shy at the gym

  • marvel2012ad

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    May 04, 2013 8:40 PM GMT
    anyone here or there get, or ever gotten shy at working out . i do .. sometime i go and i see al these guy,, working out and it brings me down so much i lose my drive to go ..
    the thing is i love working out i like going to the gym but when i get there and theres these HULKS.. and i seriously me HUGE guy,,i becasue like a 12 year old girl and freak out
    but not just the HULKS,, others guys too..
    and i know that they all started where i am today
    any advice on how to not focus on how others look and to stop comparing myself to them..
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    May 05, 2013 12:27 AM GMT
    I was self concious about working out too. I was fat (ok still am), and all the other people are ripped, in shape, and not like me. Take a few points into consideration. One, those guys started out small at some point as well. Many have been doing it for years. Second, many of those guys are nice, and willing to help a new guy get started. If your gym has a trainer, ask for help. Its worth the expense if only for a short period to get started. Knowing how to do the workouts without injury and wasted effort is a real boost when you see a hulk doing it wrong.


  • May 05, 2013 1:17 AM GMT
    Bring an MP3 player + headphones and concentrate on working out, or use others as inspiration/motivation..
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    May 05, 2013 7:10 AM GMT
    Unless you are acting like an idiot I'm sure nobody is paying attention to you. And I'm 5'5 135lbs soaking wet. If I can do it, you sure as hell can. Use them as inspiration, if not that, jack off material. I use both!!!
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    May 05, 2013 9:23 AM GMT
    Try not to feel so intimidated by them, use them as motivation. Everyone has to start somewhere.
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    May 05, 2013 2:49 PM GMT
    Get an iPod or an MP3 and then jam out while you workout. It'll distract you from what's going on. Also maybe bring a buddy with you that's kinda hefty so you can feel better about yourself.
  • HndsmKansan

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    May 05, 2013 2:52 PM GMT
    First of all, you look good.. you are way ahead of any average "Joe" at the gym.

    Never compare yourself with others, we all have different "systems", we react differently to different stimuli, differing ages... so many things that bring about different results.

    I say, be damned glad you have what you have.... and figure how to make it better for yourself.. for your health & fitness and sense of well being. It really should always be about you... not them. Remember that!
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    May 05, 2013 2:53 PM GMT
    too shy to step foot in a gym here. my eyes would be at the floor and my dick would be pointing to the ceiling so no thanks icon_biggrin.gif
  • calibro

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    May 05, 2013 3:03 PM GMT
    just imagine them all in their undies
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    May 05, 2013 3:13 PM GMT
    Just from looking at your picture, I can tell you are really shy. Maybe Planet Fitness?
  • Trauts

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    May 05, 2013 3:35 PM GMT
    turbobilly saidJust from looking at your picture, I can tell you are really shy. Maybe Planet Fitness?


    Ditto
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    May 05, 2013 3:45 PM GMT
    i dont understand all these people here giving you advice, you have an awesome body and i bet there are people in the gym who are jealous of the body you have. you are ripped, you are really ripped.

    and all these people giving you advice like take mp3 music, dont pay attention to others etc. need to look at their bodies first and perhaps implement their advice to themselves.

    i mean seriously, look at you, you are awesomely ripped.
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    May 05, 2013 3:47 PM GMT
    Keep a fitness journal with you. Record what you're doing - reps, weights, etc. That way you can stay focused on what you're doing and not what the other guys are doing. Also allows you to see what you did last time and the progress you are making. Screw everyone else (well, not literally LOL)

    I plan my workout before I get to the gym - or on a Lifecycle during a warm-up and focus on what I need to get done. Going with a purpose is a real game changer.
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    May 05, 2013 4:00 PM GMT
    u look hot.

    if your gym is full of steroid guys, go to another gym.

    my old gym was full of steroids, and it threw me off. i felt small and insignificant. also, there was lots of temptation around, people talking about steroids, should they try it, who to buy it from, what kind to buy, etc. it was very distracting, and it had nothing to do with "performance" - it was only for the look.

    stop buying into their look, and start focusing on yourself in the mirror.

