Have you ever hit your BF?

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    May 05, 2013 4:04 AM GMT
    That other thread got me thinking. Have you?

    Personally, when I found out my ex was married I slashed his tires/keyed his cars but didn't hurt him because I felt bad for his wife and kid.

    But when I found my ex gf from highschool with a guy in my bed, I shot him with a BB gun lmao
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    May 05, 2013 4:24 AM GMT
    I never hit a bf, but I did block enough punches from one (drunken rage) that he gave up and went to sleep. icon_lol.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    May 05, 2013 4:26 AM GMT
    You might want to see a psychologist or get some anger management training before you do something worse ... Like kill someone
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    May 05, 2013 4:26 AM GMT
    No.

    I'd never hit them.

    Arson is more my speed.
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    May 05, 2013 4:42 AM GMT
    MisfitToy saidNo.

    I'd never hit them.

    Arson is more my speed.
    You misspelled Arsenic.
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    May 05, 2013 4:43 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    MisfitToy saidNo.

    I'd never hit them.

    Arson is more my speed.
    You misspelled Arsenic.


    No I meant getting Angela Bassett on his ass and burning his shit down.
  • Just_Tim

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    May 05, 2013 4:58 AM GMT
    I'm a nice guy and would NEVER want to hit anybody. I'm very nice. Maybe too nice. Sometimes, when I think about how overly nice I am, I get angry and just want to hit someone. But I can't. I'm just too nice icon_neutral.gif
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    May 05, 2013 5:01 AM GMT
    MisfitToy said
    paulflexes said
    MisfitToy saidNo.

    I'd never hit them.

    Arson is more my speed.
    You misspelled Arsenic.


    No I meant getting Angela Bassett on his ass and burning his shit down.
    She's such a fucking hound.
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    May 05, 2013 5:52 AM GMT
    I don't think I've ever hit anyone. (In a serious, nonchildish, way)

    But I would never hit anyone. It's against my nature.
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    May 05, 2013 5:57 AM GMT
    Some of you may not expect this from me...but here it goes.
    To speak honestly, I did hit my bf several times in the past. many times in a horrible way.
    we are together for more than 6 years now....and all that happened in the first 2 years, I don't remember exactly.
    If i recall those incidents, I consider myself as a monster, an armature, a fool.
    I used to be very short tempered back then.
    everything is changed in the past 4 years...I realized that the problem is in me, I worked hard to control my anger by thinking a lot on what is right and what is wrong and constantly reminding myself that "Actions done in anger is always followed by shame"

    Now I'm a completely different person...If my bf does anything stupid, I not only won't raise my hand to hit, but also the thought of causing him physical or emotional pain does not occur to me...even if it's a very bad situation.
    Now I rarely get anger and even if I get anger, I can totally manage it with non insulting words.
    I consider myself as lucky for he didn't leave me back then. Now we both are very happy together.

    On the path of anger management, I discovered a secret for why people go for fight(word/physical) when they get anger...If I tell you the secret, It is very obvious for anyone to grasp.
    And the secret is, when we are in a tough situation, situation where we don't know how to respond or how to control, we usually get angry...angry because we don't know what's the next step to take...so, instead of having patience and thinking about it, people often confront and end it by violence (word/physical) which in reality it only aggravates the situation.

    So, for any of you who get angry, calm down and think for a solution...soon your anger will be gone...
    this will not only helpful in relationships but very helpful in every kind of problem you'll face in your life.
    and one day will come where you'll no longer even get angry.
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    May 05, 2013 6:17 AM GMT
    nope, never raised a hand at someone I loved.

    If I have to get physically violent with someone then I've failed at using words to express exactly what has pissed me off.

    You can inflict longer lasting damage on a person by the right selection of words then you'll ever inflict on a person physically.

    Having said that, I've never said something to someone in anger that I've needed to then apologise for cause even when I'm furious my head is screaming at me to not say something to just be spiteful. Don't inflict damage just because your hurting.
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    May 05, 2013 6:28 AM GMT
    Harry7785 saidSome of you may not expect this from me...but here it goes.
    To speak honestly, I did hit my bf several times in the past. many times in a horrible way.
    we are together for more than 6 years now....and all that happened in the first 2 years, I don't remember exactly.
    If i recall those incidents, I consider myself as a monster, an armature, a fool.
    I used to be very short tempered back then.
    everything is changed in the past 4 years...I realized that the problem is in me, I worked hard to control my anger by thinking a lot on what is right and what is wrong and constantly reminding myself that "Actions done in anger is always followed by shame"

    Now I'm a completely different person...If my bf does anything stupid, I not only won't raise my hand to hit, but also the thought of causing him physical or emotional pain does not occur to me...even if it's a very bad situation.
    Now I rarely get anger and even if I get anger, I can totally manage it with non insulting words.
    I consider myself as lucky for he didn't leave me back then. Now we both are very happy together.

    On the path of anger management, I discovered a secret for why people go for fight(word/physical) when they get anger...If I tell you the secret, It is very obvious for anyone to grasp.
    And the secret is, when we are in a tough situation, situation where we don't know how to respond or how to control, we usually get angry...angry because we don't know what's the next step to take...so, instead of having patience and thinking about it, people often confront and end it by violence (word/physical) which in reality it only aggravates the situation.

    So, for any of you who get angry, calm down and think for a solution...soon your anger will be gone...
    this will not only helpful in relationships but very helpful in every kind of problem you'll face in your life.
    and one day will come where you'll no longer even get angry.


