since mother's day is coming up on sunday, speak on your mother

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    May 07, 2013 3:46 AM GMT
    first and foremost, i want to say i love you, mom and i'm not saying this because of mother's day either.

    even though i've been a pain in your ass from the start compared to my older brother where it was a task to deal with me. you say that i was a demanding child and that after having me, that was it. you are my best friend. even though you don't always understand me, the things that i do, my thoughts, views and and etc, i will ALWAYS have your back. you believed in me back with my developmental delay difficulties when i was a kid and the whole nine when these folks wanted to make me a damn statistic. you knew there was nothing wrong with me, tried your damn best and when i started talking, you pretty much proved those naysayers right.

    you pretty much dealt with a lot of bullshit throughout your life such as dealing with my father and his crazy ass antics. you dealt with shit before that but your strength and determination didn't keep you from doing what you had to do. there was always food on the table, you paid the bills, you took care of your sons, worked 2 to 3 jobs, and still held it down. you always were able to give us a christmas, celebrate our birthdays. you went to all the talent shows and spoiled the fuck out of us. whenever we fucked up, you'd let us have it too.

    but through all that, you still loved us.

    even though i may not be the perfect son, have a lot to improve on, have disappointed you, will disappoint you and etc, please know that i love and care about you. fuck the haters. i'm so happy to have you as my mother. sorry for all the times that i have and will disappoint you. even though i'm gay, i just hope that i could give you a grandkid since you were extremely disappointed when you found out that you probably weren't going to have any grandkids coming from me.

    i could give a flying fuck if anybody here thinks this shit is an essay or whatever. fuck you if you think so. there's nothing wrong with saying "i love you, mom" or being a mama's boy. once again, fuck you if you look @ this shit as me being soft or a bitch.
  • AMoonHawk

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    May 07, 2013 5:20 AM GMT
    best person I ever met in my life
  • Montague

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    May 07, 2013 5:23 AM GMT
    i hope that bitch rots in hell..
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    May 07, 2013 10:45 AM GMT
    I love my mum. Mother's Day is difficult though.
    The abuse my mum hurled at me last year because I recently came out was horrendous. I ended up asking her to stop hurling abuse or I would have to leave. To which she responded that she still had a few things to say. After reminding her that words can hurt and that she should think carefully about the implications of what she will say next she continued to tell me what a horrible son, grandson and human being that I am....
    I talk to my mum and try to show her love. I know she talks behind my back to my family members but well what do you do?
    I will always love her. I'm not going to take all that abuse on board. The issue at stake here is my sexuality not all the other stuff. I think I'm a decent and loving guy.
    So this Mother's Day I will cook my mum a big breakfast with my brother. I bought her a beautiful gift as well (seeing as her love language is gifts).
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    May 07, 2013 10:58 AM GMT
    My mom was the biggest role model in my life and was a wonderful person. Sadly, she passed away in 1999.
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    May 07, 2013 11:02 AM GMT
    mmm_Pecs saidI love my mum. Mother's Day is difficult though.
    The abuse my mum hurled at me last year because I recently came out was horrendous. I ended up asking her to stop hurling abuse or I would have to leave. To which she responded that she still had a few things to say. After reminding her that words can hurt and that she should think carefully about the implications of what she will say next she continued to tell me what a horrible son, grandson and human being that I am....
    I talk to my mum and try to show her love. I know she talks behind my back to my family members but well what do you do?
    I will always love her. I'm not going to take all that abuse on board. The issue at stake here is my sexuality not all the other stuff. I think I'm a decent and loving guy.
    So this Mother's Day I will cook my mum a big breakfast with my brother. I bought her a beautiful gift as well (seeing as her love language is gifts).


    Dude, cut the apron strings. The bitch sounds toxic enough to be listed on a banned substance list. And I thought my mom was bad; she now seems like a peach in comparison to yours! I'm going to give my mom a big hug and a kiss this Mother's Day (yet still keep her at arms length the rest of the year).

    Speaking of banned substances, you might want to consider some arsenic in that breakfast you're preparing for her.
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    May 07, 2013 11:07 AM GMT
    my mom has been there with me through thick and thin , i couldnt have asked for a better one. Thank you mom .icon_cool.gif
  • bkjhebert

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    May 07, 2013 12:26 PM GMT
    My mom worked with our grade school principle to stand up to bullies who were bullying me. She protected me and was ahead of her time in this respect. She is still my hero today. Sadly, she has lost her hearing and I’ve had to stand up to bullies on her behalf who are intolerant of her disability, which I am only too glad to do.
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    May 07, 2013 12:30 PM GMT
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    May 07, 2013 12:36 PM GMT
    Best mom in the world. She passed a few years back and I think about her all the time but especially on mothers day and her birthday. Couldn't have asked for a better person in my life!
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    May 07, 2013 1:00 PM GMT
    I've got the best mom! She expresses her love to me with three words....

    "Are you hungry?" icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 07, 2013 1:34 PM GMT
    Very mixed emotions . . .

    Physical and emotional illness made the last part of her life difficult forh er and for us; it truly was a blessing that she passed when she did (1979).
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    May 07, 2013 1:34 PM GMT
    Very mixed emotions . . .

    Physical and emotional illness made the last part of her life difficult for her and for us; it truly was a blessing that she passed when she did (1979).
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    May 07, 2013 1:47 PM GMT
    I love my mom. She is one of the greatest and most important people in my life. I'm so lucky my mom is my mom, she's always put my brother and I first. She's one of the best people on this planet! icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 08, 2013 7:53 PM GMT
    With all of her mistakes and flaws, can't say I don't love me mom icon_smile.gif.

