Gay TV Producer Turned Away from Hometown Arkansas HS Graduation Speech Because...?

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    May 06, 2013 12:26 PM GMT
    "Concern from the community" over lengthy graduation proceedings... or something else?

    KAIT8-TVIMBODEN, Ark. (AP/KAIT) - A 1990 Sloan-Hendrix High School graduate who is now a television producer in Los Angeles says an invitation for him to speak at the school's graduation ceremony was rescinded because he's gay.

    Bryant Huddleston says in a letter to the editor that he's disappointed and that Superintendent Mitch Walton chose to make him "a hotbed controversial issue." Walton would not say why Huddleston isn't speaking -but said several of the five school board members were against it. He would not identify those who were opposed.

    The board president is Steve Huddleston - Bryant Huddleston's father. Steve Huddleston says he plans to resign at the end of the school year after his daughter's graduation. Efforts to reach other board members were unsuccessful.

    So the guy's dad is the School Board Prez, and his sister is graduating from the high school this year.

    The district superintendent's response once the story hit the news:

    Mitch Walton (via KAIT8-TV)"Sloan-Hendrix has had individuals to speak at graduation in the past. Contrary to what has been said, no invitation was extended this year to anyone. As superintendent, I have the authority to decide about who the speaker will be or whether we have a speaker at all. The school board does not vote on speakers for graduation.

    This year, Mr. Steve Huddleston, a board member, suggested his son as a speaker. Bryant Huddleston graduated from Sloan-Hendrix in 1990 and went on to success in the entertainment industry. He was never invited by me to be the graduation speaker. After visiting informally with board members, no agreement was reached as to who should be invited to speak. Therefore, my decision was to do what had been discussed in the past—to discontinue the use of outside speakers and thereby shorten an already lengthy graduation program.

    Sloan-Hendrix has exceptional graduates. Graduation this year and in the future will feature only student speakers. Graduation is a celebration of the accomplishments of Sloan-Hendrix students and a time to let those students shine for their families and the community at large. We welcome the presence of everyone in the community to share in this event."

    It's not clear that the board informally voted on more than one speaker (Huddleston), and unclear that if the voting was informal, why the father was "forced to abstain" (as the son alleges in the letter below). It's also unclear if informal polling of board members violates the state's Open Meeting Law, or why, after apparently many years of outside speakers, the decision by the super was reached ONLY after the Board President father had suggested his son to him.

    Anyway, here's the letter from Bryant (next post):
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    Bryant Huddleston (via Arkansas Times)To the Sloan-Hendrix School Board and Superintendent Mitch Walton:

    Dear Mr. Walton,

    I am writing to express my disappointment in your recent decision to recant your invitation for me to be the keynote speaker at my little sister, Madicyn's, graduation from Sloan-Hendrix High School this year, based solely on the fact that I am gay.

    What baffles me Mr. Walton is that you chose to disregard the fact that I grew up in Imboden, and my career accomplishments—KAIT news anchor and reporter, successful television producer in Hollywood, producing shows such as E! News, Access Hollywood, etc., —were dismissed and instead you chose to make me a hot bed controversial issue.

    Mr. Walton, your decision forced the members of the Sloan-Hendrix School Board to vote on my participation but what was equally unfair is that you forced the President of the Board Steve Huddleston (my father), to abstain from voting, thus forcing a tie and then declared there would be "no speaker this year," ultimately nixing any opportunity to share my pathway to success with the graduates. Was this in the students' best interest or is this a decision based on religious beliefs?

    During my years at SHHS, I was the student body president for two years in a row. I also helped lead our Student Council to receive state-wide recognition for the first time— all despite being bullied on campus for many years. Mr. Walton, your decision here is like being bullied again twenty-three years later. Personally, it's both sad and disappointing. I'm disappointed that board members Preston Clark and Aaron Murphy, who represent the school that my sisters and I hold so dear, fear that I would be unfit as a role model, and I'm saddened that you Mr. Walton, appear to be more concerned with what your congregation might say on Sunday, rather than doing what is right for the students.

    I understand that Mr. Clark and Mr. Murphy both stated there would be "concern from the community" if I were allowed to speak. I'm curious—did you think my speech would have focused on recruiting youngsters and passing out "Go Straight to Gay" cards over sharing the tools that I used to achieve success? You might be surprised to know that "recruitment" does not and never will work. And just for the record, just so we're clear, my words were not going to address a "certain agenda," but I was hoping to empower your students to continue their education. My speech would have also touched on the importance of women, like my sister, who will go out into the world and know that they can now pull their chairs right up to the table of equality. To encourage them that they can no longer sit in the back and let men make the important decisions for them. And for that matter, letting them know that someday a woman or two or three can become a member of the Sloan-Hendrix School Board. After all, there's an opening, since my father will resign from the Board later this month.

    I could just sit back and let this slide, but if I did, the discrimination that has taken place here would go unnoticed like it has so many times in history. Unless my arguments here cause you to reevaluate, nothing will change. But what must change, is the way we treat our lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) youth because, News Flash, the world is changing and it starts in our homes, our schools and yes, even in our places of worship. The suicide rate amongst LGBT teens is staggering. As Superintendent, Mr. Walton—I hope you are aware that LGBT youth already attend classes on your campus. They are going from class to class with a fear of being outed or being treated horribly by their classmates—so adding educators and mentors to that mix prohibits these teens from thriving. The Board represents them too, and by silencing me, you're telling those students that it isn't okay to be who they are.

    Being gay is not all that I am and it's certainly not something I chose. I'm a loving son, brother, a professional, and a fantastic friend. But what I am first and foremost is a father who tries every day to do the best he can to raise a kind and loving son. My little boy came into my life from the Los Angeles foster care system. I was the luckiest man in the world when, as a single parent, the adoption was complete. I'm raising him to understand that there are all kinds of people on our planet, all kinds of families and all kinds of love. While you want me to steer clear of the commencement podium, I am asked to speak annually to hundreds of potential parents about the importance of adopting these forgotten children.

    Finally, I heard someone say that progress comes from those who are willing to walk a mile in someone else's shoes. We are currently fighting against inequality in our country. It's a fight—by the way—which we will ultimately win. Your decision to ban me from speaking solely because I'm gay is not unlike the arguments white men made years ago, to not allow black children to share the same school house halls with white children. It's the same thing, Mr. Walton, it's called discrimination. And, in closing, in the words of Eleanor Roosevelt:

    "...Where, after all, do universal human rights begin? In small places, close to home - so close and so small that they cannot be seen on any maps of the world."

    Today, by your actions, that small place is in a small town called Imboden, where decisions are made around a small table, surrounded by five men and a School Superintendent. So, next time you're faced with an important decision, I hope you take time to think twice, have a proper dialogue, and most importantly choose to be on the right side of history.

    Bryant Huddleston, Sloan-Hendrix Class of 1990
  • honestsweat

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    May 06, 2013 6:23 PM GMT
    He's being punished because his parents spelled his sister's name: Madicyn.
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    May 06, 2013 6:52 PM GMT
    honestsweat saidHe's being punished because his parents spelled his sister's name: Madicyn.


    Of course, Daddy never gets to be School Board Prez if so.

    More likely, it's their warped belief her big bro is living in Cyn. icon_wink.gif