    How did your BF react to this?
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    May 05, 2013 6:41 AM GMT
    Slim2010 said
    Harry7785 said
    How did your BF react to this?

    react to...? when we're fighting or now?
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    May 05, 2013 6:53 AM GMT
    Harry7785 said
    Slim2010 said
    Harry7785 said
    How did your BF react to this?

    react to...? when we're fighting or now?


    How did he react to you hitting him several times?
    Did he start to hate you? Did he fear you? How did he react when the person he was in a relationship with (possibly love/loved) caused him physical pain?
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    May 05, 2013 7:14 AM GMT
    Slim2010 said
    Harry7785 said
    Slim2010 said
    Harry7785 said
    How did your BF react to this?

    react to...? when we're fighting or now?

    How did he react to you hitting him several times?
    Did he start to hate you? Did he fear you? How did he react when the person he was in a relationship with (possibly love/loved) caused him physical pain?

    He was sad, very upset, fear was there, sometimes he fights back. but he said to me once that he never hated me. and the reason he gave is "Though I dislike you getting anger, you're good person in several other ways" He said something like that, but the content is same.

    & now, he is the one who always gets vexed at me! lol
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    May 05, 2013 8:09 AM GMT
    Harry7785 said
    Slim2010 said
    Harry7785 said
    Slim2010 said
    Harry7785 said

    He was sad, very upset, fear was there, sometimes he fights back. but he said to me once that he never hated me. and the reason he gave is "Though I dislike you getting anger, you're good person in several other ways" He said something like that, but the content is same.

    & now, he is the one who always gets vexed at me! lol


    Interesting. I think you're really lucky to have him and to have been together for so long. Not that im excusing what you did, but some people aren't that understanding when someone has anger issues.
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    May 05, 2013 8:33 AM GMT
    I've never raised a hand on any guy I've ever dated. But then again, they were all taller and bigger than me....that's beside the point! I've seen too many patients in the ICU who were victims of domestic violence and I can gladly say that I will never contribute to that kind of unfortunate stupidity.
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    May 05, 2013 9:50 AM GMT
    I have never hit a partner, BF, date, trick, or any gay man in anger at all. And only one of those BFs ever assaulted me, quickly resulting in him becoming my ex-BF.

    I did once have a friendly pugel sticks contest with a BF, however, which resembled the illustration below. We weren't dressed in any costume, though, and wore padded headgear similar to boxing practice. We also stood on 2 small raised platforms, surrounded by padded mats, the object being to knock the other off. You paid to compete, the money going to a college campus charity.

    Though he was younger, bigger and much stronger than me (I was 51 then, he 40) I won all 3 rounds. We had trained with pugel sticks in the Army, so my technique was better than his.

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    May 05, 2013 9:56 AM GMT
    I've had guys hit me before in a abusive way. Ice became my very best friend.
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    May 05, 2013 10:04 AM GMT
    Seric saidI've had guys hit me before in a abusive way. Ice became my very best friend.

    That sickens me to hear that. And you have my sympathies. Besides ice, how did you handle the situation afterwards, what did you do? Stay with them or leave? Were they BFs or what?
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    May 05, 2013 10:14 AM GMT
    Slim2010 said
    Harry7785 said
    Slim2010 said
    Harry7785 said
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    Harry7785 said

    Interesting. I think you're really lucky to have him and to have been together for so long. Not that im excusing what you did, but some people aren't that understanding when someone has anger issues.

    Yes, I'm very lucky to have him...Thanks!
    and I didn't excuse myself either though I totally rectified my mistakes.
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    May 05, 2013 10:15 AM GMT
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    Seric saidI've had guys hit me before in a abusive way. Ice became my very best friend.

    That sickens me to hear that. And you have my sympathies. Besides ice, how did you handle the situation afterwards, what did you do? Stay with them or leave? Were they BFs or what?


    The first time, I endured it for about 3 more months, I honestly thought he could change. I had to ask a few of my girl friends if they could show me how to cover some of my marks with make up, though usually he would hit me in places where it couldn't be seen under the clothes. I felt broken, My friends cried for me, but I was so stupid, to think he could change.

    My friend took me in one of their homes by force one day, they didn't tell my boyfriend where I was at, and they sheltered me, until I finally took a good look in the mirror. Not only was I broken on the outside, but I knew I was broken on the inside as well. I was so young, I didn't think it would have gotten that bad.

    That was about four years ago.

    And just recently, actually, yesterday night, I was on a date with a guy I've been seeing for about 2 or 3 weeks and he physically hit me for the first time, The memories, flooding in like waves, and old pains resurfacing, It was suffocating, and I felt like was drowning once again.

    It's actually the major reason why my post as of late have been so jaded, and bitter.

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    May 05, 2013 10:15 AM GMT
    Seric saidI've had guys hit me before in a abusive way. Ice became my very best friend.

    I'm sorry to hear this. :-(
  • chadwick1985

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    May 05, 2013 10:19 AM GMT
    II've only hit one person I love, my dad. I was a teenager but he deserved it. (Caught him cheating on my mom).

    I have not and will not hit a bf, unless it is to defend myself from an attack from them. I can't stand people who hit the person they're in a relationship with.
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    May 05, 2013 10:22 AM GMT
    No never hit a boyfriend, had 2 relationships that went down this path of them hitting me, and after the abuse from number 1, I left number 2 relationship that moment it happened.

    I have had several times in my life where people around me have been in such abusive relationships they have ended up in hospital, so I dont take too kindly to abusive people