Do any of your friends have a rule of you can't talk to someone they know or used to talk to?

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    Apr 29, 2013 12:24 AM GMT
    I am in a kind of falling out phase with a friend due to his stupid double-standards when it coms to meeting people.

    He has this idiotic idea that as his friend I can't hookup with any of his friends or talk to someone he 'USED TO' talk to. I think it's the most stupidest rule in a friendship. He tries to tell me I'm crossing the line if me and a friend of his hookup. There's been instances where someone he used to know woud hit on me and he'd accuse me of taking 2nds.

    But, when the tables turn and I know someone or have friends that he likes, it's okay for him to be kissing them behind my back. There have been 2 occasions (the current issue was just last saturday) where I met a guy, and then he goes behind my back and makes out with them. The last instance the guy exchanged numbers with me before I left the party and gave me 2 big hugs...then the following week my friend tells me he made out with him after! Then he going to lie and say he didn't see us doing that. I'm like dude, you were in the same room with everyone else at the party, how the fuck you didn't see it? You seen it, that's why you told me you 2 kissed the next morning.

    I told him all this yesterday along with he's a fucking grimey, triffling ass friend who doesn't have a single ounce of character in his system. I also told him that since that has happened TWICE, I can't trust him around guy I meet anymore. Then he tries to excuse the bullshit by saying the person came onto him. He wants to make up all these stupid rules that he can break. He claims he has a 'history' with certain guy and that I'm not 'allowed'. I'm like key word: HISTORY, not FUTURE.

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    Apr 29, 2013 12:30 AM GMT
    thats a bit of a double standard.

    Although I have a rule with friends, If they are gonna go at each other they had better be serious about it and ask first if making a move is alright.

    They then get the talk. They screw things up, they do stupid shit, they break up, I don't care. I wont take sides, I wont argue about it, I don't care whose to blame. If they are both invited to something they are both expected to turn up, no asking if the other one is coming, no bullshit games, no arguing, no crap. If they strain the friendship I have with the other person it'll be them that gets thrown to the side.

    Thankfully, when they've started dating things are most often then not gone really well and a few of them are still together after many many years.

    I also follow my own rule though.
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    Apr 29, 2013 12:31 AM GMT
    A bizarre rule to say the least!! Exit him stage left!
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    Apr 29, 2013 12:34 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidthats a bit of a double standard.

    Although I have a rule with friends, If they are gonna go at each other they had better be serious about it and ask first if making a move is alright..


    Meeting through friends is the main way people get together.

    I told him to stop competing with me. He doesn't believe he's competing with me. I'm like yes you are, because you want to be able to tell me all these people you hooked up with, but then the second a friend of his shows considerable interest in me, he shoots his friend down around me and probably does the same to them.

    I guess my desire for wanting good-looking, single friends kind of back-fired. It's alot harder than it seems. It seems like everytime we go out it turns into some kind of race. Or a game of checkers. I can't do this, I can't do that. Meanwhile he's collecting all the chips.
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    Apr 29, 2013 1:03 AM GMT
    he aint much of a friend.



    although why do all your friends need to be attractive?
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    Apr 29, 2013 1:38 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidhe aint much of a friend.



    although why do all your friends need to be attractive?


    They don't all need to be attractive. But for awhile I had a hard time meeting other guys who enjoyed going to the gym. We started off as 'dating' in a way but it's just been 'friends'. I think he just can't stand the thought of me with anyone he knows.
  • Apparition

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    Apr 29, 2013 2:39 AM GMT
    I fuck whoever I want and wants me. period.
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    Apr 30, 2013 5:39 PM GMT
    Apparition saidI fuck whoever I want and wants me. period.


    My friend called himself telling me at the party, "I'm not allowed to talk to so and so" because he has a 'history' with them. Meanwhile, this guy is hitting on me and being friendly, he got to be a hater and chew the guy out in front of me. Like bitch, I'm a grown ass man...plus you don't own NOBODY. You act like that's your x-husband.

    Guys really trip me out with that bullshit man. That's 1 thing that will make me want to end a friendship with real quick. All that you can do this, you can't do that bullshit when it comes down to a guy who you ain't even with. I almost wanted to bust him in his face.
  • dev_in

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    Apr 30, 2013 6:17 PM GMT
    Your 'friend' is toxic and controlling. Cut him.
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    Apr 30, 2013 6:20 PM GMT
    dev_in saidYour 'friend' is toxic and controlling. Cut him.


    Yup. You know the answer. Unless it's somebody he's CURRENTLY DATING (and I don't mean just hooking up), or who RECENTLY DUMPED HIM AND SERIOUSLY HURT HIS FEELINGS, he's got nothing to say.

    You know the right answer. Just grow a pair and tell him to mind his own business. Or get rid of him as a friend.
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    Apr 30, 2013 6:23 PM GMT
    Real friends are not manipulators.