Should I forgive my boyfriend for hitting me?

  • Franky_Bee

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    May 04, 2013 4:53 AM GMT
    We were arguing because he picked me up late and it just kept escalating. I made a comment about his job (he's a cashier at Petsmart) and said something along the lines of "I'm too good for someone who sells cat litter to people." After I said that he slapped me in the face, hard. Should I forgive him considering I went for the low blow.
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    May 04, 2013 5:26 AM GMT
    only you can decide that... buttttt .....
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    May 04, 2013 6:06 AM GMT
    Franky_Bee saidWe were arguing because he picked me up late and it just kept escalating. I made a comment about his job (he's a cashier at Petsmart) and said something along the lines of "I'm too good for someone who sells cat litter to people." After I said that he slapped me in the face, hard. Should I forgive him considering I went for the low blow.


    Sounds more like you slapped his hand with your face.
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    May 04, 2013 6:15 AM GMT
    No.

    Unless you're into that kind of thing as a kinky sideline
  • WApilot

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    May 04, 2013 6:24 AM GMT
    OH HELL NO!!!icon_evil.gif

    What you said was a low blow for sure but in no way, shape or form should your partner EVER lay a hand on you in that fashion. If it happens once, it'll happen again. You may love him or have feelings for him, but you should definitely leave. It'll be hard, but you deserve someone better whom won't hit you when they get angry.
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    May 04, 2013 6:37 AM GMT
    Please don't. icon_neutral.gif
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    May 04, 2013 6:38 AM GMT
    You insulted his occupation. he hit you
    you both need to forgive each other.
    Don't think about who's gonna do it first....just forgive.

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    May 04, 2013 7:07 AM GMT
    It is absolutely unacceptable that a guy hits another guy. While it was not right for you to insult him regarding his job, you need to walk away from your relationship before it escalates to a violent situation.
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    May 04, 2013 8:23 AM GMT
    I'm too good for someone who sells cat litter to people....


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    May 04, 2013 9:55 AM GMT
    Franky_Bee saidWe were arguing because he picked me up late and it just kept escalating. I made a comment about his job (he's a cashier at Petsmart) and said something along the lines of "I'm too good for someone who sells cat litter to people." After I said that he slapped me in the face, hard. Should I forgive him considering I went for the low blow.


    Well Franky...or Tiffany...or Kori...or Josh...or Noah...whoever you really are, Petsmart guy gave you a warning. I'd also give him a warning.
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    May 04, 2013 10:16 AM GMT
    Why is a slap necessarily considered worse than the comment the OP made? Maybe his boyfriend should leave him for emotional abuse.
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    May 04, 2013 10:49 AM GMT
    Stuff like this happens on Eastenders all the time.
  • BryUSC88

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    May 04, 2013 11:23 AM GMT
    Hitting is never ok...but what you said was way out of line.
  • DR2K

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    May 04, 2013 11:39 AM GMT
    You might forgive him, but you know you shouldn't.
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    May 04, 2013 12:05 PM GMT
    Well when my ex once tried to punch me but I stopped him. If he tried to attack me I would smack him with a 2 by 4 in the dick
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    May 04, 2013 12:10 PM GMT
    Both of these guys seem wrong for each other, and maybe wrong for anybody. They should part company.
  • jackooh

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    May 04, 2013 12:49 PM GMT
    a slap is nowhere near as bad as a punch, if this is the only time he has done it then you need to man-up! Dont be such a baby "oh he slapped me i'm so hurt"
    try being punched in the face n see how that feels.
    If he has done it more than once thats a dealbreaker tho, i've known a "slapper" a while n he isnt very popular
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    May 04, 2013 1:25 PM GMT
    ART_DECO saidBoth of these guys seem wrong for each other, and maybe wrong for anybody. They should part company.

    This. Physical violence outside of the bedroom is always a deal breaker. Unable to enjoy physical violence during sex is also a deal breaker.
  • Franky_Bee

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    May 04, 2013 4:07 PM GMT
    DR2K saidYou might forgive him, but you know you shouldn't.


    I think I am going to forgive him, I feel like I deserved it after what I said.
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    May 04, 2013 4:18 PM GMT
    ART_DECO saidBoth of these guys seem wrong for each other, and maybe wrong for anybody. They should part company.


    This^ You mentally abused him, he physically abused you. You don't deserve to be physically abused and he doesn't deserve your mental abuse. Forgiveness, however, is more important for the victim than the assailant. Victims who can't learn to forgive, never rid themselves of the anger brought on by the aggression. Forgiveness is one thing, staying in an abusive co-dependent relationship is yet another.
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    May 04, 2013 5:07 PM GMT
    If anything you should be begging him for forgiveness. He picked you up, then you bitched about him being late. You don't talk about how someone earns money...Unless you're paying their bill. If someone said that to me in my car, they'd be walkin the rest of the way.

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  • TheBizMan

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    May 04, 2013 5:13 PM GMT
    All these little girls freaking out about this guy being slapped. Women slap men all the time when they say something obnoxious. He said something obnoxious, he deserved it. If it had been a punch, followed by a series of more punches, then he may have an issue.
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    May 04, 2013 5:23 PM GMT
    I would have simply put you out of the car and driven off.



  • HottJoe

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    May 04, 2013 5:36 PM GMT
    meninlove said I would have simply put you out of the car and driven off.





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  • great_scott

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    May 04, 2013 6:04 PM GMT
    Well now he knows it's okay to hit you, and you won't do anything back. If you weren't a total bottom before, you are now. icon_lol.gif