seekonk saidI guess it depends on the situation and how long you have chatted, but to me the times it happened (in reponse to my initial "hi"), I always felt, what a dick! He didn't have to make me feel bad, he just chose to.
I guess mine's just experience as I take a lot of things very light hearted and have a very heavy heart when it comes to other things.
This is one where I look at it as, "Everyone has their preferences and most are not "me" personally."
I once got rejected over not having enough money, not having what the person "wanted" from that lack of money. That person is not a douche, he is a douche for judging me, but he had stuff, prerequisites, I did not have. To me, other things matter and his values were just not the same as mine.
While I look at him and think, "What a selfish asshole" today, that's him, and I feel better because I know I'm not "that". The person matters to me over their financial situation.
Same with physical preferences. Hell, even intelligence. I don't personally like it when people write in all short-hand to me. It bugs the fuck out of me. I won't respond if that's all the conversation is. I'm not attracted to "bigger" guys for the most part, but I can be their friends if they hold a decent conversation. I let people know I'm just in it for the friendship if they ask, but, I go about it in a very tasteful way because I do honestly wish for their friendship.