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    May 08, 2013 8:03 PM GMT
    She has a lot of important jewelry.
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    May 08, 2013 8:05 PM GMT
    We aren't that close but I talk to her when I need something from her like signing something or things like that.

    She picked and chose her moments to be a real mom to us while growing up.
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    May 08, 2013 8:23 PM GMT
    My Mother died in 1992. I still miss her, and also my Father, who died in 1997.

    She was born in 1917, and lived a very privileged life until the Great Depression hit. Then her Father went bankrupt and they lost their home & everything.

    She lived all of her teen years in the Depression 1930s, in rental houses and barely scraping by, often going hungry. Her Father (my grandfather) apparently had a nervous breakdown, unable to cope with losing all his money & possessions. He became useless.

    In 1939 my Mother had earned enough money to buy her parents a home. Can you imagine such a thing? A single girl, just turned 20 with only a high-school education, buys a home in the Great Depression? When even men couldn't get work?

    In 1947 my Grandfather committed suicide. His only son, my Mother's younger Brother, had been killed in WWII, shortly after Normandy. And when his body was repatriated (returned) to the US for burial in 1947, it pushed my Grandfather over the edge.

    And so once again my Mother had to pull the family together. She then married, bringing me onto the scene in 1949.

    In the post-war years she went to college, becoming a tax attorney. But I'd be remiss to omit my Father. I wasn't the product of a mother-dominant home, a gay stereotype. My Father had his own success, and both of them held elective office at the same time, one as prominent as the other (but Republicans, gawd help me). Which is how I became so spoiled, and such an underachiever. icon_redface.gif
  • josephmovie

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    May 08, 2013 8:41 PM GMT
    A nice lady who is mainly concerned with what the neighbours are up to, ill health and the weather.

    Sigh.
  • TheBigB79

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    May 08, 2013 9:06 PM GMT
    I lost my mom a couple years ago to lung cancer. She was one of my best friends and I miss her a lot. She was the first person I ever came out to and of my biggest regrets is that she never got to see me in a relationship because all she ever wanted for me was to find someone and be happy being who I am.
  • Import

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    May 08, 2013 9:07 PM GMT
    I love my mama. icon_redface.gif
    she da best
  • Beeftastic

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    May 08, 2013 9:55 PM GMT
    My mom is tough as nails and one of the smartest people you will ever meet. She was also tough to grow up with. But she has always had my back when things got rough.

  • blueyedgrey20...

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    May 08, 2013 10:00 PM GMT
    My mom is abusive and just mean so i dont care. Shes just gone to far on many occasions. Mom i hope you learn to treat your own family members better and stop making my apologise for shit i dont do.
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    May 08, 2013 10:13 PM GMT
    My mom passed away a little over 5 years ago and there's not a day that goes by when I don't think of her.

    She was a wonderful mother. She always put my brothers and myself before herself. She used to deliver newspapers very early Sunday morning and I would help her while I was in Middle School. Most 12 year old boys wouldn't like to wake up at 3 AM on a Sunday morning to help their mother work, but my mom made it fun. She would put on my favorite radio station for us to listen to, and she would sing along with me to Matchbox Twenty, Marcy Playground, Train, Aerosmith, etc and about half way through she would scrap together whatever loose change she had and buy me a freshly baked mini pie from a bakery that was on her route.

    Even though she didn't have a lot of money she would buy a ton of groceries when I would come home from college. I would bring home my dirty laundry to do and I would yell at her when I saw her sneaking into the laundry room to do them for me even though I used to tell her that I was a big boy and could do it myself.

    When I was preparing to get my drivers license my '93 Geo Tracker was hit and totaled while parked outside our house. I was devastated. A day or two later my older brother rear ended someone and totaled his car. Since he was commuting to college my mother said that he took priority. I understood but was still angry. We went to a used car lot and my mom told my brother that he was getting the cheapest car on the lot. Being a 17 year old teen who was pissed at the world, I started wondering around on my own. I was looking at the cars and then saw a '95 Nissan King Cab XE pickup truck. I got in it, popped the hood, pretended to drive it, everything that a guy would do to a car. I was looking at it for a good half hour. My mom yelled over telling me it was time to go. I walked towards her and she threw something at me. It was the keys to the truck. She bought it for me on the condition that I take a month or two to learn how to drive it before my test. Always worried about my safety. I still have it almost 10 years later and it runs like a champ.

    But she was also a wonderful, giving person. While I was in high school my older brother and I had a mutual friend whose mother was dying of cancer. It was very stressful for our friend, and our mom would welcome him into our house anytime he was feeling overwhelmed with being the big brother of the family. When my mom learned of our friends moms passing she sent a card and donated a decent amount of money to a cancer charity in the name of the family. When our mom passed, this friend was the one that was there for us the most.

    When I decided to come out to my mom I was so filled with anxiety that I didn't eat for 2 or 3 days prior. I told her I wanted to talk to her and we went up to her bedroom and I told her I was gay. The first thing she said was "don't think that this means you can't give me grandchildren!" We both cried (I swear I'm not lame) and she hugged me. She didn't care one bit as long as I was happy. It wasn't weird for her. She loved me no matter what.

    I try to display all the positive traits that my mom had but I've come to learn that it is pretty much impossible. I'm lucky if I can be half as nice as her. Half as giving. Half as understanding. Half as good of listener. Half as comforting. Half as generous. Half as courageous. But I'll sure as hell try to.

    Love you mom.
    (sorry about the long book everyone)
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    May 08, 2013 10:19 PM GMT
    I want to thank you mom for all the support you have given me, for the wonderful memories I was so fortunate to have.

    Just want to say mom, I love you so much, even though I wasn't able to have the compassion you possess, I was able to have your strength to speak my mind, and to fight for what I believe in. Thank you.