Only Children?

  • Joeyphx444

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    May 04, 2013 12:29 AM GMT
    Any others out there? LOL

    I feel like my family setup is SO rare these days. First off, I am adopted. I am an only child and my parents are still married and living together. They have been married for about 27 years now.

    Most, if not ALL my friends growing up and even today have siblings and were not adopted and their parents are split up. I mean, they are good people and everything and they obviously have gone through a lot and they each have different experiences. I just feel that, in some aspects, I have skills they may lack. For example, I PREFER to live alone and I have no problem being along and spending time, well, with my self. I understand a lot of people can't really do this much. I don't know if this is an environmental issue from growing up or something else. I didn't have siblings or really cousins that were my age that lived near be but I had friends and was involved in after school activities when I was young. I wasn't "spoiled" either. In other's eyes maybe it seemed like that but to me I saw other families who had spoiled kids of like 3 or 4.

    So if you are an only child, what was different about growing up that you noticed? You think it has helped you now? Or no?
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    May 04, 2013 12:34 AM GMT
    Thats me!
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    May 04, 2013 1:36 AM GMT
    I'm an only child too. My parents had me late, and I think they regretted not having more.

    Not sure that having no siblings affected me in any really noticeable way. It made me value my friends very deeply, and perhaps it helped me forge an extra-strong bond with my parents, but really I think I wound up pretty much just like everyone else.

    It did make me fear coming out of the closet a bit more than I might have otherwise. I knew my parents were desperate for grandkids. At the time it felt like I would be ruining that dream for them if I admitted I was gay. In fact, the first words my mother said when I told her were "We love you no matter what dear, and you know you can still have kids right?"
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    May 04, 2013 4:38 AM GMT
    *Raises hand*

    I got spoiled but it was lonely. Though I wouldn't wish my crazy parents on anyone so I'm glad they didn't breed further.

    I'm like you in the sense that I'm comfortable being alone. I guess we just get used to it.
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    May 04, 2013 4:41 AM GMT
    Only child here and LOVING it
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    May 04, 2013 4:42 AM GMT
    So glad to see this is not a NAMBLA thread.
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    May 04, 2013 4:43 AM GMT
    I feel like with being an only child you either get the shit spoiled out of you or you become way more mature and socially apt than those with siblings. Fortunately, the latter happened to me lol. I kind of came to this realization when my mom remarried when I was 15 and I gained 3 step brothers. I was way more mature and responsible than they were.
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    May 04, 2013 8:57 AM GMT
    zd394 saidI feel like with being an only child you either get the shit spoiled out of you or you become way more mature and socially apt than those with siblings. Fortunately, the latter happened to me lol. I kind of came to this realization when my mom remarried when I was 15 and I gained 3 step brothers. I was way more mature and responsible than they were.


    I agree, you learn to handle stuff alone and be independent. A skill a surprisingly amount of people lack
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    May 04, 2013 9:02 AM GMT
    I'm an only child too.

    My parents are divorced, so my mother raised me on her own until I moved out at the age of 17.

    I was never a spoiled child and I'm happy that I wasn't. I've always been more independent because of that. I can't stand seeing kids nowadays growing up and having everything handed to them.

    I actually have a half-brother and a half-sister from my fathers previous Marrige; but they lived hours away from me with their mother, so I barely know them.
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    May 04, 2013 10:47 AM GMT
    Naw. I wish I was the only one


    Got two ratchet brothers and sisters and I am the baby in the fam
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    May 04, 2013 12:35 PM GMT
    I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters. I like being alone, too, and am also very independent So, I'm not sure that being an only child affects whether you like to be alone. My parents are still together.