or something and meet up with people who share your likes and interests type in a search for gay professionals in Canada and see whats out there.

    Just log the fuck off and stop complaining here. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 28, 2013 10:34 PM GMT
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    yourname2000 saidLike I said the last time you posted this mopy "I'm gonna take my ball and go home" comment:

    "Aww.....we're sure gonna miss you here on RJ." icon_wink.gif


    i won't miss most of you guys most of the time i just got teased i feel like im in highschool again getting teased for being gay now getting teased again for having a problem well sorry that i have issues and not perfect

    #water of a duck's back


    u need real friends. Go to a gay community center or something. Volunteer at a gay event/function so u can meet other gays besides hookup sites and apps.

    put urself out there. Kind of a no-brainer.
    go on meetup.com or something and meet up with people who share your likes and interests type in a search for gay professionals in Canada and see whats out there.

    Just log the fuck off and stop complaining here. icon_rolleyes.gif


    i appreciate the advice except the last part where you snapped at me like Kellog's Rice Krispies
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    Apr 28, 2013 10:34 PM GMT
    I said you were 80% better this incarnation, which I meant. But not if you keep going down this road.

    The better you behave here, the more friends you'll make. But it will take awhile for many guys to shake off their old memories.
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    Apr 28, 2013 10:42 PM GMT
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    yourname2000 saidLike I said the last time you posted this mopy "I'm gonna take my ball and go home" comment:

    "Aww.....we're sure gonna miss you here on RJ." icon_wink.gif


    i won't miss most of you guys most of the time i just got teased i feel like im in highschool again getting teased for being gay now getting teased again for having a problem well sorry that i have issues and not perfect

    #water of a duck's back


    u need real friends. Go to a gay community center or something. Volunteer at a gay event/function so u can meet other gays besides hookup sites and apps.

    put urself out there. Kind of a no-brainer.
    go on meetup.com or something and meet up with people who share your likes and interests type in a search for gay professionals in Canada and see whats out there.

    Just log the fuck off and stop complaining here. icon_rolleyes.gif


    i appreciate the advice except the last part where you snapped at me like Kellog's Rice Krispies


    you're welcome, boo boo
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    Apr 28, 2013 10:49 PM GMT
    I volunteered for a HIV outreach/support group while I was in Sydney. I actually made quite a few friends (other volunteers) and they all had differing views and ideas about things but they were essentially good and big hearted good people.

    There are other community things you can volunteer for.

    Might be something worth looking into.
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    Apr 28, 2013 10:51 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidI volunteered for a HIV outreach/support group while I was in Sydney. I actually made quite a few friends (other volunteers) and they all had differing views and ideas about things but they were essentially good and big hearted good people.

    There are other community things you can volunteer for.

    Might be something worth looking into.


    thanks i volunteered to help raise money for the gay parade and helped put together a mosiac for the gay community i like helping people
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    Apr 28, 2013 11:26 PM GMT
    anthony2394 saidI only chatted with some few awesome people , but I feel like most guys just want sex . I would like Friends and a Relationship but I feel like it's non existent in the Gay Community unless you are really good looking and fit . I feel hopless alone and don't know what to do anymore . I'm not gonna change myself to fit a certain image I am myself and if that deals with me being single for the rest of my life then so be it . I think I am funny , nice , and attractive caring Person .


    man, i did the same thing on friday night.

    deleted the okcupid, adam4adam and this website profile too. i got tired of the total narcissism, borderline sociopathy, arrogance, ignorance, fakeness, shallowness and for that matter the lack of respect for other individuals and even people themselves that made me go like "you know what, i don't think i'm in the right place". out of 1 or 2 real people, there seemed to be 10 or 12 people that were delusional or outthere. you know, i'm far from a perfect person. i have my issues and the whole nine that i have to deal with. i'm into dealing with reality even if it hurts me or is hard to stomach where i avoid it, run to the hill and etc.

