Stuck in a rut help?

  • LoveAndPeace

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    Apr 29, 2013 11:56 PM GMT
    So a year has gone by and I'm in the same situation I was in a year ago.I graduated high school in may of last year and my mind was set on moving on and becoming an adult.My mother suggests me going into the air force but honestly I don't think I'm smart enough (very selective branch).There are other branches but I'm kinda iffy on the military right now.My father insists on me going to community college (which I kind of understand.) But I really don't want to live with my parents anymore(mom isn't truly happy about the whole gay thing) and I don't have a license so getting around is difficult ( although I'm getting it next month).I apply to jobs anyway but I never hear from them..any advice?
  • calibro

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    Apr 30, 2013 12:43 AM GMT
    stop being a pussy and do something
  • calibro

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    Apr 30, 2013 1:22 AM GMT
    SuperNova700 said
    calibro saidstop being a pussy and do something



    wow. How do you get away with being so rude to people?


    here, allow me to rephrase my advice to be more considerate...

    stop being a pussy... and do something! smiley-sex012.gif
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    Apr 30, 2013 1:24 AM GMT
    I'd recommend focusing on education. That's an investment that will pay off in the long run, and you're at the ideal age for attending college. A community college or technical school can help you get your career started.

    As for your living situation, you might need to hang on there a little longer. Maybe consider getting a part time job on the side to start putting some money away. Also maybe look into roommate situations with friends, if that is a possibility for you.

    Good luck! icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 30, 2013 1:25 AM GMT
    Burp
  • calibro

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    Apr 30, 2013 1:25 AM GMT
    SuperNova700 said
    calibro said
    SuperNova700 said
    calibro saidstop being a pussy and do something



    wow. How do you get away with being so rude to people?


    here, allow me to rephrase my advice to be more considerate...

    stop being a pussy... and do something! smiley-sex012.gif


    Are you like this in real life??


    i assure you i'm far less yellow in real life
  • calibro

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    Apr 30, 2013 1:42 AM GMT
    SuperNova700 said
    calibro said
    SuperNova700 said
    calibro said
    SuperNova700 said
    calibro saidstop being a pussy and do something



    wow. How do you get away with being so rude to people?


    here, allow me to rephrase my advice to be more considerate...

    stop being a pussy... and do something! smiley-sex012.gif


    Are you like this in real life??


    i assure you i'm far less yellow in real life



    So you're meaner when you're on RJ..... How'a you're real life personality like then??


    if you find my response mean, that's on you. i personally don't care for people who create threads about themselves for attention about matters a slug in a paper bag could get out of before they do. i don't do pity parties or coddling sessions. the op is an unemployed, living at home, not getting an education person who goes online to ask advice about what to do. as someone with a job, an education, and my own place, i don't know people like the op in real life, but if i did, i would tell them to grow up.
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    Apr 30, 2013 1:49 AM GMT
    Lets not digress. Forums are to help too.

    Go to college. Get a degree. I was in a similar position. It seems like a big investment taking time out to study, but it broadens your horizons and things make much more sense after. If the only issue is you staying home, try to work on that. Apply somewhere else. I am from India, studying in London. So things sort of work out on their own, just take the step.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Apr 30, 2013 1:52 AM GMT
    dude, i say go to junior college or go in the military. if you are not happy at home staying there will only make things worst. i think you need to go to school or do military. i also think you should look for jobs like starbucks or being a waiter or busboy at a restaurant. that way you can make your way up to becoming a bartender. that's just my two cents
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    Apr 30, 2013 1:55 AM GMT
    SuperNova700 said
    calibro said
    SuperNova700 said
    calibro said
    SuperNova700 said
    calibro said
    SuperNova700 said
    calibro saidstop being a pussy and do something



    wow. How do you get away with being so rude to people?


    here, allow me to rephrase my advice to be more considerate...

    stop being a pussy... and do something! smiley-sex012.gif


    Are you like this in real life??


    i assure you i'm far less yellow in real life



    So you're meaner when you're on RJ..... How'a you're real life personality like then??


    if you find my response mean, that's on you. i personally don't care for people who create threads about themselves for attention about matters a slug in a paper bag could get out of before they do. i don't do pity parties or coddling sessions. the op is an unemployed, living at home, not getting an education person who goes online to ask advice about what to do. as someone with a job, an education, and my own place, i don't know people like the op in real, but if i did, i would tell them to grow up.



    Why don't you get to know him and be his friend?? support and be there for him??


    +1
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    Apr 30, 2013 1:59 AM GMT
    calibro said
    SuperNova700 said
    calibro said
    SuperNova700 said
    calibro said
    SuperNova700 said
    calibro saidstop being a pussy and do something



    wow. How do you get away with being so rude to people?


    here, allow me to rephrase my advice to be more considerate...

    stop being a pussy... and do something! smiley-sex012.gif


    Are you like this in real life??


    i assure you i'm far less yellow in real life



    So you're meaner when you're on RJ..... How'a you're real life personality like then??


    if you find my response mean, that's on you. i personally don't care for people who create threads about themselves for attention about matters a slug in a paper bag could get out of before they do. i don't do pity parties or coddling sessions. the op is an unemployed, living at home, not getting an education person who goes online to ask advice about what to do. as someone with a job, an education, and my own place, i don't know people like the op in real, but if i did, i would tell them to grow up.