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    May 05, 2013 4:16 PM GMT
    When I started lifting, I used to get shy around those guys that were huge and beautiful. Now, every time I go to the gym, I use them as a reminder of why I'm there and it gives me motivation to lift more.

    It's all in your prospective. You just gotta turn the negatives into a positive.
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    May 05, 2013 4:25 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidFirst of all, you look good.. you are way ahead of any average "Joe" at the gym.

    Never compare yourself with others, we all have different "systems", we react differently to different stimuli, differing ages... so many things that bring about different results.

    I say, be damned glad you have what you have.... and figure how to make it better for yourself.. for your health & fitness and sense of well being. It really should always be about you... not them. Remember that!



    great advice!
  • d_1M

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    May 05, 2013 4:29 PM GMT

    theres also 2 ways to look at it

    you can look at them as an inspiration to work out harder and get to your goal

    or the bad one the discourage you and make you quit.

    i say in a good way, man up and dont let anything make you feel less ever.

    now lets work out yo lol
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    May 06, 2013 3:13 PM GMT
    Use them as motivation but never compare yourself to them. If you insist on comparison, take progress pics so that you can compare against your former self.

    In regards to being shy, just do your thing and try not to be unapproachable. If you see someone doing an exercise that you would like to try but want further explanation, ask the person. I know when people ask me questions I feel like that I am doing something right. Most guys in the gym like this.

    and again in regards to being shy, all it usually takes is becoming friendly with just one person for you to overcome your shyness and become an fully active member of your gym. You are not only part of a gym, but you are a part of a brotherhood.
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    May 06, 2013 3:20 PM GMT
    You paid your $$$, you have as much right to be there as anyone else who has paid the $$$.
    You are in compettion with no one except yourself.
    Gym time is one time when it is really all about you.
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    May 06, 2013 3:23 PM GMT
    marvel2012ad said anyone here or there get, or ever gotten shy at working out . i do .. sometime i go and i see al these guy,, working out and it brings me down so much i lose my drive to go ..
    the thing is i love working out i like going to the gym but when i get there and theres these HULKS.. and i seriously me HUGE guy,,i becasue like a 12 year old girl and freak out
    but not just the HULKS,, others guys too..
    and i know that they all started where i am today
    any advice on how to not focus on how others look and to stop comparing myself to them..


    First of all, you have nothing to worry about in the looks/body department.

    Secondly, I have that issue as well on occasion. Usually, it's only when I'm going through a tough stretch where I don't feel as if my workouts are productive. That's when it happens to me. That will last a few days, and then I get out my funk and start ignoring my surroundings again.
  • gwuinsf

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    May 06, 2013 3:39 PM GMT
    Slim2010 saidTry not to feel so intimidated by them, use them as motivation. Everyone has to start somewhere.


    This.

    I see guys at the gym and I realize that I'll never have a body like them due to sheer genetics. But there some guys that I see where I think "OK I could look like that" so I use them as inspiration. Turn it around and think "OK that's my goal. I want to look like that. So what do I have to do to make that happen?"
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    May 06, 2013 3:43 PM GMT
    just keep cool man, dont work out for them work out for YOU, i'm a petite guy myself and i see the big guys, but hey everyone is different right ? and i looked at your profile you have a nice body

    I'm naturally thin but i go to the gym to define my body so even though i'm not a hulking guy i'm still toned, and that makes me happy icon_smile.gif
  • marvel2012ad

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    May 10, 2013 11:56 PM GMT
    turbobilly saidJust from looking at your picture, I can tell you are really shy. Maybe Planet Fitness?



    im shy at the gym..
    not planet fitness but progym montreal ...

    also thx for all the advice guys
  • Timbales

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    May 11, 2013 12:15 AM GMT
    god, if you're self conscious then I don't know what I should be....
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    May 11, 2013 12:54 AM GMT
    I feel like this a lot,

    because I'm so short and I don't look my age at all and still have my lip piercings from my emo kid phase (i know...just glad i never decided to put gauges in my ears.) which probably doesn't help, I feel so self concious more so because my gym's weight lifting gear is in a kind of separate room which is small so you walk in and straight away have all these massive guys lifting crazy weights in your personal space and because I have literally just started I feel so ashamed I'm only lifting like 7.5kg dumbells.