    but one thing that i CAN'T and REFUSE to do is to constantly stay in an atmosphere where people are basically living in a fake world or a false sense of reality. me, i simply want to deal with someone who is realistic and is willing to deal with what's in front of us whether it be crying about our problems, admitting that we're broke, trying to do better for ourselves and etc. basically a guy that's a friend. bros before hos. being preoccupied with sex, finding a hunky guy that looks good and seems to only be concerned with loving all day is very boring and not all the time, i'm going to be like that. most definitely not going to force it either. i would love to have sex, date, kiss and etc BUT that's not all i want though. i want to do the same things i do with my friends with him. play pool, hockey, go to a movie, go hiking, be silly, crack jokes, listening to me, allowing me to vent, encouraging me to cry because i'm depressed, showing support with me getting help and etc. all i ask of a potential boyfriend is to be himself. that's it. simple things like that to me are more romantic and matter to me than a kiss or sex.
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    Apr 29, 2013 1:32 AM GMT
    Hmm, it's strange to me how some those bitching and moaning about this thread are the ones who boast on their profiles about having it all with some permutation of the trophy boyfriends (or excuse me, "cuddle bunnies"), great careers, bodies, etc., yet despite all this can think of nothing better to do than come here and bully someone online who is a little lonely. Do they really need to do that to make their life more perfect? Hmm, methinks all is not as it seems....
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    Apr 29, 2013 1:35 AM GMT
    Jesus, i wish I could find "all guys want it sex on these sites"...LOL I have enough friends, I wanna get fucked!! icon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 29, 2013 1:45 AM GMT
    Ugh...seriously, whats wrong with you people?!?!?

    There is a reason why you are not very liked, anthony and midget, and it has nothing to do with your race or the way you look.... it's your attitude!!!

    In general, RJ'ers will embrace those with positive attitudes and those who want to change.

    Two perfect examples would be Quest and waytodawn. They may not be the best lookers, but they are friendly and have a genuine desire to better themselves. They rarely get into altercations on here because they don't come here to bitch and complain and lash out at everyone. In turn, they have been embraced by the community and people are eager to see their updates.

    Both have made threads where they ask for opinions and take a sincere interest at what people have to say. Maybe if you both tried that people on here would like you more.

    This "woe is me" attitude is not cute. Tyra sums it up best.....watch and LEARN!!! We are rooting for you!!! WE ARE ALL ROOTING FOR YOU!!! HOW DARE YOU!!!!!! icon_mad.gif

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    Apr 29, 2013 1:50 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidSome of you guys are really out of the loop on this guy. Search the archives for AC2394.....you would not believe what this guy has put us all through. icon_confused.gif


    Okay, so what if someone is having some difficulties and is trying to reach out in a way you consider imperfect? We all go through bad times; would it kill you you to be a gentleman and a mensch and at least ignore it instead of responding to him with sarcasm and "warning" people about him? It's not like you're the king of RJ or he's "putting you through" anything; no skin off your back to click the ignore button if it annoys you so and you won't see his posts anymore. Is that so hard?
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    Apr 29, 2013 1:51 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidUgh...seriously, whats wrong with you people?!?!?

    There is a reason why you are not very liked, anthony and midget, and it has nothing to do with your race or the way you look.... it's your attitude!!!

    In general, RJ'ers will embrace those with positive attitudes and those who want to change.

    Two perfect examples would be Quest and waytodawn. They may not be the best lookers, but they are friendly and have a genuine desire to better themselves. They rarely get into altercations on here because they don't come here to bitch and complain and lash out at everyone. In turn, they have been embraced by the community and people are eager to see their updates.

    Both have made threads where they ask for opinions and take a sincere interest at what people have to say. Maybe if you both tried that people on here would like you more.

    This "woe is me" attitude is not cute. Tyra sums it up best.....watch and LEARN!!! We are rooting for you!!! WE ARE ALL ROOTING FOR YOU!!! HOW DARE YOU!!!!!! icon_mad.gif



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    Apr 29, 2013 1:59 AM GMT
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    yourname2000 saidSome of you guys are really out of the loop on this guy. Search the archives for AC2394.....you would not believe what this guy has put us all through. icon_confused.gif


    Okay, so what if someone is having some difficulties and is trying to reach out in a way you consider imperfect? We all go through bad times; would it kill you you to be a gentleman and a mensch and at least ignore it instead of responding to him with sarcasm and "warning" people about him? It's not like you're the king of RJ or he's "putting you through" anything; no skin off your back to click the ignore button if it annoys you so and you won't see his posts anymore. Is that so hard?