    LoveAndPeace, Calibro just needs a translator. He's 26, you're 19. When he says "stop being a pussy and do something!", he should probably add "please". The translated version sounds like this: "Hey, it's your life and the best way to get where you want to be is to make it happen. Figure out what you want to do in life, set a goal, make a plan, and make it happen."

    I like to work backwards from a goal. So, let's say that you decide that you want to be a lab tech. Start doing your research. Talk to some lab techs, look online to see what programs are out there, etc. It might take you 3 years of school. So, figure that you could be a lab tech by 2016ish. Now, work backwards from your goal. That means you'll have to get a degree, which means you'll have to pick a school, which means you'll have to figure out which school, which means you'll have to figure out financial planning/aid, which means you'll start school on August __, 20___. Like that.

    So, it sounds like your place to start is to figure what YOU want to do. Not what your mom wants or what your dad wants, but what YOU want. Consider your interests, your talents, and how much money is important to you. Many colleges have career counselors that you could probably talk to see if your interests fit their programs.

    So, stop being a pussy and do something! Kidding!! Get out there and go after what you want to do in life!
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    Apr 30, 2013 2:02 AM GMT
    calibro said
    SuperNova700 said
    calibro said
    SuperNova700 said
    calibro said
    SuperNova700 said
    calibro saidstop being a pussy and do something



    wow. How do you get away with being so rude to people?


    here, allow me to rephrase my advice to be more considerate...

    stop being a pussy... and do something! smiley-sex012.gif


    Are you like this in real life??


    i assure you i'm far less yellow in real life



    So you're meaner when you're on RJ..... How'a you're real life personality like then??


    if you find my response mean, that's on you. i personally don't care for people who create threads about themselves for attention about matters a slug in a paper bag could get out of before they do. i don't do pity parties or coddling sessions. the op is an unemployed, living at home, not getting an education person who goes online to ask advice about what to do. as someone with a job, an education, and my own place, i don't know people like the op in real, but if i did, i would tell them to grow up.



    Lonely stalker is LONELY - he has been Stalking Me for quite some time:

    From:CashTo:SuperNova700Subject:Re: Midliife crisisDate:Apr 29, 2013 at 9:25 PM
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    REALLY????

    I NEVER would have guessed.

    YOU are clever SIR...We need moar edgy talent like you on RJ!!!!

    WOW you had Me fooled - manoh MAN am I red in the face!!!!

    Yeah - poor little Me...so tiny and invisible...if ONLY someone would notice Me...

    I actually don't recall referring to you as a pussy.

    But Ya know - if the tampon fits WEAR it.



    ---- FROM SuperNova700 Apr 29, 2013 at 8:58 PM
    You're really stupid you know that? Giovanni777 the guy that "loves" you.... that was me.You used to call me a pussy alot too before....lol! you're 5'8 omg lol! you really a midget are you???lol!

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    From:CashTo:SuperNova700Subject:Re: Midliife crisisDate:Apr 29, 2013 at 9:35 PM
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    What is sad?

    And do you really think I am invisible anywhere?

    Feel free to pursue a hot 20 year old btw.

    I am sure they are all lining up for you.

    ---- FROM SuperNova700 Apr 29, 2013 at 9:32 PM


    You're delusional about being hot, you think you're hot because you have a hot body. But compared to a hot 20 yr' old, you're invisible. sad, but true.
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    Apr 30, 2013 2:06 AM GMT
    P.S. Don't worry about trying to pick THE PERFECT life goal for yourself. Many people get stuck because they're afraid they'll make the wrong decision...so, they end up making no decision at all. Don't do that. It's ok to change your goal as your life progresses. So, make the best decision you can now by talking with people you trust, maybe talking with a career counselor, etc. and then set a goal. I started off with the goal to be an English teacher. That changed to English Professor in college. But, that changed to Psychology professor in my sophomore year. I was a professor for several years, but now I'm a Dean. Just keep setting goals and moving forward by working your plans you lay out. Allow your goals to change if better opportunities present themselves.
  • MikeW

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    Apr 30, 2013 2:12 AM GMT
    Rockbiter saidP.S. Don't worry about trying to pick THE PERFECT life goal for yourself. Many people get stuck because they're afraid they'll make the wrong decision...so, they end up making no decision at all. Don't do that. It's ok to change your goal as your life progresses. So, make the best decision you can now by talking with people you trust, maybe talking with a career counselor, etc. and then set a goal. I started off with the goal to be an English teacher. That changed to English Professor in college. But, that changed to Psychology professor in my sophomore year. I was a professor for several years, but now I'm a Dean. Just keep setting goals and moving forward by working your plan you lay out.

    This is so true. calibro is abrupt but often right on. You need to 'do' something to get out of a rut. Exactly what, none of us could possibly know your real options and what is best for you. Going to school, yeah, joining the military, could be (wouldn't be my choice but w/e). The thing is, Rockbiter is right. Making a decision is a commitment but you don't have to think of it as a 'forever'. All of us *adults* go through all kinds of changes. We switched majors in school, we switched jobs later on, sometimes decided to pursue a whole new career path. We're all making it up as we go along... some more than others but still.
  • calibro

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    Apr 30, 2013 2:49 AM GMT
    Intensity70 saidCalibro do you want to be my boyfriend?


    o.m.g.....

    you're that weird black guy who thinks he lives in findland but is really just a mental hallucination of kathy griffen tripping on bea arthur's private stash!