"Imagining Gay Life in the Internet Age or Why I Don’t Internet Date"

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    Oct 22, 2008 12:31 PM GMT

    This will take some time to read, but an interesting reflection on gay life in the internet age:
    http://www.swin.edu.au/hosting/ijets/ijets/vol6num1/pdf/Article1Reynolds.pdf
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    Oct 22, 2008 12:34 PM GMT
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    Oct 22, 2008 7:25 PM GMT
    http://www.swin.edu.au/hosting/ijets/ijets/vol6num1/pdf/Article1Reynolds.pdf
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    Oct 22, 2008 7:42 PM GMT
    Maybe it's because I've never needed to, nor been desperate to find love. But it's the last place One would go to find a date or love. The Internett, to me, it's no diffrent to the old lonely hearts advertisments that were once, maybe still are, in the papers; yuk.

    No I got to meet my two Husbands in person, and the friendship was to develop face to face, and that was to grow into something deeper and lasting. How blessed I am.
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    Oct 22, 2008 7:58 PM GMT
    SurrealLife saidPlease create a link using the URL button. Thanks.


    LOL
    Could we get a RealJock post on the "how to" on this??
    We'll happily skip a day of "how to increase your pec size" in support of this PSA.

    Can I get an Amen?
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    Oct 22, 2008 8:02 PM GMT
    The internet has been both good and bad for the gay scene. I honestly don't get very sentimental about gay bars. Except for the dancing I never found them that interesting. I never found them the best venue for meeting interesting gay guys. I found sports, volunteering or other organizations better by far.

    The internet is like any other new technology, it is what you make of it. If you are really only interested in hook-ups then admit that and don't lament the fact that you are not meeting "Mr. Right" on a site like Manhunt or even RJ.
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    Oct 23, 2008 5:47 AM GMT
    I've never been to a gay bar, so I don't have that nostalgia, having grown up around it, I don't have the luddite perspective of it being the 'evil' taking away personal interactions LOL. It actually helped me come out, go figure.

    Anyway, I don't internet date simply because I can't deal with the whole longing and waiting and being unsure kinda thing. icon_razz.gif If I wanted a relationship, he has to be close enough so I can abduct him when the need arises. icon_twisted.gif
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    Oct 23, 2008 6:20 AM GMT
    But Sed, you'll have to re-evaluate your approach when your minions perfect the TCP/IP version of the quantum teleportation device. No?
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    Oct 23, 2008 6:26 AM GMT
    SSSHHHHHHH!!!

    Not so loud. I want to be able to suck most of the male population into my holding chambers before they are even aware that the device exists.

    >.>

    <.<

    *disappears through the internet vortex*
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    Nov 03, 2008 4:56 AM GMT
    In my opinion, the advantage of an ad (online or paper) over gay bars, is that you can specify psychological/personality characteristics in an ad and reduce the likelihood of being overly impressed by looks. In a bar, looks become the most important factor in approaching someone.

    At this point in my experience, looks seem to lose their pull pretty quickly, but where the person's head is at becomes more important over time.
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    Nov 03, 2008 7:57 AM GMT
    I prefer the internet; at least you can find people who are into your look or not.

    I spent half an hour chatting up a guy in a bar at the weekend only for him to tell me he was only into men with beards. Oh, and I'd look great with a beard.

    So, I'll take internet dating over bars any day.
  • GQjock

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    Nov 03, 2008 11:27 AM GMT
    I agree with Surreal
    Internet dating has been a two pronged sword
    it opened up a whole new way to meet men
    but at the expense of actually going out into the public and meeting different people
    we've turned into a "let your typing fingers do the walking" kind of society
    where we can pick the exact type of man we want and interact with