    Again, search the archives: you'll see we all took a lot of pains to offer helpful advice....it all turned out very badly. And when this iteration returned, we (certainly me) were all supportive and hopeful it would be better. But here we are again.

    As someone who's been down this road several times with A, I'm gonna trust my reading of the situation over yours. icon_wink.gif

    Thanks for your wonderful suggestions though.


    I think most of the time when a new guy hits RJ and has a tale of woe, generally most of us support him and offer advice. Even if its after a little while, most of us suss out the OP and his responses in a thread before making a comment. Occasionally this OP and others take full advantage of our kindness and genuine offers for help. This OP has done nothing to improve his situation and his ( and others) passive aggressiveness in reply does tend to make some of us come off as complete cunts. So be it, hang around here long enough and they all come back with a new screen name or wait long enough for newbies to come by and support them and attack regular posters.

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    yourname2000 saidLike I said the last time you posted this mopy "I'm gonna take my ball and go home" comment:

    "Aww.....we're sure gonna miss you here on RJ." icon_wink.gif


    i won't miss most of you guys most of the time i just got teased i feel like im in highschool again getting teased for being gay now getting teased again for having a problem well sorry that i have issues and not perfect

    #water of a duck's back


    u need real friends. Go to a gay community center or something. Volunteer at a gay event/function so u can meet other gays besides hookup sites and apps.

    put urself out there. Kind of a no-brainer.
    go on meetup.com or something and meet up with people who share your likes and interests type in a search for gay professionals in Canada and see whats out there.

    Just log the fuck off and stop complaining here. icon_rolleyes.gif



    Oh Community Center!

    Yes. Only hot guys are into community center.

    You can find only hot young guys playing board games, watching gay movies, listening to classic musics all the time.
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    Apr 29, 2013 2:33 AM GMT
    The best part of this thread is the RJ veterans getting their panties in a twist over someone who is easily ignored.

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    Apr 29, 2013 5:05 AM GMT
    leave then and don't come back next time
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    unfounded7 saidThe best part of this thread is the RJ veterans getting their panties in a twist over someone who is easily ignored.

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    Yourname has a lot of time on her hands....
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    Apr 29, 2013 5:13 AM GMT
    unfounded7 saidThe best part of this thread is the RJ veterans getting their panties in a twist over someone who is easily ignored.

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    The OP can't be easily ignored. He's beautiful. He's got a sensitivity to his looks that is irresistible.
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    Apr 29, 2013 5:16 AM GMT
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    unfounded7 saidThe best part of this thread is the RJ veterans getting their panties in a twist over someone who is easily ignored.

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    The OP can't be easily ignored. He's beautiful. He's got a sensitivity to his looks that is irresistible.



    Uhhhh....no....if I wasn't trying to be more nicer I would dig into him. His attitude is almost as bad as midgets. But he seems like a nice kid, just needs some confidence.

    He should really try about getting to know the people on Rj better...
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    Apr 29, 2013 5:18 AM GMT
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    unfounded7 saidThe best part of this thread is the RJ veterans getting their panties in a twist over someone who is easily ignored.

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    The OP can't be easily ignored. He's beautiful. He's got a sensitivity to his looks that is irresistible.



    Uhhhh....no....if I wasn't trying to be more nicer I would dig into him. His attitude is almost as bad as midgets. But he seems like a nice kid, just needs some confidence.

    He should really try about getting to know the people on Rj better...


    I saw give him some time to come into his own. He's discovering this new exciting yet kind of freightening side of himself.
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    Apr 29, 2013 5:18 AM GMT
    MisfitToy saidThe OP can't be easily ignored. He's beautiful. He's got a sensitivity to his looks that is irresistible.
    r u blind
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    Apr 29, 2013 5:20 AM GMT
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    MisfitToy saidThe OP can't be easily ignored. He's beautiful. He's got a sensitivity to his looks that is irresistible.
    r u blind


    Naw he's my type.
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    Apr 29, 2013 5:32 AM GMT
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    McQueen said
    MisfitToy saidThe OP can't be easily ignored. He's beautiful. He's got a sensitivity to his looks that is irresistible.
    r u blind
    Naw he's my type.
    u probably havent seen his teeth yet